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Posted 12/28/2010 10:15 PM (GMT 0)
Hello Everybody!

I was just curious if you all were ready for 2011 to roll in?  Did anybody have any resolutions in mind that you would like to share?

I have one, but I feel funny about talking about it.  I had quit smoking for about two months.  And I slipped.  So I am going to try to quit again and my quit day is January 2nd.  So it is almost Newyears day.  Wish me luck, again... 

Share your thoughts or comments about the new year.  Are you going to try to do anything different?  Know not to put added pressure on yourself.  Know that I tried and failed, but am going to keep on trying.  We all have that option.  Never quit quiting, I guess.  Or never stop trying. 

I wish you all a happy New Year. 

Hugs, Karen

Posted 12/28/2010 10:31 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Karen. My goal is simply to make it through this coming year. I will have to move out of my home, there will probably be legal action resulting and still need to find a more sustainable job.

Despite gearing up for the "dreaded" I am also hopeful that just perhaps I can find some Serenity when its all said and done.

I wish you good luck with your "non-smoking" goal. And best wishes for a Happy New Year!

Cass
Posted 12/28/2010 11:50 PM (GMT 0)
Hey Karen and All,

My plans for the New Year include traveling more with my daughter and granddaughters,  oh yes weaning of one of my AD meds and toughing it out come heck or high water. 

Seeing our son from Oregon and of course coming here to HW to help others and receive help as well.

My Happy New Year wish for you
Is for your best year yet,
A year where life is peaceful !

 

Kitt
Posted 12/28/2010 11:59 PM (GMT 0)
me. not ready........................no.............................!!!!!!!!! oh well
it's gonna happen anyway. more therapy, more school.-if i get into the diploma
program, finish old studies and painting. by some wheels, may apply for
a loan via our nils-progress loans centre. get more well. get medical stuff
better managed. other stuff.................it nevers stops!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
sleep better. jamie
Posted 12/29/2010 6:27 AM (GMT 0)
not ready one bit lol At the same time Im ready for this year to be over with. It's been an extremely hard year and hopefully there won't be a repeat this next year.
My goal is to keep up with my classes this semester. Taking 13 credit hours along with working full time and taking care of my mom full time plus sometimes a part time job on the weekends babysitting a handicap lil boy takes a toll on the study time lol
Posted 12/29/2010 2:04 PM (GMT 0)
I hope you all achieve your goals this year!!! It helps me so much to have something to work towards. My goals this year are to
1. Survive the birth of my daughter :)
2. Be the best dad i can be
3. Be the best husband i can be
4. Exercise and eat better
Posted 12/30/2010 1:36 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Karen,

Im ready for 2011. I think it might just be a good year for me. My news years resolutions would be:

1. Stop biting my nails. I'm really bad at that.
2. Pass my GCSEs
3. Do my Duke of Edinburgh award. I got my bronze already so I'm going for silver this year.
4. Try and get some work experience in veterinary care so that I am ready for university after college. I want to be a Vet; I've decided.
5. Go to the gym more. I need muscles too. I'm 5 foot 10 and 9 stone 8 lbs but no ounce of muscle in me. haha!
6. Do some more fun modelling. Me and a few girlfriends do photography so we use Emmie's house as the photoshoot place and have fun. We might try and do a calender this year and raise money for the RSPCA.

All keep well and safe for new years. I will be thinking about you all.

Love and hugs, arielle.
Posted 12/30/2010 4:30 AM (GMT 0)
Oh yes, very ready for 2011.
1. to try to get some needlework piece finished.
2. to try to be a better person and more caring
3. to volunteer or help somewhere
4. maybe get a job, to help pay some medical expenses
and that's enough...
Happy New Years to all
(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Healing Hugz to all))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
Posted 12/30/2010 6:02 AM (GMT 0)
may 2011 be excellent to us all!!! that's my wish, jamie

Posted 1/1/2011 7:00 PM (GMT 0)
Hi All. First of all Happy New Years Day!! I'd like to revise or update my earlier posting on this thread. Besides just surviving the dreaded upcoming events this year I have set a few goals for myself. I have tried to make them realistic and manageable. They are in order of importance.

