Kinda OT:feeling sad

It is always hard to hear anything bad about our children and I'm sorry for your pain. I do know that things are much better now for delayed children than they used to be as evidenced by the early childhood program. I would try to take the fact she was able to learn to walk as a positive sign, that is a lot of gross motor skill. Also the fact that her cognitive score is so high is wonderful. She will be able to learn. I wish there was more I could say to comfort you but I think it was just take some time. There are some great programs out there and I'm sure you'll be able to find them.

Jennifer,

I know it's so hard to hear news like this about your daughter, but I want you to take a deep breath and give yourself a pat on the back for doing what needs to be done to get her the help and resources she needs. I'm an early childhood educator/administrator. Believe me when I say that all children have the capacity to grow, thrive and most of all respond to nurturing, attention, support and love. Whatever her path may be, she is so very lucky to have you as her mom. I know she's going to amaze you.

I am so sorry that you are having to deal with this.It is hard to deal with and when it's a child it just makes it even harder.I know one thing your daughter is very lucky to have a mom like you and no matter what your daughter will know that you love her and that you will all way's be there for her and will help her.Please let us know from time to time on how your daughter is doing.

I can relate to your daughter anything and everything was wrong with me. Including developemently disabled the only thing i learned quick was talking and my parents are going crap lol poor souls. Anyway I made it through she can to best of luck to her you and your family.

Well...Mama, i think you know i don't pray too much...but you and jasmine are in my thoughts.

as you know, i am only raising a Chihuahua now, I can't imagine the struggles all you parents face raising children while dealing with your own disease.

In a way, it seems so unfair that you had to go through so much while pregnant, yes, you survived...but now your daughter is having to have her share of difficulty! what did she do, huh? but i hope that while you have surely felt that way, you don't keep blaming yourself. From what i know of you, your daughter is #1 in your life. She is very blessed to have you as her mom. we don't have control of some things in this life, but I know you would do anything for her without even thinking about it....how can you blame yourself when you are doing everything you can?

I have twin nephews (born on my b-day!) who both have significant developmental problems. Raising them is definitely a challenge, but they are loved very much, and, therefore, they are happy boys! You are a loving person, and so I know Jasmine is a happy girl too!

here is something i saw on the web this morning....the anology might help a little, especially since i know you are a plant lover....Keep your head up!

it's not too long, so i am gonna post it all instead of just the link.....sorry mods, for taking up the server space
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Lessons from a Zen gardener

Our group of neighbors meets occasionally over coffee and cupcakes. I don’t remember the subject, but on this occasion our gardening expert had his turn to speak. The talk was related to love, and his view was that love involved giving.

As his example, he took the flowers of summer. They produce their seeds, containing the essence of themselves, and give them away. They send the seeds out into the world without any certainty of how many will land on fertile soil and sprout. They send their seeds out without knowing whether their efforts will be welcome or appreciated.

I’m unable to capture the effect this comparison had on members of the group. It was a profound insight into how we toil in all humility, without knowing if any of our efforts will be appreciated or welcome, or if any will land on fertile soil.

And yet we plug away day by day, week by week, with a small and not too sure faith that we are building something greater than ourselves.

The following week, our gardener friend brought in samples of seeds from his yard and garden. The bean seeds were interesting to look at. They were twisted, dried up husks that had split open. He explained that the husks twisted as they dried so that the seeds would spill out, hopefully planting themselves to lie dormant over winter, waiting for another spring.

He compared this to the stresses of life that make us twist and turn, but force us to relinquish and reveal our inner gifts.

We haven’t had any more homey show and tell programs since then, but it sure makes you look differently at the common seed.