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Posted 6/6/2014 11:25 AM (GMT 0)
Hi well i'm in 7-th grade.I live in Bulgaria and here we do a really inportant exam.The results will determent wether i will go to high school or stay in my old school.The exams are bulgarian and math.I have 4.900 on bulgarian witch is a 5 and have 2.000 on math cry i tried to go to high school with my desiese.We did verything but my desiese wasn't in the lists so they didn't approved me.They sayd that i have to have brain desieses to pass. -_- And now nothing can be done.I've lost hope...I'm not a bad student but yet i failed at the most inportant exam in my life.I won't go to high school.I won't change my inviroment,i won't have good friends i won't be happy.I feel like a failure.And when i look at somewone i asay to myself"They will go to High School and i won't".I didn't think this would happen.All i needed was two points to sucseed.And now i don't know what to do.To enjoy my fate,to think about it.....I even had suicide thoughts.What can i do to change this?Nothing....I'm even worried that this will effect my health as well. shocked sad cry

Post Edited (texikka) : 6/6/2014 5:29:22 AM (GMT-6)

Posted 6/6/2014 2:42 PM (GMT 0)
It seems ridiculous that a test given on a day when you are not feeling well should be the one and only opportunity to set your future path. I know you asked about an excuse for your illness, but I think you should try again. Were you feeling poorly when you took the exam?

In future you should consider not sitting for an exam unless you are confident that you are healthy enough to do it. How did your Crohn's disease make your scores low?

What school choices do you have for next year? Is there an apprenticeship you are interested in?
Posted 6/6/2014 4:29 PM (GMT 0)
I'm so sorry you're dealing with all of this! Is there any way you could have a doctor communicate with the school and let them know how difficult your disease is? It seems unfair that they would only consider brain disease.

Is there anyone you can talk to about all of your feelings? It all sounds quite overwhelming, and you deserve support. Please don't consider harming yourself. Often, things that seem like the end of the world turn out to be solvable problems.

Sending you best wishes.
Posted 6/6/2014 11:49 PM (GMT 0)
Sorry dear that you have to go through all this. Agree w Operatic that your doctor could talk to the school admin or whomever is in charge of this exam. He could explain to them your condition and that they shouldn't consider brain diseases to affect your performance on an exam; Crohn's could sometimes be more debilitating. Isn't there any opportunities to resit the exam in the near future? Can't you write a petition along w a doctor's certificate explaining what Crohn's is?
Don't think of suicide; you shouldn't. You are now frustrated but things will go on well.
{{{Hugs}}}
Posted 6/9/2014 1:20 AM (GMT 0)
So sorry for what you're going through. Agree with the previous posters, that you should try to have your Doctor speak on your behalf to the school administration.

I really never want to hear a young person like yourself use the word "suicide". Please, Please, Please understand that while this is a major dissappointment in your life right now, it will pass, and you WILL go on to do great things. You WILL conquer this disease, and the setbacks that sometimes come with it.

Please try to be positive. You have you're whole life ahead of you. It's so hard to see right now, but in the near future, this will just be and unfortunate memory. You have many, many happy times ahead.
Posted 6/9/2014 3:26 AM (GMT 0)
I'm sorry about your exam. I'm from the United States and I'm not familiar with your laws in Bulgaria concerning school. Are you saying that you failed the exam that would have allowed you to go into high school and that you will have to repeat the 7th grade? That happens to students here too.

I missed my whole senior year in high school due to being sick and for other reasons. I was hurt and embarrassed when I had to drop out, but I couldn't help it at the time. I had to wait two years before I could take classes at home from a university in order to finish and get my high school diploma, but I did it and I made top grades. I actually liked taking classes like that, so it turned out better for me.

I have a friend who failed a year in elementary school when we were children. My friend has a very high paying job now and travels all over the world. He didn't let what happened to him in childhood ruin his life.

My father only went through the third grade here in America. But he could read and write and he worked hard at his job, and even became a supervisor where he worked. I was always very proud of my father. I was not ashamed of his not having a better education. He kept learning things the rest of his life. He was loved by us and it didn't matter to his family.

I understand the suicide feeling. I've lost a sister and her daughter to suicide and I have had those feelings myself at times, but you have fight against that feeling with all your might. Your life is worth more than your going to high school next year. You are deeply hurt and you may feel hurt for a long time, but it will get better.

