Big argue, strained stomach

I've had a very bad night yesterday. I had a big argue with my family. I was angry and screaming most of the time and now after I woke up from sleep I feel my voice a bit tired and my stomach hurt a bit when I breath or so. My stomach is just strained because of the high tension of yesterday. Right now I'm drinking tea milk to help warm up my throat and for my stomach I'm thinking of eating yogurt and maybe soft food like Croissant, I don't feel THAT bothered by my stomach, but I don't to risk it after straining it. Should I avoid solid food like chicken for the whole day so that I won't strain it more?

How do you deal with anyone if you have Crohn's? You know you'll get upset from time to time, you know even the slightest upset your stomach will flair up. And yet you find hard time trying to be reasonable while people just drive you mad. And it's not helpful when you can't control your emotions that well. For real guys, how can you do it?

Thanks and I'm sorry to hear that. Thou I'm not sure we have it here in my side of the world. It's really hard to have stomach issues when already you living a stressful life. Last night was just bad.

P.S. Haha I love your "I am desperately trying to keep my colon" I actually did a surgery and actually took part of my colon :) and I hope all will be well with you and you would not have to go throe the same.

Stress really affects us bad. I would just be gentle with your tummy today. When I am stressed I tend to get really poopy and pukey. I too take Xanax in those stressful times. Try to eat lighter foods like baked chicken and mashed potatoes. And slowly add your regular diet back in. Good luck!

i almost always flare after "fights" with family- any screaming etc. leads me to bleeding etc the next day- i know it's coming...

Stripey, Its not always so easy to shrug stress off for everyone. I can tell you when my anxiety acts up, a walk will not help, trying to distract myself does not work. Unfortunately, I have to take a pill to get it to calm down. Please respect that it is that way for alot of folks and not so easy for everyone. I wish it was, but the mind is a powerful thing. Luckily for me this only happens every so often. JMHO

No I did not think you were disrespecting anyone, it just came off like you thought that if everyone did as you did they wouldn't need a pill. I was just saying that that doesn't work for me or some others. I have a stressful job myself, and deal with most of it pretty well, but there are times when nothing but that dumb pill helps. So sometimes that pill is required. I wish I didn't need them either, but they have been a lifesaver when nothing else worked. Sometimes I can't shut my mind off no matter what I do. Hugs and JMHO

I haven't quite found a way to deal with stress myself just yet. Cigs used to be my timeout, now I just try deep breaths (not very effective).

Lightning temper? That def describes me while on pred, but now it even seems that way off it. I can get blindly angry att random times now and that used to be only reserved for when I was on 40+mg or pred for a while... When I'm calm and thinking of what I'd call my temper tantrums I find it embarrassing. Do you think there is a lasting psychological effect from using pred for long durations on and off during ones teens and early 20s?

I'm having the same issue right now. Problems with family members. A talk that needed to be had, this person didn't like what I had to say. And now this person is being very childish and not wanting to talk to me. I'm quite close to this family member (my Mother) so this is quite stressful and it's bound to effect my Crohn's. I'm already on an anti-depressant for anxiety. It does help a lot with situations like this, but nothing is a cure all! So I'm trying to remember that I have no control over what other people do, I can only take care of myself. That and of course my medication helps. Good luck to you, I hope your guts settle down for you.

I know it's not preferred to revive an old topic and I apologize but I just wish to say thanks for everyone's help. I took your advice and took things slow and gentile depending on how I felt in my stomach and it was good. Thank you so much for your help again everyone.

Nanners said...
Stress really affects us bad. I would just be gentle with your tummy today. When I am stressed I tend to get really poopy and pukey. I too take Xanax in those stressful times. Try to eat lighter foods like baked chicken and mashed potatoes. And slowly add your regular diet back in. Good luck!

The mashed potatoes where great idea! Thanks for reminding about them.

nawlinscate said...
Although they may not have Xanax, specifically, on your "side of the world," I'm sure that they have anti-depressants. Check out the forum topic here titled "Antidepressants." They come in many varieties, and one of them may help you get through this very stressful time.

Treat your strained stomach carefully today; listen to what your body is telling you, and just eat what seems right to you.

And if things are really really bad at home with your family, you may want to get counseling--or just post here to talk about what kind of arguments you're having, what you may be able to say to your family to keep the arguments from being so bad, and what may help you to relieve some of your stress and anxiety. Many of us have been through what you're going through, and we'll keep you in our thoughts.

Thank you, that is exactly what I have done, just listened or felt it.

Counseling is not going help since I know what our problem is but it's just that we don't work on it properly. We're just like any typical modern family in the world; we are just filed with unnecessary issues. That is why I just could not stand it and I just let it out that day and said my mind about them..

JAB said...
When I got out of sugery the docs had me on over 100mg of pred for a couple days and I swear if I saw a rain drop on the window I'd tear up. That stuff is wicked.

I also know that when i had a very stressful moment with in the two days after I'd have a flare. It didn't hit right then and there always the next day or so. Usually falling back on a strict diet and completely walking the line with the meds would help out.

Good luck on your quest to find resolution. Doesn't your family know that these scenarios cause bleeding among other things??? I feel for you to have a family that overlooks this for the purpose of an argument. Sorry to make such a personal observation but that just plain sucks.

Jen77 said...
I'm having the same issue right now. Problems with family members. A talk that needed to be had, this person didn't like what I had to say. And now this person is being very childish and not wanting to talk to me. I'm quite close to this family member (my Mother) so this is quite stressful and it's bound to effect my Crohn's. I'm already on an anti-depressant for anxiety. It does help a lot with situations like this, but nothing is a cure all! So I'm trying to remember that I have no control over what other people do, I can only take care of myself. That and of course my medication helps. Good luck to you, I hope your guts settle down for you.

I'm sorry about that, Jen. I wish things will go well with you. I know how frustrating it can be, dear.

And it's complicated, JAB, that argue was mostly becseu of me. And to be fair, my family is great about my Crohn's issue, so much that sometimes they would screw things up but out of good intention (putting egg in my food for example and I can't tolerate it) what happened that day was a family issue. And sadly sometimes we handle our issues poorly, and I tried to fix things but I made it much worse. That's all. So pleas, excuse me for saying this but no need for judgments over unclear matters, but thanks for you help.

My family is great and I love them, but sadly, like any modern family in this time, we never try to trust and depend at each other even at small matters or try to understand each other. That's all. And sadly Idon't know if things will be well or not, but I hope for the better.

Post Edited (Mr.X) : 4/12/2011 9:18:32 PM (GMT-6)