Advice

Hi Paul,

I just wanted to welcome you to the healing well depression forum.  You have come to a good place, there are a lot of understanding people here.

I would definately go back to the psychiatrist and think about therapy.  To see a therapist would probably help you a lot to get your life back on track.  It is good to talk things out.

In the meantime we are here for you, so ask anything that you would like and we will do our best to come up with an answer for you.

Good luck with finding a job.

Karen

Paul welcome to Healingwell!

I know how you feel, nights like that are so hard, but that's how i joined this forum, it's good to come on and vent sometimes, it did help me.
I hope you find some work soon, and are feeling better now.

Gillian x

Hey people thanks for your replys.

I had a bad day today, it started of well enough, i went on a day course for interview techniques, the course was good and fun, people were nice, and i even participated in a mock interview, but for some reason after the course finished at 2.45PM, i felt depressed on the way home, just had a shower and ended up self harming, i want to see a psychologist, but with me its a shame thing, i know loads of people suffer with depression, but i feel ashamed of it, and find it hard to actually tell anyone how i feel, at least face to face anyway.  But another day tommorow, maybe i'll feel better.  Paul

Hey Paul,
Im new here too, also a daughter of one of the forum moderators. But a few years ago, my father passed away and i was put on anti-depressants as well as told to see a grief counciller. I didnt stick with the grief counciller because talking about it hurt to much and made me personally much to angry. Ive been on and off of the anti depressants in the past four years as things happen that cause me to become depressed. Personally, the psychatrist method just didnt work for me, i found it was easier to talk to a trusted friend, someone i knew wouldnt judge and who could make me laugh when i started to cry. It all depends really on how talking to your psychatrist made You feel. Some things that help me get along when im down are 1) watching one of my all time favourite movies 2) talking to one of my closest friends and 3) cuddling up to my cat, that ive had my entire life. I find that if i find something to do, it takes my mind of things, helps keep me happy, and stops me from thinking anything i shouldnt be. I know that it sounds a little odd, because when your done the movie or whatever method you choose the problems will stil be there, but for me, after my movie or my time with my mind off of things, im more optimistic about how i face those problems. If im babling on, and not really helping you can say so and i apologise in advance :P Good luck with the job interview, i hope you get it!
Feel better, and if you cant find anyone to talk to, lots of people are on this website to help. Take care.

Hello everyone, sorry about the lack of replying, as i've been doing a lot of job hunting over the past few weeks, i got a rejection letter back from the interview but all i can do is keep trying, on another note i joined up a site called Meetup.com and joined a film group, its good as you can socialise and get to know people, i recommend anyone suffering depression try it out, as a whole i've been feeling a lot better, its just that job hunting is a serious grind and sometimes you can feel very disheartened and rejected.  But only way is to keep trying:) - Paul

Im glad that you have not given up Paul. I got rejected from 10-15 jobs within about 3 months. It doesnt make me any less of a person and it doesnt change the skills that I have. Keep trying and you will get there... I just cant tell you when! lol

Darren