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Posted 9/25/2009 2:04 AM (GMT 0)
I feel pretty sad lately. We just moved away from my family, I have a beautiful 6 mo. old little girl... and somehow I'm still just really struggling to feel like I'm doing anything of value. I am practically bi-polar when it comes to dealing with my husband- I don't understand how my emotions can be from just normal to the depths of despair, and then to such anger and resentment. I'm not sure if this is depression... I just feel a general lack of purpose and feel like nothing much makes me happy or pleases me anymore- and this is SOOO opposite of how I usually am. I find myself being so negative in my thoughts, and I have trouble controlling my emotions. Feeling trapped in everything I do, and that I am not pleasing those around me. and I don't know how to fix it.... I feel silly going to the doctor for this... should I? Thanks for any help.
Posted 9/25/2009 2:19 AM (GMT 0)
also, complete lack of energy and motivation. I literally could stay in bed all day. The only thing that gets me up is my baby- and sometimes I don't even want to get up for her. My eating is off and on... I don't feel hungry, and eat at weird hours.
Posted 9/25/2009 2:54 AM (GMT 0)
Hi there,

It does sound like you are depressed. And it isn't silly to go to the doctor. I think that would be the best thing for you to do.

I hope that you feel better soon.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 9/25/2009 2:59 AM (GMT 0)
Im going through a lot of the same stuff. I dont know if im really depressed either. I have an appt monday with my dr. and another appt wed. with a therapist. Ive felt this way for a couple months and its really taking a toll on my marriage so i knew something was wrong. I would see a doctor but im pretty new at all this too. This place has helped out a lot so far ( less that a week on here ). Ive found that i hadnt been as active as i used to be and just getting out and walking the dogs has helped tremendously. Im not qualified to really say a whole lot other than that. Getting off your rear can be pretty hard, but its really improved my whole attitude. Just talking about your feelings can do a lot. Call someone you trust and let them know how you feel. I made the mistake of leaning on my wife too much and it really drained her. So I guess the best advice i can give is to talk to someone and be careful not to overload someone with your feelings, but dont be afraid to talk about them either, and get up and take a walk or ride a bike. Good luck.
Posted 9/25/2009 3:08 AM (GMT 0)
This is where the counseling comes in handy. You can talk to a therapist and it doesn't overload them because they are trained to listen. Talking here does help too.

best wishes,

Hugs, Karen
Posted 9/25/2009 4:11 AM (GMT 0)
Chiquita, you're still within the time for post-partum depression, so please definitely talk to your doctor. Medication and therapy can do wonders. You deserve to feel better and your daughter deserves a happy mom.
Posted 9/25/2009 8:28 AM (GMT 0)

Welcome to HW. I totally agree with Judy on this: get yourself checked out thoroughly for post partum depression- the doctor wont think you are being silly.

Hang in there, better days ahead,

Maz XX

Posted 10/14/2009 5:56 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you so much just for listening. I went to the doctor today... and somehow just can't bring myself to admit that I might have a problem. I guess I feel kind of guilty for finding little pleasure in my life, as I have a very blessed life. I am new to this area, and unfamiliar with the doctor. But really, thank you. After reading your replies, I don't feel as insecure about letting him in on the secret- if it will help me feel better. I guess my biggest concern at this point is the cost- we are already struggling to make ends meet... and I hate to be the one to add more burden to that category... we have no medical insurance. :(
Posted 10/14/2009 7:17 PM (GMT 0)
You have to start thinking of yourself now. I notice that you are worried about burdening others with your problems. Well, you count too. You have to take care of you before you can take care of others. If you don't you will burn out.

Check with social services and the mental health facility to see if there are any programs that you would be eligable for. Often there is something that can help you out. You can get samples often for your medication.

Let us know how it goes.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 10/14/2009 8:04 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you Karen. I've always been one to go out of my way to please others. I know that I need to do this.. My husband thinks its all in my head, that all I need to do is change my negative thinking and all of this will go away. And there is some truth to that I'm sure. I just feel like I can't pull oout of this alone... Not sure how to get him on board- any ideas with that?
Posted 10/14/2009 9:24 PM (GMT 0)
I would think that the best way to do that is through education. Maybe you could look for a book or something that you both could read. There are also programs online that are free that I will get for you. I am on quick reply and if I go to post reply I can write them and you can click on them to get there.

http://moodgym.anu.edu.au/welcome

http://ecouch.anu.edu/welcome

Both of these places are suppose to be really good.  Maybe they will help you too.

I hope that you can get your husband to understand how you feel.  Communication is the key and education opens the lock.  I wish you the best.  Keep posting

Hugs, Karen

Posted 10/15/2009 9:43 PM (GMT 0)
I called my doctor and told him the symptoms I have been having and how I was feeling. He said he believes I have Postpartum Depression, and has prescribed me some medication. This website has been a big help to me, I was able to seek help in a more anonymous way first, allowing me find that I'm not alone in this- and has played a big role in my getting medical help.
Thank you for those resources. I talked to my husband about it all last night, and he reacted similar to how I felt he would if I brought this up again. He just feels like I'm taking an easy way out- taking drugs for something I can change myself... and I understand where he is coming from in his thinking... but I think it is going to take a little of both at this point. Some mental changes that I can make myself and possibly some pills to help me think and act clearly enough to implement those changes. I feel a little better knowing that he is aware of how I'm feeling now, and that I am someday not going to feel so gloomy anymore.
Posted 10/15/2009 10:06 PM (GMT 0)
question for you, do anxiety problems and depression kind of go hand in hand sometimes? I have always kind of struggled with anxiety (both anxiety issues and depression run in my family) but it has always been manageable for me. Lately that seems to be worsening as well.
Posted 10/16/2009 1:58 PM (GMT 0)
I really think that anxiety and depression can go hand in hand. Being anxious all of the time would make a person depressed. But if you feel comfortable with it, check out our anxiety/panic forum. it is a wonderful forum.

I have anxiety issues and depression issues too. So Yes, I think they can go together.

I am glad that you are getting medication. I think you will feel better with this. It will help all the way around.

Keep posting and let us know how you are doing.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 11/18/2009 11:47 AM (GMT 0)
Slow going... maybe some little changes? I don't feel such a turbulence of emotions... I still sleep most all day, my day doesn't truly "start" until about 2pm. and still really struggle with feeling like I'm "measuring up" to where I should be, still kind of feel like a crummy mom and wife. But, I am getting some things done once I'm up, I even shower and put on some make up some days! :)
Posted 11/18/2009 6:30 PM (GMT 0)
Chiquita,

It sounds like you are doing a little better. For that I am so happy. I know how you feel about getting a late start to your day. But sometimes we have to just go with the flow.

Keep posting and let us know how you are doing.

Hugs, Karen
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