Really sorry you're having to endure this pain at such a young age. It probably helps that you're active with your job and your family, but there may still be some specific muscle weaknesses that could be worked on. I also have DDD in my neck and have benefited from deep tissue massage, strengthening exercises and PT. You may want to consult different PTs as they all have unique approaches and one may work better for you than another.
It might also be wise to exhaust the non-invasive treatments before undergoing surgery. Hopefully you really trust your medical team. Praying you get some relief and solid solutions. Blessings to your family, jenneal.