Remission

Well, her answers to my questions of wondering what she was thinking seemed off to me. She just kept telling me that "she didnt know" she didnt know about anything regarding her feelings. So i remembered that i told her i felt taken advantage of awhile back, and she got really mad at me. So i went back through a lot of stuff, just to see from a bit of a different point of view so to speak, what the conversations were like. They were VERY clearly me trying, and her being very short and negative with me.

What really brought me to this decision, was, i know that im feeling better when im not thinking about her, which isnt often, but when i think about her, i feel like absolute garbage. So, the current situation simply doesnt work for me anymore, she could move back, work on things and move forward that way, or leave. She had been asking me for awhile if i was giving her an ultimatum when i told her i needed something to change with her staying at her folks, and i told her no, i just wanted to know how she felt. But it had been a month, i had to draw the line somewhere. I just had my sister go by the house to check on it, to see if she had anything moved, she had taken down some pictures, and maybe a few clothes she said. I'll hear in the morning if shes getting all her stuff or not. So that will give me some time to think about what i will say to her if her things arent gone. We play golf in the morning and its a 3 hour drive home. I feel good though. Like an enormous weight is lifted. I know it will be hard going through all of this, and losing my step daughter. But she should know that i will always love the girl. Hell, i still love her. But she obviously isnt for me.

I hope she doesnt try and make things difficult with the divorce, id like to get this over with asap. Thanks again everyone, you are all tremendous people to give so much support to those who really need it. I wish my wife had half the heart you all do.

It sure looks like she is starting to move out.  That is good.  And no I hope that she doesn't fight you on the divorce.  She may want alilmony.  But you can probalby fight that if you want to.  Though she works so she shouldn't get much if she does.  She might not even contest anything.  I am alawys sorry to see couples split up, but if you are feeling better when you are away from her, that means a lot.  She is bringing you down.  And that isn't the way to live.  That in a nutshell says it all. 

I am glad that you are moving forward.  It takes a lot of courage to do this.  And yes, being out with single men to all hours of the night isn't right either.  Who watched the daughter when she was gone?  You?  Not that there is anything wrong with that, I am glad if you did.  But to have her out all night, not saying goodnight or probably not good morning either, that is sad.  You are a great father, never forget that.  You have been very good to her and her daughter. 

Well, I am rambling as it is getting late here.  Keep posting so that we know what is going on.

Hugs, Karen