My hubby's insurance approved for us to go see a different rheumy, but he had to get it approved through his primary care manager (I.E. Military doctor.) He also had a consult with pain management put in by the ortho (for his broken foot/ankle.) That had to be approved by the PCM also.
Hubby's PCM that he's seen for the past couple of years recently retired. He was a good guy who cared. But he's gone now, so hubby's been bouncing around between whoever happens to be available. The last guy he saw was great.
Had an appointment today just so he could get the pain management consult in and get the referrral for the other rheumy doc. Hubby saw a guy he hadn't seen before.
BOTH referrals were denied by this jerk today.
I literally left the office in tears. I turned my back on the doctor and walked right out so I wouldn't go off on him. (I can see it now, crazy wife going off on an Army officer. Hubby would be in SO MUCH deep doo doo!) This stupid GP (who admitted he didn't know anything about any of this) didn't think it was in our best benefit to change rheumy docs now because we have a "relationship" with him. I (very politely at this point, I wasn't crying yet) explained that he seemed a little arrogant and had no tact, so it was hard to form a relationship with someone you didn't feel like you could trust. He didn't budge. Ok.....that's when the tears were welling up. So hubby then (also very politely) asked him about the pain management referral. Well, of course that wasn't needed either (even though the ORTHO referred hubby to it without either of us asking for it or saying a word because he noticed the redness, heat and swelling in his ankle.)
Needless to say, I am BEYOND pissed. Before this dipwad had even finished speaking with hubby I was collecting out stuff and getting ready to walk out.
The thing that upsets me the most about this whole thing is that neither hubby nor I are hypochondriacs. The man has NEVER gone to the doctor unless he absolutely had to. I'm the exact same. Nor am I the type of wife who normally gets all in his business, especially with the Army. We've been married almost 11 years, and I've been more involved in the past could of months than I have in the previous 10 years combined.
I also done more crying in the past couple of months than I have in the past couple of years combined. I like to think I am a pretty strong person. But I am so emotionally fragile right now, I honestly don't know how to handle it. I've always been able to control my emotions. This completely sucks.