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Posted 11/14/2010 6:37 PM (GMT 0)
What kind of feelings are there when you loose a spouse? I have this horrible emptyness inside!
Posted 11/15/2010 3:17 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Kevin,

Welcome to the HealingWell Depression Forum. I am sorry for your loss. I would suggest some grief counseling. We all grieve differently. How long ago was this? Know that we are here to support you in your time of loss. Please keep posting as there will be a lot more people on the forum tomorrow.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 11/16/2010 1:16 AM (GMT 0)
Emptiness would be a very normal feeling after the loss of your spouse.
Get grief counseling, and search for a grief support group to join. aThere are lots of them, check with local churches, hospitals, and call them. If you don't care for one, just go a couple times, then switch to another. I attended 3 different support groups all at the same time. It really helped fill my time, and I made some good acquaintances, which further helped.
Getting help now will help you move on and keep going. Don't feel guilty about it. Its the smart thing to do.
Continue to post here, its a great place to vent, and get some support.
Best wishes,
Posted 11/16/2010 9:58 AM (GMT 0)
KEVIN. MY SINCERE CONDOLENCES OVER YOUR LOSS.

i too have felt this pain. grief is a very personal and unique.

1. there is no right or wrong way.

2. help is available.

3. there will be days of tears, days of deep despair.

4. the why question, the anger and the loving loss too.

5. there are days of pain, times of reflection, and the one that i do is communication. i always speak to her.

therapy has helped me. my healing compassionate prayers are with you at this time. jamie.

 

Posted 11/16/2010 4:01 PM (GMT 0)
Kevin37

My sincere sympathy at the loss of your spouse. 

Grief is a normal and healthy response to loss, not an illness. Its symptoms are painful, but they serve an adaptive purpose. Most grief runs its course with the support of your friends/family. But sometimes grief can trigger depression .
When grief triggers depression, the sadness can be unrelenting and overwhelming. Some people describe it as “living in a black hole” or having a feeling of impending doom. Even when participating in activities you used to enjoy, you feel as if you are just “going through the motions.” You may also feel numb, lifeless and empty.

I would like to encourage you to consider counseling to help you through this painful time. One on one counseling can help you understand your feelings as well as teach you skills to cope with your pain.

Others have mentioned the grief counseling too so please considered this.  Also stick with us as we are here to support you.

Kindly,

Kitt


 

Posted 11/17/2010 12:12 AM (GMT 0)
Kevin, I lost my husband on Oct 22. I can understand how you feel. Fortunately, I was already on anti-depressants, so that helped. I'm sorry for your loss.
Posted 11/17/2010 2:20 AM (GMT 0)
Potsie,

I am sorry for your loss too. I lost my first husband in 2000. but the date was October 21. It was sweetest day. I hope that you have help coping. Keep posting here as we are here for you too.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 11/17/2010 2:46 AM (GMT 0)
MY SINCERE CONDOLENCES TO YOU POTSIE. HERE FOR YOU.

WITH HEALING COMPASSIONATE PRAYERS, JAMIE.
Posted 11/18/2010 8:41 PM (GMT 0)
my condulgences to you on your loss. grieve any way you'd like, there is no magic right or wrong way, you will grieve in your own time, as well. you will never forget her. but instead of focusing on her death, focus on her life, your lives together, and how that made you happy. i think that will help. it will get better with time.
Posted 11/20/2010 4:21 AM (GMT 0)
Kevin, I am so sorry for your loss. I can understand how painful this is for you. I would

like to make a few suggestions. Most hospices have grief support groups and you do not have to have a family member who was in hospice to join their support groups. They are very kind and comforting. The other suggestion is to go online to a group called

Compassionate friends. You would be able to locate a group in your area if there is one

but if not you would find the benefit of all of their helpful information. Also, if you have a church you attend I am sure your pastor must have compassionate counseling.

I wish you the best in dealing with your loss and will keep you in my prayers. And for your own benefit there is great power in prayer.

Aurora

Posted 11/20/2010 11:43 AM (GMT 0)
Kevin,
I am so sorry for your loss of your wife. I think grief is different for every person and every situation.
I have been sitting here awhile trying to figure out the right words to say beyond I am sorry.

I am sorry you have to deal with such loss and pain. 

I am so sorry that life is so rough right now.  How can I assure you that life does get better?  Because I want to.

I will say that therapy does help me deal with losing the people that I loved. 
In my personal experience I took me several different mental health care professionals to find one who was a good fit for me. 
I know that is pretty fragmented, but I hope that helps you.
My thoughts and prayers are with you Kevin.
Navy

 

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