Sometimes bad things happen to good people. Life is unfair at times. Sometimes it's very very unfair. But you just keep doing the best you can. You keep talking to us here if you can. I'm not always on here, but we will try to help you if we can. I'll pray for you. -Joy

You amaze me that you can write in English so well! You are smart!
Posted 6/9/2014 8:16 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks to everybody for their support :) .My doctor you see is in the capiutal city Sofia.And she is bisy with other kids so she couldn't go to talk to my shcool principal.I went to the ministry of education today(when i wrote ministry i was thinking of the ministry of magic :D) and they sayd that nothing can be done.To JaSanne i'm so sorry for your loss...And yeah i can write and talk English better than anyone else in my shcool.I had an English exam and aced it!I had 35 points from 35.The thing that bugs me is that i won't go to the place i wanted,because i failed.And that i will probably have to learn something i don't want to.The kids in school often make jokes...I've always felt so insecure and tiny compared to them.I'm really little because of Chron's.Sad-there isn't any other exams that I could go through to go to High School.It's so frustrating...To think that only one grade will determent my intelligence and future 4 years...I've been trying even in the past to cut myself.But i couldn't.Health is everything to me and besides i'm scared of doing it.But the five most inportant things to me are-my dreams to come true,my family,my health,my education and feeling happy.To kazbern well i didn't feel bad when i took the exam,but i was how do i say it....feeling anxious.And i HAD to take the exam,because as i sayd,there is no second chanse.The school choices for next year are going in 8-th grade in another ordinary school and then i'll have to study something i don't want.I sooo wanted to change my enviroment and people.And now i'll study with the shcool dropouts that don't study one bit.They will act like idiots and i'm probaly going to be the only kid there who knows why it's going to school.The Crohn's kind of affected my education.I've been in hospitals this whole year and the past one untill i made it to remmission.I had 5 operations and went trough so much pain.It's sooo sad ,not being able to say anything to the ones who are healthy and laught at you.They don't understand what they have...There's a party this friday for our graduation but i don't know if i have to go or not.I don't have anything to celebrate...And everyone will look down at me.Sorry for my really long comment,i usually write my own books and sometimes i get too in to it :D.I've considered going to a psyhologist in Wednesday.
Posted 6/10/2014 3:07 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Texikka,

Your description of school life is a lot like what most of us have experienced. It was a long time ago for me, but peer pressure is still the same. Some of us get hurt by others, but that's part of life no matter where you live. We may sit down and cry for a while, we may never forget, but we still have to persevere. There will always be those who enjoy watching others fail, but they are wrong in doing that. You do the best you can and don't let what others think stop you.

When I was in school, we had no choice but to go to the only school in our area. There were no special schools. There still isn't. They have Gifted and Talented classes, but the school in my area actually got reprimanded a few years ago for making those classes too easy for those students. The regular classes were harder.

Here in America, when you go to a university, those special schools will not help you do better or get into a university more easily. Most of the universities go by college entrance exams, such as the ACT. And you can take those exams several times to see if you can get a better score. So special schools don't always mean a lot.

You have too much suffering to deal with because of your Crohn's disease. Please don't make yourself suffer more. Your health is more important. You are more important.
Posted 6/10/2014 2:49 PM (GMT 0)
Hi, You keep trying. Things will get better. I was diagnosed with crohns when I was 15 and missed a lot of high school. Actually failed grade 10 and had to re take it. When it was exam time in grade 10 I failed most of them due to my crohns. So I know how you feel. I went to college eventually and graduated with my ECE and Office Administration ( I majored in medical). I also took some coaching course and now part time teach figure skating. So you will do great things to. It just takes a while. Take care of yourself and you are in my prayers.
Posted 6/10/2014 5:36 PM (GMT 0)
Hey again guys.I found another way to go to High School.I talked with the principal of the shcool i want to go and she said,that i have to study 8-th grade in my old school,study English for 8-th AND 9-th grade for one year AND study a totally new second language for 8-th and 9-th grade for 1 year...I don't think i can do it.....And then i'll be able to go to the High School i want and i'll be in 10-th grade.But it's too much stress and is it worth it?When i graduate from school i want to go live in the capital and be in the Academy of Acting and Art.I want to be an actress one day.Not a famous one(well if i become famous okay :D) but to just do something i love.I've been atending acting lessons and even won an award.But now there's something else that bugs me.....In the Academy lists they say that you don't have to have a desiese that could be affecting your studying and living normally. :(
Posted 7/22/2014 5:50 PM (GMT 0)
You can totally do it, Texikka. You're feeling good and you should strive to achieve your goals.
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