My husband is giving up

Hi everyone, I am a caregiver to my husband who has diagnosed with crohns' for 12 years now. We have been together for 8 years and has recently married. But the title of husband and wife seems to be too heavy to my husband. We had a long distance relationship for a year and half then finally got married. We are both going through all kinds of stress from each other also the surroundings. We can no longer take it anymore and want a divorce. But I don't believe this is a right decision to make when we are in the middle of great stress. We are still living together. This is stressful to me cause my mental health is not stable. Meanwhile, my husband stress level is rising everyday cause I am not being supportive enough and his family is causing all kinds of dramas.

This is my first time posting on forums. I think I just need some assurance from people who can relate to my situation. I understand it's my great responsibility to stay supportive and positive. But it is just extremely difficult when I am having a stressful life as well. We lost the trust from each other and now it's falling apart. I can literally see my husband is giving up and I know I am responsible to this.

I don't know.

Hi Gum by 44, thank you for your suggestion. I will try that

I pray to God that both of you will get through this. I pray that you will stay together. My fiance and I had a very difficult time last year as I was in the hospital. The stress was too much for him, and he did something that caused trust on both sides to fray. But somehow, God helped us through it all, and my fiance now believes in God when before he did not. I don't know if you believe, and I hope you don't take offense to what I said. I just want you to know that I care.

You deserve better than that, Scum. Why would you pick that name for yourself, anyway? You deserve a wife who will be with you forever, in sickness and in health. That isn't too much to ask for. I ask that my spouse loves me and God. I ask that my spouse love others, and I try to do the same. Your wife did not respect you and she did the wrong thing. She did an evil and selfish thing. And it's not ok.

I suffer from crohns. my boyfriend of 7 months don't understand fully the pains and issues that we experience. it causes stress, which cause flares. But after we calm down, and talk about it, and plan a day when I'm feeling good, we do something we both like. it eases the stress n puts spark back into "us" it seems to help. romantic dinner n movie cuddling on couch. candles (lavender best) and just reconnecting. don't forget to give you time to relax also. its hard being caretaker of CD patients. my mom had it for years before I was diagnosed with it. I knew what to expect and told Michael straight up what to expect. he gets upset over fact that I'm in pain all the time, and nothing works to help me. don't give up. talking to therapist good idea. finding CD support group locally to talk and get advice great escape for hour or two. know that heas ffrustrated w CD as you are. as for his family butting in, try to include them in care of husband. ask advice. you don't have to take it, but maybe if they see you reaching out, they would be able to back off some. might work.