Posted 7/27/2017 5:47 PM (GMT 0)
I'm pretty open with my coworkers when I'm having a bad pain or energy day. As a therapist, I'm surrounded by people who are pretty good at reading body language, and generally can tell I'm feeling off. On occasion, I'll tell my clients I'm feeling poorly, as it isn't unusual for folks to assume my changed body language has something to do with them, and I don't want them to feel self conscious.
Often, the next day my coworkers they ask "how are you doing/are you feeling better today?" with the best intentions, and I never quite know how to answer. On one hand, saying no often leads to the look of sad/pity/you poor thing or requires an explanation that is longer than either of us is interested in. But saying "yes" is a flat out lie.
I definitely got some backlash in school of the "she's always complaining but she doesn't look sick" type, so maybe I'm more sensitive to this than most, but I think it is hard for people without chronic illness to understand that "feeling better" is relative and that there will be periods of days or weeks where I feel pretty uniformly lousy.
Have you come up with a polite way to honestly answer the question, without needing to go into more detail than you'd like to disclose?