pm doctor issues

hi new here. alot of the posts are almost the same as to what i have been thru and still dealing with. first let me say because of my stroke i now type with one hand 1 finger so caps, punctuating, is hard for me to do properly.
so if this offends anyone i'm sorry so please don't leave rude comments be nice thanks.

i had a stroke 5 yrs ago effecting my left side. i am also diabetic so i get a double dose of pain to try to deal with.
since the get go i have been treated like a second class citizen, both by family and medical and rehab. so during the 5 yrs up till now i just go with the flow because what else can i do? i live in a wide spot in the road in ar. closest pm doctor is 1.5 hrs from me so its a 3 plus hr rd trip to go once a month. sometimes more times a month. i lost my family dr because of my husbands issues with him because of the pharmacist. she didn't like my hubby, talked down to him, refused to refill meds that was due to fill the next day. accused him of dr hopping because he had a prescrption for 8 oxy from dentist and 2nd opinion dr. he has bulging/herniated disc in back. so she called my/our dr told him hubby was going all over getting pain meds, called the 2nd opinion dr told him the same thing. so my dr fired us, and other clinic, who hubby was going to start using, banned us from using them. so now i have no regular dr, go to er when pain is so bad or a dr 45min away who does not write narcs.
now i go to pm dr in bigger city, 1st visit he verbally threatened me because hubby took ONE of my pills. geez i didn't know about the new/updated DEA laws. 2nd visit i was so afraid to go because i thought he might have me arrested. i canceled the visit had to get courage up to make another appt. the next few went ok the n the issues started like, got to come back in a week, meds for as needed break thru pain didn't show in pee test. i am one don't need it i don't take it. so was there this past thurs 2/12 and go again 2/19.
i have had one thing after another with this dr from 1 to 3 hr wait, got out of hospital with a acute fracture 2 or 3rd vertebra had to sit 3 hrs they wouldn't get me right in. ignored me more or less. getting chewed out lectured by npt because of a er visit. i asked her not to lecture i was in severe pain just wanted to go home. severe pain that day. she gets up runs to dr told him i was rude/mean to her so here they come i was in lobby and dr told me he was going to let me go because he doesn't tolerate misbehavior towards his staff. i started to cry, in pain, humiliated, AND I WAS NOT RUDE OR MEAN....and looked over at her and she was throughly enjoying the discomfort i was in wanted to slap that smirk right off her face. needless to say i had to apolagize to her.
i am 67 yrs young, a certified alcohol drug councelor, taught classes on abuse, worked in courts for dwi offenders, so i really am not one to deliberatly be rude or mean. i asked not to see this nurse practioner and here she comes i was given no choice.
now what to do? any advice would be greatly appreciated. another pm doctor 2.5 hrs away, regular family drs about stopped writing pain meds because of DEA. sorry about the longgggg post and misspelled words its starting out to be one of those days.
advice please and thank you

In the world of pain management, you can not EVER share your meds. They are yours and yours alone, so I am not surprised that the doctor was upset that your husband took one or any of meds prescribed to you.
If you or your husband were getting medications for pain, then he/ you has to contact the doctor, before filling any prescriptions for pain medications first. It doesn't matter if it is from a dentist or an ER.
Filling prescriptions early is a huge no no as well. If your husband was getting meds from multiple sources, you "shared" meds with him, which is illegal and dangerous, your breakthrough meds aren't showing up in urine testing is a big problem.
Did you bring the bottle to show that you had all of the breakthrough meds? If not, and they don't show up in the testing, the doctor and nurses are going to be suspicious.
The things that have occurred would have gotten a patient dismissed in most pm practices.
Going to the ER for chronic pain is not considered an emergency . It is best to try to manage flare ups at home, using your medications ,ice, heat, rest etc.

Post Edited (mrsm123) : 2/17/2015 8:34:03 AM (GMT-7)

There are no federal or state laws that say a Femily/General have Practice Dr or any other type of dr can't write pain meds It is up to each dr to write rxs for each patients as they wish. I don't know where this idea that these drs can't write pain emds, but it is not correct.

You must go by your drs rules. If you sign a Pain Contract, which almost all Pain Drs require now, even though it is not law, you need to read it and get a colpy if the contract to take home with you. Securing your meds, not taking a pain rx from any other dr, tox screens, etc are all standard now days. You may or may not be able to find a dr who will manage your pain. Any new dr will want a copy of your medical records from your previous drs. You may want to get a copy of those medical records for you and your husband so you can read exactly what they say. That way, you may be able to better understand why drs won't accept either of you.

Post Edited (Mercy&Grace) : 2/17/2015 11:02:46 AM (GMT-7)