Grrrr weight loss comments

I should have known this was coming.  I was in the kitchenette this morning when a coworker walked up & said " are you losing weight? you look great!"  I said thanks but it's health related.  How do I tactfully handle comments like that?  The last major flare I had while working here caused a 70 lb. weight drop and I just kept saying " oh thanks" when comments were made.  I just never know how to handle this situation.  You'd think after 30 yrs. of this DD I'm know how to handle people by now.

Thanks for letting me vent.

I would echo what Kazbern says, Try not take too much notice, if folk are genuinely concerned they will tell you,Slainte

Society is so obsessed with weight...I can't tell you how many times people that know I have crohn's have made comments about me being thin and I'm not even overly thin...I'm 5'5" and 120 lbs which is actually pretty decent, not too thin but not "big" either...I do work out regularly though so I have some muscle mass and muscle does weigh more than fat, but I do have some fat on me as well.

I know it often comes off as insensitive on the commenters part but just try and take it with a grain of salt...I've been outright insulted when a so called "friend" said she wished she had CD so she could be skinny too....well, 1) I am not skinny, I'm just not 250lbs like she is and 2) what a stupid stupid thing to wish for (having CD) how about eating properly and exercising then you may actually loose a lot of that unhealthy weight you're carrying around and hating on thin people for it.

People!

I've dealt with this for years. The first time I got sick, I lost about 35 lbs in just a few months. I was too 'shy' and worried about what people thought, so I didn't say anything. After a while though, I was REALLY sick and it became common knowledge in our small town that I truly was battling something. I had surgery, went on meds that worked and went in remission. Now, I'm in a new town, new husband and after putting on 50 lbs from being at my smallest weight (when I was really sick), I'm once again starting to lose weight. This time I'm doing it differently. One of my kids' teachers asked me if I'd lost weight. I know she was asking because she is on a diet and has struggled trying to lose. So I just flat out told her that I have Crohn's and my weight can fluctuate but as of late, I've really been having some trouble. So said she was sorry and that she could kind-of understand because her 18 year old has Lupus. So just starting up that conversation has allowed us both to free up something to another person. So from now on, I"m just going to tell it like it is. And if someone doesn't know what Crohn's is, I'll be happy to educate them. The Lord knows we need to spread the word!

I got that the other day too..you just say...thank you and go on about your day, but like someone else mentioned If you know the person in a personal level i would let them know its health related....

my favorite line is "OMG I wish i could be as skinny as you!!!".. Really? Ok, sure, have at it. I've been at a new job for about 8 months now and really had to decide in the beginning if i was even going to let it be known i have this. I don't want it to be a crutch some think i'm leaning on but i started into a flare in january and i had to let my manager know and the docs i work with. My more regular surgeons know i might bale from the room quickly by no choice of my own.