DEVASTATED

so sorry to hear about your heartbreak. i went through a break up last month, he was not able to deal with my disease either. i am still new to this and trying all kinds of meds to try and stop my symptoms and we weren't together quite as long as you and your partner (we were together for a year and half) but it still hurt a lot that someone wouldn't stick by because i am going through a rough time right now. BUT, better to have found out now than down the road.

stay strong and please take care. *hugs*

Hugs, I am sorry to to hear about your break up. I was married and when I was diagnosed with Crohn's
and had surgery. My ex-wife could not handle my illiness. So I have stayed single because when ppl
find out about my illness they don't want anything to do with me. I have growen much stronger from this illiness. You will find somebody whom can love you with your illness and can deal with when your not feeling well.
teddybear

Hi I am sorry to hear things aren't going so well for you hope you have family or friends that will help you threw this. We are here for you when you need to talk. Chances are you will find something to help your CD . I know it isn't easy for you. I have been single for many years and have gotten by. Hoping you will find someone in time and we cain't help be sick at times. I know your strength will get you threw this . Keep in touch .lol gail

Sorry to hear that, and 4yrs too, wow! Well it's his loss in the end, what a shame to break up over this. It's not easy for us at times and everyone has hard times. I know it's hard for our bf/gfs to watch us in pain, and hearing us complain but we can't help it. Feel better and eventually you'll find someone who will love you no matter what, that's what love really is anyways, keep in touch :)

 Hi all

Many thanks for the birthday wishes and that shoulder to lean on today i just find this so hard to believe its the people that cant deal with our situation  thats got the problem god when they complain about  a headache or a sore stomach i could scream literally try coping with what we have to tolerate every day of our lives the appointments hospitals injections cocktails of meds it never ends for us a least they dont have to worry what lies ahead for them!!!!!they can eat whatever they want and not be rushed to the nearest a@e like many of us on this forum how can people be so selfish ive been asking for myself allday!!!!!!

Maybe this is the best thing that could of happened to me its me that has the crohns not him hes got his health i havent as the saying goes you dont realise how much something until its gone im not talking about my partner im talking about your quality of life some people just dont appreciate what theyve got.

im sorry for the moaning im really glad i found this forum at least we all understand what the other person goes through

i dont smoke or drink i just might now to retain my sanity lol

I am so sorry that you are going thru this heartache.  My first husband couldn't handle my sickness either and left.  I just wanted to tell you that I know there is someone out there who will love you for you, Crohns and all.  I am now married to a wonderful man who takes great care of me and loves me even thru my illness.  I pray God brings you peace and when the time is right a new and better person for you to love.  (((BIG HUGS))).

Hi You"ll get your sanity back hope your day is better today. Not a lot we can do sometimes about what others think so we just gotta keep our own thoughts going on a good track I guess as best we can. Try putting your thoughts on something else reading ,movies or maybe Christmas cleaning. I went with my teen yesterday and we found a Christ. tree so when it is time we just need to chop it down. Refocus on better things in life and you"ll get threw this. lol gail

umm therapy sounds like it might be good for both of you.

I wonder what people think when they vow in sickness and in health.

I'm so sorry this has happened to you. I was engaged and we broke up in may. I really don't think he could deal with my being sick. he also wasn't supportive AT ALL, so I don't really miss the relationship anymore. But I was horrible when we broke up. I felt like a part of me had been ripped away. and I was really sick with my crohn's and that did not help at all. the emotions stirred up the crohn's and it was rough for awhile. But it gets better. I'm be praying that you find a good support system that can build you up during this difficult time.

Hey Angelang, Happy Belated Birthday!! I have read your post and some other responses and I am sorry for what has happened to you recently. This seems like a hard time for you, but it looks like you have a lot of people that really do care about whats going on. I am a strong believer in that everything happens for a reason, and he just was not the one. If he can not accept and love you for who you are or what disease you have then he is not worth it, nor your time. Be strong and patient, you will find someone who will accept everything that you have to offer. I have to admit that I do not have Corhns disease, but I have been "seeing" someone who does have it. I am trying to be as supportive and understanding as I can, thats why I am on here trying to learn more about it. I have read about this disease online, but I figured that I can learn more from reading people's feelings and emotions about this disease. Within the past year he was engaged to a girl that I guess could not accept him with this disease because he was recently diganosed with it. They broke up the engagement and 8 months later he found me. He was very unsure, I feel, to tell me that he has it, but I really do not care. I do not judge him that he has this disease, but i am concerned that he does not want me around because he never feels well . . .(it makes me feel bad =( because i want to be around) . .He went through what you are going through now, i think, and now I am here and I think that I am asking you for advice back of how I should act. I hope that you are not to caught up with this guy because he is deff not worth it, life goes on...and remember there is always someone who is better....=) email me and we can chat....I need advice from the other side of a relationship.....here is my e-mail get to me if you can [email protected]

 hi pb

well be incontact with him since sunday but we usually text and call each other everyday anyway so thats nothing new i think he realised what he said to me when he got home on sunday everything he has in his house i put there!!!!!!!!!!!

i guess we all get the blues and when im depressed  everyone around us gets depressed as well it cant be easy watching the ones you love in pain!!!!!!!!

specially when the disease is incurable and its a chronic disease at that!!!!!

when im well i travel down to his but i have not been able to do that for a few months at least when uve been together for 4 years and you are apart it does affect your mood we hate being apart from each other but he has his job down there and ive got kelly my daughter up here who has got special needs hes realised now what it would mean to him if he lost me hmmmmmmmm he must of woke up and smelt the coffee lol.

as for myself i take one day at a time i dont plan ahead ever as you all know the disease is unpredictable so for now we are back together like we have always been now he wants to buy me an engagment ring for xmas something ill have to think long and hard about as ive been married 2x.Now im looking forward to xmas as its going to be the same as its been for the past 4 years my partner up here with his son and my daughter my mum and myself all things going well maybe he just needed to blow a fuse so to speak but truly thanks for your support at the weekendxxxxxxxxxx