youdontneedtoreadthis. but just help please?

Dear "Silenced",

Thank you for your honesty. I'm glad you found healingwell.com. I am a new member here too - I am struggling with depression - but I won't go into that right now :) this post is about you...

It is really tough to find the right person to talk to sometimes when you feel this way. It is so good for you to be able to express what you're truly feeling though, and I applaud you for at least writing it out. In a way, that is theraputic.
I definitely don't have the answers for you, but I would be happy to continue a conversation here and try to offer you some hope. Or a friend to vent out your feelings to.

Please know that there are MANY in this world who care about you and want you here. You have a special purpose in this life. Perhaps you haven't discovered yet what that is.. but hang in there, you will. I have a question, if you don't mind answering - what is your age? Just helps me put things into perspective if/when we continue conversing. I am 29. female. Married. two kids. I have been through a lot in my life. especially in the last two years.

I hear you exactly on wanting to be a kid again and feel that security, innocence, hope... I believe we can have that again as adults, but the harsh realities of life and circumstances around us definitely cloud that out too often.

I don't want to hide from you the fact that I am a Christian. i will not force anything on you, but just letting you know my perspective.

I see that you are online right now so I'm going to quit and make sure you see this response.

Know that you ARE worthy. Keep working through these feelings. I've found healingwell to be a very kind place.

:)

Hi there,

And welcome to the HealingWell Depression forum. I think with all these thoughts, feelings and your actions, that you would do good by talking to a counselor. You have a lot on your plate right now and I think you could use some support.

Self image is a tough one. But what we have to realize is that others don't see us as we see ourselves. And what one person is attracted to, another isn't necessarily. So beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. You probably have a bad self image of yourself and need to not focus on yourself image so much. You probably see it out of prospective. So take a step back. Let other compliment you, accept it gracefully. And go on to being you. You sound like a very nice person. And I am sure that you are. It is what is inside that is important anyway.

Please talk to somebody, or find a self help book for self esteem. You are on your way there. So finish the course.

Best wishes,

Hugs, Karen

Dear Silenced,
no way - - you are NOT an "immature munchkin" whatsoever! I did not ask your age so that there would be any feelings of authority or inadequacy or anything. I just like to know more about who I am speaking with. And knowing that you're female is a perspective I can relate to as well. :)

It is quite possible that you have already dealt with more "junk" in your life than me. Everyone responds to things so differently - and if there is one great thing I have learned through years of expensive counseling :) it is that we must not diminish the real feelings of our own pain. Pain is pain, no matter what it is, what caused it, or who is involved. We must not compare our pain with others, or judge someone else for feeling pain over something that perhaps we might not be so affected by. Basically - we are to have compassion for one another!

And I definitely have compassion for your situation. I am becoming increasingly aware of pain that people deal with... everyone has something in their life to battle. I wish I knew why we were given sorrows like these in this life. I know that as we learn to overcome them, we do become stronger, in character (and for me, in faith). It can be a tough journey, but I truly hope that you can find blessings in each day and rise above the situations life has thrown at you.

I am sorry to hear that you've had to grow up so fast. It breaks my heart to hear what some people deal with in childhood / teen years. You don't have to apologize or be afraid that anyone thinks you are feeling sorry for yourself. First of all,I feel that sometimes we should allow ourselves pity parties! I had one of my own tonight! It is important to find a healthy way to cope with pain, and for me- that is to cry. I feel so much better after I have had a "good cry" - it helps me relieve stress and depression and negative thoughts. I used to do kickboxing. That helped too! :) I allow myself to feel sorry about my situation, because it seems no one else does - - and I need to get it out of my system. I belive that as you are learning to write out your thoughts - and you took a big step in writing to strangers - that hopefully you will feel a healthy sense of relief. Writing/journaling is a very healthy way to cope with feelings.

Perhaps i'm not making sense tonight, or being too vague.. it's 12:52 a.m., I am up WAY too late! My brain is mush! how would you like to continue conversations? Through healing well is OK with me, or if you would like to email personally, I can send you that as well. By the way, I am not a licensed counselor, just a regular ol' person. :)

Take care ~

I will do my best to answer you right away, but sometimes there might be days in between. Don't feel that I've forgotten or that I don't care - - it probably just means I didn't have internet access or time to appropriately respond! Hang in there, Kirstxx :)

Post Edited By Moderator (getting by) : 5/10/2010 7:54:38 PM (GMT-6)

forum moderator-- im not exactly sure how to delete that, so ill leave that to you. thanks (:

and laura, thank you :) i probably will end up doing the same. im actually about to study for a test aha. so i saved your email, and i will email you later tonight probably. thanks again

and even though im young, and not trying to be nosy, but i would like to at least try to help you or talk about your problems too. if youd like, of course. so i'll email you, just letting you know what my email is and everything. (:

oh alright, thank you .