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I have this huge problem..One of my best friend likes me and i can't reciprocate the same feelings..

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Posted 1/30/2010 2:54 PM (GMT 0)
Now he threatens me of suicide and blackmails me. He calls 24*7 and threatens me of these. I tried to make him understand but he just won't. Both of us live in separate cities. Since a few days he doesn't call but he asks his friends to call me and blackmail me that he wants to commit suicide. How do i make him understand that this is just a small part of life and he has more to live on for.. I have tried my best to talk to him but it doesn't work. Please advice me of what more i can do. I am really scared and tense.

He's really depressed and won't listen to me.

I don't want to avoid him as i really like him as a friend but now, things are going out of hand and I'm feeling helpless.

And also, when i tried to cut contact, he made his friends call me and blackmail me..

This keeps me tense permanently and I can't concentrate on anything.. I am a student right now and am only 18.

Post Edited (Gem22) : 1/30/2010 8:15:49 AM (GMT-7)

Posted 1/30/2010 4:27 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Gem22,

Welcome to healing well.  I don't know how they are blackmailing you.  But that is against the law.  You might have to get a restraining order on this guy.  This is emotional blackmail too.  He needs to see a therapist.

You can't be responsible for what somebody does.  This is his problem.  Not yours.  If he commits suicide, it is not your fault.  This is his problem.  Not yours.  Try to free yourself from it.  Can they really blackmail you?  Or does it just seem that way.  Figure out the consequences and determine if it is really detrimental to you.  You might have to call the cops if they don't stop.  This guy only cares about himself, or he wouldn't be doing this to you.

Best wishes,

Hugs, Karen

Posted 1/30/2010 5:13 PM (GMT 0)
By blackmailing, I meant emotional blackmail.. He knows the word suicide freaks me out.. That's what I meant by blackmailing. I tried to distance myself from him, but then he asks his friends to call me and tell that he wants to commit suicide.. It's really freaky!!
Posted 1/30/2010 5:31 PM (GMT 0)
What this person is doing to you isn't right. You can't control what another person does. And you aren't responsible for their actions. That is plain and simple. So no matter what he does, it isn't your fault. You aren't responsible for other peoples moods, they own them. So don't let it get to you anymore. He is not a friend to do this to you.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 1/31/2010 2:36 AM (GMT 0)
Ya you need to record the conversations or the voice mails this dude is sending you and turn it into the police. You need to worry about you mental health and what this guy is doing to you is not fair and is bad for you. If that guy really cared for you he wouldnt be doing this.
Please go talk to the police before something really bad happends.
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