abcess drainage for son not great...and not successful

 JOhn went in to have abcess drained with ct scan guidance....they now are sure of abcess..about 5 cm....and pretty sure fistula also. They gave him some Adavan....although the needle not bad...pressure from trying to put in drain he said hurt.Then after all that they could not get the drain in cause when they tried the abcess colapsed and they lost the tube...which they later retrieved. Now they want to rescan in two days and try again to put in drain. My son is losing it..and i am getting there myself...this is day 7 in the hospital and we ARE NO CLOSER TO RESOLVING HIS ISUES. This desease really ****,and when I look at my sons sad face it breaks my heart. THANKS for letting me vent...Deese

Hi Deese,

I am so sorry to hear that your son is having such a hard time. I know what you mean when you say the look in his face makes you sad! When my son was dx with this *******Disease, I use to look in his eyes and see the worries. As a mom, you have to be strong for him, since he looks up to you and puts his total trust in you, that is the only thing that will relax him, is to know you are there for him. I also understand that you're losing it. Maybe it's time to take a little break from the hospital for you. If you have been there all along, it is starting to take the better of you. I don't know if you have a relative who could come in and spend some time with your son and you could go home and recharge your batteries. A few hours is often what you need. I hope this is a possibility for you. You will feel and think better after a little break and then your son will feel your energy level being up and his will go up also and it will give him courage.

Please know that I am sending you positive energy and I really hope your son gets better very soon. I just wish I could give you a big hug and a shoulder to cry on, as I know that as a mom, we take it at heart. But please remember if you're better your son will be better too.

Keep faith and take care of yourself. We are all with you and sending healing vibes your way!!!

Sad Mom!

I am so sorry that you and your son have to go through this. I am a little confused about this whole abcess thing because when I had mine it was drained by opening an incision in the skin. Where is your sons abcess if I may ask? I am imagining that the drain is used to have the abcess drain outside the skin instead of inside the body?

Hang in there, I send you and your son prayers and well wishes! =)

When I had a drain placed in my abscess after my ostomy Sx they sedated me with fentanyl and versed. I was out cold and I am one who needs more meds due to resistance from many years of pain meds. Maybe they should try a different coctail to sedate him. I was literally out cold and didnt feel a thing. The drain tube did hurt after and the dressing they had on me was terrible. They actually had to change drains on me since the other was hurting do to size. I forget if it was too big or small but I was also having drainage around the drain tube which excoriated my skin. Since it was draining badly around the tube I had to change the dressing daily and they had one on that was supposed to last weeks. Needless to say changing that type of dressing daily made the skin worse. After an additional CT the nurse changed the dressing to a gauze dressing. With this I was able to use neosporin plus pain around the drain tube and it healed up and the severity of pain lessened. I must say though I snagged the line a couple times and that caused severe pain. After I got home after my reversal surgery I was bagless all around. I still walked around the house and mimicing holding the bag as to not catch it etc for a few weeks til I got use to not having bags attached to me. I had the drain in for 4 months so I had gotten use to doing certain actions to not snag the line after a few times of snagging it making it hard to break those habits after returining home.