What to expect after abscess/fistula surgery?

Hello! I had a perianal abscess (internal) with 3 fistulas all occur within the last 2 years. I had it drained and was off work for 6 months and unable to do much. No sitting, laying on my back.
Do you have any setons?
Sexual experiences for me weren't comfortable nor was I feeling much like partaking as I had a drain and setons.

I suffer from Chronic abscesses and fistulas. Fistulas are evil. I currently have 3 including a recto-vag.

You don't say if you have crohn's or what kind of fistula surgery you will have.

Generally, you can't lift anything for 6 weeks but it depends on the type of surgery. You can purchase a "donut" to sit on after, especially during the car ride home. Keep the area exceptionally clean. Use a spray bottle after every bm to thoroughly clean. Frequent sitz baths will also help. Aside from that pain killers, good movies, pillows, treats and lots of TLC from loved ones will help

Good luck!