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Posted 11/12/2007 2:43 AM (GMT 0)
Hi. 27/F/CF

Has anyone else had issues with finding people who believe in you? Even family wise?

All through college, people kept asking me why? Why bother, you are just going to die or end up on SSI anyway? It took me 5 years, many hospitalizations, and I graduated with an AAS with High Distinction, found a full time job, work from home, WITH health insurance, and the only Congratulations I received was a "Well, you're persistant."

This has followed me throughout my entire life. Even from people who don't know me well enough to form an opinion.

I've started to do yoga. I HIGHLY recommend this to people with CF, Diabeties, and Fibromyalgia. I started in the intro series, then moved to one on one with an instructor, cuz I asked so many questions tongue

My teacher "fought" to get me into an Advanced mediation workshop to help deal with stress, and I've gone to every class, except one due to my best/oldest friends getting married on that day (so sue me), but I was there the next week. I have been going to the Saturday class where the instructor's brother has CF, and this past Saturday, after I told her I would there, she seemed very surprised that I was there. And made the comment, "I just didn't expect to see you again."

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I don't get it, When I questioned her, and reminded her that I had told I was going to be there, all she said, "I just didn't expect to see you."

Now, I admit, that the last class I was in my fibromyalgia was throwing a fit, but I stayed the entire hour and half doing what I could, and again, I told her I would see her that next Saturday.

Does anyone else have this issue? Trying to accomplish things and people just always doubting you? MAybe it's just me. I don't know. It needs to change though

Posted 11/12/2007 3:05 AM (GMT 0)
Hello. I dont have that problem to often, my teachers dont really think I can do that much, one teacher even asked me when I was going to give up! I said "Never" And turned and left that class in the middle of the period. I never heard anything from that teacher again! One teacher really belives in me though, he says he knows I can go all the way and get a scholorship to go to medical school. My best friend tells me she thinks I'll be able to do it. She is really hepful and encouraging, she sends me all kinds of cards and things when I'm in the hospital.

I take yoga too! I love it! It's very stress reliving and helps me sort things out, I also recommend it to anyone with CF! =D

-Leah
Posted 11/12/2007 3:11 AM (GMT 0)
Oh, yeah, congradulations graduating collage, your awesome! :):):):)
Posted 11/12/2007 4:09 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks!!!!

I was quite pleased with myself. Now, 3 years later, I want to go back and get a bachelors. Scary thought.

Just have to get the medical debt more in line and find a scholorship or a student loan to help finance.

Good luck with your schooling. We are the best people to go into the medical field as we live it every day. :)
Posted 11/13/2007 7:38 PM (GMT 0)
Good luck with your bachelors! I alredy know and understand alot about the medical feild. My friends are forever asking me to help them with out science homework, we are learning about genetic diseases, something I happen to know alot about. ;) My friend asks me all kinds of questions about that stuff, and if I dont know it, I look it up! I've apparently been christened the medical expert of the ninth grade. They wont let it go, oh well, I like it, but I'm not a doctor (yet). I'm working really hard to get a scholorship. Thanks!
-Leah
Posted 11/18/2007 12:35 AM (GMT 0)
 I have come across this many times thru my 41 years of having CF. Through my experiences I've had more people believe in me than not. And as for the people that didn't believe in me, I'll give you a good example of how Karma will jump up and bite some people in the rear. Way back in 1966 when I was diagnosed with CF the Doctors told my parents that I probabaly wouldn't make it to my first birthday and that they should be prepared for an early death for me. Well my parents told the doctors to go to hell and told them that not only will I make it past my 1st birthday but I will also do all the things "normal" kids do. Now 41 years later I'm still here and the doctors are all dead. If that's not great Karma I don't know what is. Through it all I played all sports in High School and I still play baseball, football and basketball to this day. I swim and ride horses and I myself Graduated from college way back in 1993 from Jacksonville State University In Alabama. (Go Gamecocks.) Basically what I'm trying to tell you is that you're always going to have naysayers, especially from those who are ignorant about CF. I'm one of seven childen from the same two parents and I am the only one with CF. My family has always stood behind me 100%. If you experience naysayers, even if they are family members, just prove them wrong thats the best renenge there is. Keep on Breathing  yeah    
Posted 11/20/2007 2:36 PM (GMT 0)
  Hey I'm Caitlin,  and the only real experience with someone doubting me or  not believing in me was actually with my 4th and 5th grade teacher. She was nice to me mostly all the time but i started to tell after a while that i wasnt her favorite, especially since i missed school so much and was always late when i did show up. The weird thing was is that she should have known all about cf, my mom even gave out brouchers all about cf to all the teachers. But i found out later that whenever i wasnt there at school, she would tell all the students about how i had a disease and how it affected my brain somehow which made it hard for me to learn and that i was slower than everyone else. She even explained to everyone how i had to be patted on my back at home and how i would spit everything up in a bucket! eyes Anyways, at the very end of the year when i was going to switch to a better private school, she told me that i wouldnt be able to learn anything there because it would be too hard of a school for me and that she thought i should stay behind at the school with her to get more help. But in the end i switched schools and found teachers that actually helped, and got straight A's that whole year. So I totally agree with what renegademan said, just prove them wrong.

P.S I've thought of taking yoga lately to help with stress and also because i've heard it makes your body look leaner, since i'm really short tongue

Posted 11/26/2007 5:03 AM (GMT 0)
Power to all Yogis! :P
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