Annette said...
First is just that I don't want to be on this medication forever. I was very depressed when I started it, but I had a lot of things going on in my life that are no longer going on... I don't think I am one of those people who is just naturally depressed and needs the medicine for life. My boyfriend has also been telling me I should get off it. Now I know he is not a doctor, but he does have some good points. We are close to getting engaged and one of the things he has said is that he doesn't want me to be on it whenever we decide to have a child a few years down the road. I definitely understand that... of course I don't know anything about if being on that medicine and being pregnant is a problem.
Hey Annette,
Taking medication forever shouldn't be a consideration. Depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain which the medication balances out. People that stop their medication when "everything seems fine", usually find out that it was the medication keeping things stable, and often quickly deteriorate after stopping the medication. Think of it this way, there are many illnesses that require medication daily for life...diabetes, high blood pressure, bad cholesterol, chronic pain...this list goes on. People with these problems adjust and just consider their meds a way of life.
Next, listening to a boyfriend who hasn't done anything to cement your longterm relationship shouldn't get any input into the matter of your health and well-being. "Close to getting engaged" is about as dependable as "I'm going to start my diet on Monday" or "My New Year's Resolution is to 'quit smoking' or 'get more exercise'". Those "promises" aren't worth a plug nickel, and until your boyfriend puts his money where his mouth is, you need to depend on your own best judgement.
As for being concerned about taking medication during pregnancy sometime in the future, that may or may not play out the way you want. I spent almost eight years with my ex-fiance, which I was sure was going to end in marriage and children. Then I got dumped one day, out of the blue, with no warning at all. We had never even gotten into a single fight, but the relationship was instantly over. Eventually, I did get married to someone else, but he turned out to be autistic, and not a good parental candidate (divorced him). Now I'm 43 and single with no children. Not to sound like doom and gloom, but never make major decisions based on what you think will happen in the future, cuz things just may not work out that way.
You sound like a very reasonable, together person. As the old saying goes, "don't fix it if it ain't broke".
Best wishes,
Leigh Ann