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Posted 11/19/2007 4:08 AM (GMT 0)
This post is in remembrance for all of you that have suffered a loss of a love one this year.

The holiday season can be pretty rough on us with the CD and emotions can run amuck when you're feeling such pain and discomfort yourself.

This is my first holiday season without any immediate family members to share it with and I'm sure I'm not alone.  Sure, I have my husband, kids and their spouses and we'll all have special memories to remember this year too, which I don't mean to seem ungrateful for in the least.  I just find it hard not to have anyone around that remembers my childhood holiday memories.  It hurts and I'm sure others feel this way this time of year too.

I wish for each of you that is in this particular position, that you find moments of peace, love and comfort throughout the season that will ease your pain. Know that you are loved and time will heal the hole in your heart and that as long as you remember you're loved one is never far away.

You are the building block of their legacy and only you can share them with future generations that will never know them.

Posted 11/19/2007 5:33 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you So Much!

I agree with you. This Holiday will be sooo hard without my grandmother but it is a new time for my family to start new traditions.

May us with Crohn's feel better this Holidays Season!
Posted 11/19/2007 7:40 AM (GMT 0)

Wow, broom, that was very poignant.  I can't imagine how difficult it must be to have your first holiday season without any immediate family members.  As much as people love to gripe about another "round of holidays with the fam," it's like a shovel to the heart when they are gone.  As every year passes and family members become older and sicker, it is heart-wrenching to realize how much you will miss them when they are gone.

As I embark on a trip eastward to visit my own mother and father, who was diagnosed a year ago with prostate cancer, I will keep your thoughts in mind, for myself and for everyone...this is precious time we have with our families.  Thank you for raising awareness to this.

Posted 11/19/2007 8:51 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Everyone,
It has been 11 years for us. We had to leave family and friends and have been here on Vancouver Island for 11 years alone....just my two daughters and I ....and no snow.! It has been extremely difficult . My girls would start grieving about one month before xmas .....I KNOW how lonely and isolating it can be. We would get invitations from well meaning friends here, ; wonderful people that hated to see us alone on xmas...and we would usually oblige. But it was never the same. It was like having to fake being cheerful for the time we were at someone else' s house....the loneliness and emptiness would just hit us even harder when we came home. This year will be happier though. We are finally able to phone family back home which will make such a big difference , to be able to at least hear their voices....and we will have our new baby girl , Emmalee, which is due any day now. She will be the highlight of our xmas. Our little xmas miracle.

For all those of you who find xmas and the holidays difficult and lonely , for whatever reason....I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.
Posted 11/19/2007 12:46 PM (GMT 0)
Broom....thank you for expressing this so beautifully. I feel for you on this holiday. I lost my mother last year and the holidays have not been the same. I still have several brothers and sisters, nieces and nephews, but they are all getting older and I live 1.5 hour away from the closest one. My brother had a heart attack this week--he has the same issues my mother had when she passed. My almost 80 year old Dad had another biopsy on his ear to have more cancerous tissue removed. I feel I am losing my family too. I am the youngest so I lose more family feeling each year.
I do not have children and that makes the future look bleak for holidays.

I am determined to share as much family as I can while I can. I will keep track of my nieces and nephews--I am the youngest aunt so I am a sort of bridge between the two generations. Celebrate the holidays--even if it is with family that is not blood relations. Share the family feeling with the person who holds the door for you at the mall, smile to your waitress and keep spirit in your heart
Posted 11/19/2007 3:03 PM (GMT 0)

Wow! This one really hurts... I lost my Mom this year in February to colon cancer. I was taking care of her ever since she was diagnosed (I was there with her when the doctor told her). My Mother's brother (my only uncle) died in January from a heart attack. Then in June my 21 year old son was dx with crohn's. My first taught was calling my mom and cry when I found out about my son and it was devastating for me to come to term with the fact that she is gone and I am going to have to go through this on my own. Following all this, I am in a depression and I also now have panic attack. I am off work and feel like a total mess. As the Holidays are getting closer, my panic attacks are more frequent and I find myself waking in the middle of the night unable to breathe and having to go outside for air. Anyways, I am not sure how I will cope with the Holidays this year, but I am glad the year is ending, it was not a good one for me!!! confused

Posted 11/19/2007 3:24 PM (GMT 0)
I too have lost my best friend ...My Mom and....... my dad is suffering with the same DD as she had .....
Family and Holidays are just not the same w/o her here with us but I will try to put a smile on my face and keep the tears in my heart for my daughter's sake .......

Thanks for this post .......

Sad Mom
I suffer from anxiety and panic have for many yrs if you need to talk come to a/p forum or email me I am here I know how it feels ....
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Be well and love .......not just on holidays ..always ...LYN
Posted 11/19/2007 7:13 PM (GMT 0)
Hi I feel very lost at times, I lost my little Brother this year and the last time I saw him I was wishing him a Merry Christmas there are times I'am sure he is here with me encouraging and trying to lift my spirits ,I see his face and will forever feel his love and the few momories we shared in later years are treasures far better then what I would never of had if not for knowing him. It is hard to not share in the past again but we share in our hearts where love continues for all time. The body is not meant to last forever but the spirit is. Love ,peace and the joy of living are all things still within our spirit. Be of good cheer Broomhilda for nothing takes away from the past we only learn to extend ouselves as life is meant to. lol gail
Posted 11/20/2007 1:48 PM (GMT 0)
I know this post was difficult for us but I'm glad it allowed us to share memories and feelings.

Now that we have that behind us to "some degree" I sincerely wish everyone a Happy Holiday season!

Try to behave with the trigger foods will 'ya!! I don't want to come on the forum in a week or two and find you people in agony over self inflicted indulgence! It's already started here....my neice is making "Aunt Gayle" her famed chocolate cheesecake! Now you know I HAVE to have a slither of it! She's only 15 and I'm afraid I'd break her heart if I didn't. Ugggggggghhhhhhh! I tried to remind her to use no fat milk & cream cheese but we all know how that ended!
Posted 11/20/2007 2:24 PM (GMT 0)
This is my 9th Thanksgiving without my Mom. She taught me how to cook and we did the whole feast together for more years than I can count. Now my Sister and Father can't even get back to me to tell me if they are coming. BUT, I will have a fantastic day working in the kitchen with my 2 daughters teaching them how to make the feast and telling them the stories of cooking with my Mom and Grandmom, making the family favorites and just enjoying being together.

Happy Thanksgiving Everyone.

(And it just started to snow!)
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