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Posted 5/27/2010 1:18 AM (GMT 0)
I have been through many traumatic experiences in the past five years. My life has not been easy.

about a year ago I lost my big sister to cancer. I was only 17... and I was holding her hand when she died. I think this is too much for any person to have to deal with. I will never forget that night... and I will never forget my sister.

At first I had friends to help me cope.. but now everyone I was close with I have lost. Some went away to college, some just lost touch, and some passed away. Lately.... I have been having flashbacks and anxiety attacks and feeling like my life is falling apart. I am so depressed that sometimes I can't even move.

But my point is that your life is only as good as you make it. And no matter what you go through in life... it doesn't matter. It's how you deal with it that makes you who you are. You can choose to make the best of things and take what you have learned and better your own life and many other lives. Or you can choose to mope and complain about the hand that God dealt you. But I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and we are more in control of our lives than we think. We all have a path. I am following mine and continuing to have hope. I take lilfe day by day and focus on helping others... rather than my own pain.

I also have many health conditions and am very sick. So it is hard for me to get out and excercise and stay busy. But I try. And so should you. There are brighter days ahead :) Much love to all you suffering from depression. It can overcome you if you let it. So stay positive and stay busy!

Posted 5/27/2010 2:53 AM (GMT 0)
Squirrle-
Sorry about your sister. No one should have to go through that pain and suffering.

I agree with what your post says. Part of overcoming depression is changing one's thinking about themselves and the world around them. It's oftentimes difficult to think about God and His undying purpose for each of us, but we each need to remind ourselves of what you suggest- that everything happens for a reason.

Thank you for this post. It's been a tough day, and this post made it a little better. :)
Posted 5/27/2010 7:05 AM (GMT 0)
squirrle. my condolences over your loss.  what you say is definately true. but to get to that realisation is very hard for some. depression is an insidious beast, alike you and others i too have a myriad of health concerns. we all have good, bad, and ugly days. depression effects and affects all people in a very individual capacity, thus some function in different ways, even if the suffering is equal. for me it is about management, of me, my depression and my conditions. it is also knowing about the what, why, when stuff as well. depression is highlighted and know to show up in many ways, as with the various diagnosis of it out there. i have a chemical imbalance in my brain, thus i am being treated for this. i try like heck to remain upbeat, i try like heck to not let negativity get to me, and i try like heck to try like heck!!! thx, with kind regards, jamie.
Posted 5/27/2010 2:09 PM (GMT 0)
Squirrle,

I am so happy that you joined us. When my first husband died of lung cancer, I was there holding his hand too. When he passed, he had the most peaceful look on his face. He looked 20 years younger. So I know that he went to a better place. I could even feel the energy leaving his body. I know that this was hard for you, but at some point, you will be so happy that you were there.

I am so sorry for your loss. She must have been young. And I feel that the people left behind are the ones with a huge loss. But know that she is looking down on you and with you in spirit.

best wishes to you hon. Keep posting.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 5/27/2010 5:55 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you all so much for your replies. They have made my day :)
Posted 5/30/2010 2:42 PM (GMT 0)
dear Sqirrle,

i am truly sorry for your loss, i also lost a cousin of a young age to cancer last year, and have seen how my cousin is dealing with it still, aswell as myself.

i agree with your post, its just that i feel i help to many other people, as i have always done, and in the end its my own bottled up problems that attack me. i try not to let my depression overcome me, but it gets way to much sometimes.

thank you for your post, it is inspiring to see someone with some hope, take care.
Posted 5/30/2010 2:48 PM (GMT 0)
Lilbro,

I am so sorry for your loss.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 5/30/2010 5:27 PM (GMT 0)
Lilbro,

I'm sorry for your loss. I also lost a cousin a few years ago to brain cancer. It's a horrible disease. And losing people is sooo hard. I couldn't agree more with you. sometimes I feel as if I'm being taken advantage of and like people aren't thankful sometimes. But in the end I know I'm doing my best. My dream is to travel and help people all over the world while being a translator. I have been on a few mission trips and found it so rewarding. It makes me realize that there's other people who have a lot more to complain about than I do. But thank you for your wise words. I do need to start focusing on myself and healing myself from the inside out. Wish me luck!!
Posted 5/31/2010 3:22 AM (GMT 0)
my deepest condolences to you libro. jamie.
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