Posted 11/8/2011 12:22 PM (GMT 0)
PrincessJo, I had my first daughter after a 5 year struggle with infertility. That was before my IBD diagnosis, so I can't say whether having an autoimmune disease made the process harder. Going through IVF is hard no matter how you slice it, and my best advice to you is to find a support group to help you through it all. I did my IVFs starting in 1996, and found my support network online, although the web was just a baby then - the women I met online are still my friends. Almost all of them succeeded in building their families through IVF, some eventually chose adoption, but we're all now raising kids and still helping each other out.
After the birth of my first daughter we started a new round of IVF when she was 15 months old (I was 38 then and not getting any younger). We did not succeed and I was d.o.ne. with ART. My husband convinced me to go one more round, but in the midst of waiting for my body to settle down from the failed IVF I conceived spontaneously and had my 2nd daughter in 2002. During that time of trying/failing/getting a surprise pg I knew I had IBD and was trying to figure all that out. I couldn't tell if any of the IVF treatments affected my bowel disease.
But here's something I can tell you - pregnancy was great for my sacroileitis. Having that huge uterus to support my pelvis was awesome. Post pregnancy was awful though, as my core muscles were not able to keep up with the baby's weight and activity level, and I ended up doing a lot of physical therapy when my kids were small. And the post-partum joint pain, especially in my feet, was remarkably bad. And the post-partum IBD flare.
The general rule of thumb for women with autoimmune disease is that 1/3 will flare in pregnancy, 1/3 will go into spontaneous remission, and 1/3 will have no change. For me, the IBD was gone during pregnancy but my asthma was difficult to control. Post partum is when I had the most difficulty with IBD (and that's how I got diagnosed, too, after my first daughter was born).
I wish you the best of luck with IVF. Use the CDC's website to help you understand which ART practices in your area are best suited for your particular set of issues. Get a support group lined up. Get ready for the emotional rollercoaster of the hormone shots. And get ready to be a mom!