1. Bitterness towards my ex-husband (of 6 years) has totally overwhelmed
me. Even though I know we will have more court time or legal action this
year, I need to move on before it literally tears me apart. I need to
create some positiveness and serenity in my life. Therefore, I have
resolved to not initiate or continue on with negative comments to any
others about him. I am going to give it my best not to dwell on it. In
order to keep him out of my life as much as possible (cant do it
completely because of our girls) I will now eliminate all thoughts of him
whenever possible. Perhaps the best "revenge" makes sense with the
saying of "living your life to its fullest."

2. I have already been working on this during the past year and have made
good progress, but it is not yet perfected. I absolutely do not wish to
initiate or engage in gossip. This is mainly in the lunchroom at work or
doing any other time either inside or outside of it. And obviously, I want
to follow through with this in my personal life too. ...Over ten years ago I
was pulled into this in a prior workplace and I do not like the kind of
person it made me.

3. Last, I NEED to ABSOLUTELY create some order out of all the chaos in my
life and not get interrupted in my studying anymore and pass my 3
PRAXIS exams by this June!!

4. AS I said in my earlier post, I need to somehow find the strength and
sanity to get through what i am anticipating to be a very stressful year.

Cass
Posted 1/1/2011 8:10 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Cass,

Try not to anticipate anything bad about the new year. If it becomes stressful practice mindfulness and living life one day at a time. Presuming that it is going to be anything other than good is just asking for trouble. And negativity comes easy. Try to feel positive about upcoming situations. I know, easier said than done, but also practice makes perfect. Take it all in as a learning experience.

You have set some fantastic goals for 2011. Know that we all here are rooting (sp) for you and want to see you happy. We offer our support for all of your newfound goals.

It is hard not to talk about people especially when others are doing it. Just listen, but practice not getting caught up in it. Try to divert the conversations to something else. I think that every job has gossip. Mine sure did. I just listened and did change the topics. That way nobody could say that I said anything. There was always too much information going around. lol... But once you get use to staying away from that kind of conversation, it will be easy.

And letting go of bitterness is a wonderful thing. It only engulfs us and makes us miserable. Getting along with the ex is best for the kids. I know it is hard sometimes, but they will see you as the bigger person. You know how it makes you feel. Now you can be more happier. Good choice...

I wish you a very happy New Year. May it be a good one for all of us.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 1/1/2011 10:31 PM (GMT 0)
The new start to 2011 has been great, thank you. I hope you had a nice day too. I went shopping today in the January sales. I bought some CDs and DVDs and some clothes too. Back to school soon; exams, exams, exams. I cant wait. :oD

many hugs, arielle.
Posted 1/1/2011 10:59 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks Karen for all your feedback. Just a few explanatory comments in return though. First, I'm not trying to be negative about this coming year. But between now and the next three months one way or the other I will be forced to leave my home. It has fallen back into foreclosure and I currently have a buyer for the house, but the bank is taking its darn sweet time in deciding whether or not to approve a shortsale. Meanwhile, my ex-husband who has a lien on my house can also stop the sale and/or take me back to court for what I owe him and do not have. ..He has already stated to my attorney that he has no intention in dropping this. So, I am not trying to be negative. I have just been carrying this fear and working with his legal vengeance (he is also an attorney) for the past 2 years now. It has literally been tearing me up inside and this limbo period has created more anxiety than you can ever imagine. Second, this not only effects me but my 2 children are extremely upset about us having to move. And at this moment they do not realize how close in time it will be.

Sorry for the many details, but this is why I am still quite fearful for this year. And this is my reasoning for simply hoping to survive it. I wish nothing for the best for everyone else this year and I am honestly just looking forward to being able to ring 2012 in with some hope at a normal life again.

Cass
Posted 1/2/2011 12:22 AM (GMT 0)
Cass,

I am so sorry. Things can get so difficult in life. But still try to take it one day at a time. Try to find some good things to look forward to. Through all the turmoil. I am sorry that this effecting your children so. It is sad that you have to see this happening to them. Your ex husband sounds like a real jerk. I am sorry for that. He should just let you live your life. I don't take this lightly. I know it is hard for you. You sound like you have always had a strong will and good attitude.

As Max Ehrmann would say:

"With all it's sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful, strive to be happy." I know that this is easier said than done. You are a wonderful person, always remember that. If I said anything to make you feel bad, I am sorry Cass. I understand your pain.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 1/2/2011 4:25 AM (GMT 0)
one day at a time will be my approach. and to use them as best as i can. jamie
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