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Posted 8/22/2008 5:31 AM (GMT 0)
hey im a 25yr old male who has a good quality of life, a great gfriend, and no real tangible problems (physical, financial, etc.). However, i am having some sort of problem in my head. for the past 3-4 years i find myself gradually losing emotions. i can laugh but not feel happiness. i can get frustrated but not mad. my thoughts are clear in my head but when i try to speak i find myself tripping over words and sounding like an idiot. i can almost feel, what i can only describe as, a weight sitting on my brow, pressing down and clouding my mental potential. intamacy between myself and others is becoming increasingly difficult. its like im locked inside my own head and i want to snap out of it before it gets worse. what do you do?
Posted 8/22/2008 9:55 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Hojo.

Could it be something from your past that is weighing you down. Maybe something you haven't worked through properly?

If not then have you tried talking to your girlfriend or a friend about how your feeling, sometimes it helps to talk to someone and that can help you with the intimacy issues aswell.

also maybe you could try something to help you relax such as yoga or some sort of meditation?
Posted 8/22/2008 11:20 AM (GMT 0)
Hi hoju

Welcome to the forum,we are very glad that you found us.

I think it might be time to get into the doctor and let them know what is going on.
It might be something from your past that is affecting you now,or it could be simply that you have something else going on that you never thought about.

I had those feelings when my depression was at it's worst,but it also was with the help of meds that I became emotionally unattached.... that is why I think going to the doctor and finding out what is going on will help you alot.

Please keep us posted on what you find out.
Posted 8/22/2008 12:10 PM (GMT 0)

I am 27 and feel the exact same way, even when I don't think I am feeling down.   My husband just asked me last week.   We had a whole bunch of nice patio furniture we were given because people were moving and my husband was excited and while I was happy I didn't feel happy or excited, and I was the one that had really been wanting some furniture for the deck.  He asked me if my emotions ever changed and really they don't.  I may get upset and just walk away but that's the only emotion I feel. 

   I also have a hard time talking, and can't keep words straight. It just comes out in a big jumbled mess.  Imay have to stop a few times and think about what I was trying to say and restart.  But I have also notice similar when I type I use the wrong words like "know" instead of "no" or something like that or just a wrong letter.

  I have not found anything to help either, but will listen if you want to talk.  It is such a relief to know I am not the only one.


Posted 8/22/2008 10:30 PM (GMT 0)
I think that some people are just more emotional than others. But the two of you might be stiffling your emotions. I think that seeing a doctor or going to counseling would help.

But in the meantime keep posting and we will try to help you the best that we can.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 8/22/2008 10:35 PM (GMT 0)
That is the same way I felt when I was really depressed. I forgot everything, didn't care, didn't have genuine feelings. My head fealt soo foggy. My doctor gave me a prescription for depression (your situation may be different but in case this helps) and all those feelings left me, not right away, but after a month on the meds.

Also a blood test is a good idea if you think it could be anything else :)
Posted 8/23/2008 4:29 AM (GMT 0)

hoju

I strongly agree with Shy, you should make an appointment to see your physician first to rule out a medical cause and if all is ok medically you may ask your physician for a referral to a therapist to discuss your feelings.

I am glad you found us and I hope we can meet you needs.  You will find the members to be very supportive.

Take care,

Kitt

Posted 8/27/2008 5:04 AM (GMT 0)
I hear what you are saying hoju... I basically have had the same thing going on for a long long time. Its probably something that you repressed your emotions on (could be from a while ago), and gradually your emotions generally have become repressed (maybe b/c of little hiccups along the way... maybe you just got into the habit of repressing your emotions?)

In any event, everyone saying you should see someone are probably right. I played stubborn on it for years (probably 8-9 years) and it never fixed itself... and it really screwed up my relationships with other people in the end. I could get along with everyone just fine, people thought very highly of me actually... but they really never knew me b/c I wouldn't let them. Nor did I feel compelled to let them know me b/c I didn't feel anything.

Knock on wood, but right now I feel emotions more regularly than I have in years. Combination of talking to people and very fulfilling work that seemed to hit the spot. (If you are wondering... work in a DA's office... its wonderous how theraputic putting scumbags in jail is).

Best of luck
Posted 8/27/2008 6:23 AM (GMT 0)
what happens when i take meds? i really dont want my feelings to be "faked' or "tricked" by some medication. i wouldnt have a problem with it if it fixed the problem then i could come off the meds. the strange thing is about this problem is that i know i have changed dramatically mentally theses past years, but i cant remember how i used to be. there are sudden flashes in my minds eye about who i was in the past, but they are fleeting, and prove to be unusable to feel any sort of realization.

as for repressed memmories and such, i never had a traumatic childhood to the best of my knowledge, pretty average i guess. is it possible for something terrible to happen several years ago that would leave a scar so deep that it would take such a long time to manifest then slowly rott away the soul? and if so, how do you find out? like hypnosis or something?
Posted 8/27/2008 10:40 AM (GMT 0)
When you take the medications, it doesn't cover up your emotions, it makes you feel better. Sometimes it is trial and error until you find what is right for you. But most of the time the doctor can tell what you need.

As far as repressed memories, you will know. They will start to surface when your mind is ready to deal with them. If there are any.

Best wishes to you

Hugs, ...Karen
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