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Posted 1/4/2011 7:36 PM (GMT 0)
I'm having a massive argument with someone. I'm really upset because I'm trying to make them understand how I feel right now and I am only bashing my head against the wall trying.I wish I had a fiary god mother to make things better again. I feel so alone and rejected. I'm going to the doctors tomorrow. I feel really really low; a massive one. I just want to shut myself away and cry and hide forever.

Why can this be happening? I dont understand. I guess i could give myself a nice :-D smile....heehee. Thats made me smile and cry. sorry. I just need cheering up really. Guess I could ring up my girliefriends and have a natter with them :-) They'll cheer me up and my mate I'm staying with. He'll cheer me up too.

Sorry. I'm just tearful thats all. I'll be ok I think.

many hugs, arielle.
Posted 1/4/2011 8:11 PM (GMT 0)
Sorry to hear you're having a rough day. Sometimes its good to let it all out, cry away for a little bit but don't forget to pick yourself back up because you're a good person and deserve better. We all wish we knew why something is happeneing it is just ins't our place to know that. All we can do is make the best of what is presented to us. Lets kick that "what if" "i wish" thinking, i'm glad you are going to the doc tomorrow. Prayers and hugs to you.

-geo
Posted 1/4/2011 8:31 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you Geo.

Bless you. :-)

many hugs, arielle.
Posted 1/4/2011 10:24 PM (GMT 0)
You have one of the suggestions I was going to give you down for yourself already. You should be around people who make you feel better.

The whole arguing thing.. here's my thought. And I know my thought is totally right because I have these fights with my boyfriend all the time. What you wanna do is just stop talking to the person so you two aren't arguing. Give both of you time to just cool off and talk to each other when you're cool; that way the hostility is wayyyy below the regular level. Then when you do talk to them again, write down your points before you guys talk.

It's best to talk to someone you're having that much of a heated argument with face to face; phone arguments literally kill it. The two reasons being one, you're less connected and therefor more likely to be more defensive (odd, but true); second, if one of you gets angry enough to hang up it creates more hostility and bitterness.

If you want tips on how to just chill, message me or reply back. It's really not counting to ten for most people. It takes more than that.

But mainly, when it starts to get heated, just lay off. Once yelling gets thrown into arguing, you get nowhere (which you've already picked up on because of the way you're feeling).

Anything else I can help you with, let me know!
Posted 1/4/2011 11:05 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you so much. My heart is warmed so much to your reply. And I am warmed to know that you care. Many thanks to you sweetz. I'll keep strong and keep my friends near :-) I wont give in. I promise.

hugs, arielle.
Posted 1/5/2011 2:34 AM (GMT 0)
my compassionate healing prayers are being sent. hang in the WB. jamie
Posted 1/5/2011 8:52 AM (GMT 0)
No problem butterfly. It really warms me so much to know I helped you. Everyone argues and everyone has rough patches. Just as long as you keep your head up like you said you would you'll be giving yourself fairness. I'm really really glad I helped. You can always message me if you'd like to talk again as well. Take care! <3
Posted 1/5/2011 9:53 AM (GMT 0)
That would be great, Alwaysthere. I really appreciate that. It was my mother I was arguing with. I think her manic depression is worsening because she always takes it out on me. I know I'm bipolar but I dont do that. I guess its her coping mechanism; to make my life a living hell just to please hers.

But thank you so much for helping and Jamie, I'll hang in there. I got my friends around me. Wont worry.

many hugs, arielle.
Posted 1/5/2011 10:00 AM (GMT 0)
keep safe. jamie.
Posted 1/6/2011 11:19 AM (GMT 0)
Well I'm really sorry your mom does that to you. And you're bipolar but you're right about your coping mechanism being better. I think it's a tad bit more mature. Just hang in there like you are. I'm glad I helped. Life sucks sometimes and I really don't know how I would deal with being bipolar or having a mother who was manic depressive and I don't even wanna think about have to deal with both.

I just want you to know that I think you're really brave and I really admire your strength and composure.
Posted 1/7/2011 3:27 PM (GMT 0)

whitebutterfly said...
I feel so alone and rejected. I'm going to the doctors tomorrow. I feel really really low; a massive one. I just want to shut myself away and cry and hide forever.

Hi, I´m new here. But if u have any problems, just write me. Sometimes a few words will destroy the mood :)
Posted 1/7/2011 3:34 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Eliska,

Welcome to the HealingWell Depression forum!!!

Hugs, Karen
Posted 1/7/2011 3:36 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks Karen :)
Posted 1/7/2011 4:07 PM (GMT 0)
Hey =].

Sometimes, when your having an argument like this with someone, the best thing to do is just leave... I know it sounds odd but, every person takes approximately 40 minutes to calm down once they've had an argument. Go to a room where the person isn't and leave them for a while, then, if you think they are calmer, try reasoning with them later on. They may still not agree with you, but theres more chance of them hearing you out atleast =] and less chance of you banging your head against a wall :O. =]

-Lizzy
Posted 1/7/2011 9:19 PM (GMT 0)
Awwwwww thank you Lizzy and Eliska. Both you have made my day. And to Jamie too. I will keep safe. I promise :-)

Welcome both to HW depression forum. I'm so glad your on board.

many hugs, arielle.
Posted 1/8/2011 2:51 AM (GMT 0)
we are all here 4 you wb. hello new members too!!!!!!!!!!! on a bit of a t/o
so i will catch up with you on the forum. with compassion, jamie.
Posted 1/9/2011 5:58 PM (GMT 0)
That's really supportive of you Jamie. Hope you get better soon.

many hugs, arielle.
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