The neverending circle of funk

Hi Gabby,  are you in therapy or are you on any a/d meds?  I think you could benefit from both. You just need to find the right therapist and the right meds.  Don't get discouraged.  It may take a few tries to get the med right.  As far as your life is concerned, we are all regretful at things that happened in the past and wish we could change it.  But the past is the past and you can't change it so the best thing to do is go forward from here and try to do what it takes to improve your situation.  You would be surprised at all the bad things I had to go through, from an abusive mother to being left one day by my ex who I had 2 babies with to having to take care of my abusive mother for 10 years as she was very ill.  And I raised my kids, had a good job and got through it all because I told myself from the start I could either sink or swim and I decided to swim and have been doing so ever since.  That is not to say life has always been easy.  I have suffered through depression for many years but I found a great therapist and the right meds so life isn't so bad anymore.  In fact it is pretty darn good.  I know you can do the same.  You just have to make up your mind and try - small steps at a time.  Don't try to do anything major.  Just do a few small things that make you feel better about yourself.  I will be thinking of you and hope you will post anytime you want to talk to someone.  I will be glad to answer you.  Try to take good care of yourself.

Soft hugs,

Aurora

Hi Gabby,

I feel for you and relate to how down you are.  I am down too right now, and just joined last night.

I am on a moderate dosage of an anti-depressant, which has been somewhat helpful; therapy I've had to forego for now due to money.

Keep in touch with us, and remember what the others have said:  we can't change our past.

And trust me, when I think about my past and all of my regrets, I can get very, very down on myself.  But logically I know we cannot go back and fix our past.  We can only try to become better people in our present and in our future, and learn from our past.

Be good to yourself, okay?

To each and everyone of you......... guilt is a wasted emotion as it serves no purpose and it cannot change the past so look to the future to become better at dealing with your problems.  Come here and talk to us.

Share ideas on how to heal, know you will hit bumps along the way but do love yourselves as the world is a better place because you live and serve within it.

Gentle Hugs

Kitt