Which story is worse?

I have two friends and they both argue that their depressed. Could you tell me which you think is more devastating for the individual?

Story 1:

My friend's dad hits her sister and he has been brought up on charges numerous times and the Child Services has gotten involved and kicked her dad out of their house for a few weeks. Her sister used to drink a lot and has depression and threatened to kill herself so she got kicked out of school. She was placed in a hospital for the suicidal and stayed for 3 months. Recently, she was almost taken back because she took too many pills on purpose. Her mom drinks too much some times and makes things worse. And my friend herself has an eating disorder and is depressed. Basically, the whole family is in shambles. And the sister and my friend both cut themselves.

Story 2:

My OTHER friend's dad died of leukemia last august but she acts pretty okay about it. She constantly says she is depressed but she doesn't really seem it. Her mom has a new boyfriend and she can't stand him. She cuts herself too. Her sort-of-friend killed himself a few years ago and her sort-of-brother is in Iraq but he is perfectly fine and is coming home in 3 months.

Which situation seems worse?

I can't see why they would be competing on who is more depressed because depression is not something you want. It sounds like they both want attention. I am not saying that I don't think they are depressed I do think they are both severly depressed. They are both cutters and that isn't something anybody would want to be. Both situations sound sad Emilie. I don't understand what our opinion has to do with who is more depressed. If I were you I would just be there for both of them. Depression is no contest. It is not something to take lightly.

I wish your friends both the help they need to get through their situations.

hugs,

getting by

Oh yes welcome to the forum, tell us your story

Both stories are very sad,and you can encourage each person to speak with their school counselor to get help.

I am not trying to be mean or anything, but I was wondering if....maybe...one of those 'friends' were you? I know that you are young and I am also, I am 16. It seems the way people ask for help , they always have a 'friend' who has a problem, but it turns out to be them. I was just wondering if maybe one of them were you. It is ok if it is. I was just wondering. We can only help you so much. But, as for your question, both situations are bad. And both girls need help. If you know about what they are doing, you should speak up. If they cant get help, then you should tell an adult who can help them. I understand the situations of what the girls are going through. I have been there before. Just a few months ago. And to be honest, I really wished I had a friend who would have spoken up and gotten me help. It would have saved me a lot of pain and suffering.

I understand completely. If you ever need to talk, I am here for you. I think my email and messanger are all of my profile if you need them, if not, let me know on here. I would be very happy to talk to you about anything if you need it. I can relate alot so you dont have to be scared about discussing anything. I am very open and understanding, and I am not here to judge anyone. I just wanted you to know that. Take care.