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Posted 1/18/2011 3:15 PM (GMT 0)
I'm terrified of my depression.
It's recently been getting worse and I've been        myself. Its when I hit that low point, that sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach like something terrible has happened but its just me.
My friends are amazing and trying to look after me but theres only so much they can do.
I really don't want to hurt myself but I continue to do so, its like an addiction.
If someone could give me some advice on how to stop or calm myself, I would be so grateful

Post Edited By Moderator (getting by) : 1/18/2011 8:34:22 AM (GMT-7)

Posted 1/18/2011 3:37 PM (GMT 0)
Hi there,

Welcome to the depression forum.  We aren't allowed to discuss self harm on this forum, but here is a site that might help you.

http://www.selfinjury.com/index.html

I hope that you seek help and counseling.  It really helps.  Know that you aren't a bad person, just somebody facing some issues.  So don't be hard on yourself.  This is an addiction.  You can get past it.

Please keep posting and let us know how you are doing.  Let me know how the site is and if it helps.

Take care,

Hugs, Karen

Posted 1/18/2011 3:42 PM (GMT 0)
Hi

Welcome to HW you have found a great place to come and gain support from people who can relate to what you are going through. I would recommend that you go and see a medical professional either a doctor or psychiatrist who will be able to give you support and advise on any medications or therapies that can help you. Take care off you and im glad you have friend who can support you.

Ben
Posted 1/18/2011 4:47 PM (GMT 0)
Hello and welcome.
I've been away from the forum for awhile and was drawn to your post because of the subject line. Of course I'm sure, like others, you'd never wish that feeling on anyone else but I hope you take comfort in knowing you are not the only one. I'm really scared too. It can be hard to remain calm when you feel like something awful has just happened to you, very hard, but help and practice does make a difference. I get this wave of fear, usually with no apparent trigger, then that I'm scared of nothing and have this overwhelming urge to just run scares me even more...It can be a vicious cycle and I struggle to not use physical pain as a coping mechanism. One of my doctors suggested I make a list of things to do when I feel a wave coming on. (I listed the first 5 below) Sometimes I pick one at random or what sounds good at the time. Other times I go in the order the list is written. as much as possible. I may only have to do the first before the wave subsides, sometimes I get all the way to the end. I can't think of a time when I used the list, that it didn't help. So why I'm having a hard time using it consistently, well, I'm not sure. Still, I wanted to share. I hope you find good support both here and from a professional.

Be Well,
Sasta Anois


1. Slow deep breaths
2. Sun salutation (series of yoga poses/stretches)
3. Walk outside
4. Perfume (I keep perfume sample from magazines in my purse and smell them)
5. Wash face with cold water
Posted 1/18/2011 5:07 PM (GMT 0)
Have you tried Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)? That might be a good option for the long term.

To add to Sasta's list: hold ice cubes in your hands or rub them on the part you want to hurt (arms, legs, whatever).
Posted 1/19/2011 4:11 AM (GMT 0)
yes. dbt helped me greatly to overcome it. some of sasta's list too. cold showers, cold face washer and walking-which always includes some mindfulness. all the best, jamie

ps. hi sasta. thx 4 sharing.
Posted 1/29/2011 4:36 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you all so much :) this helped so much :) it's comforting to know there are people out there who are willing to help.
Posted 1/29/2011 5:43 AM (GMT 0)
here 4 you. how are you doing? keep safe and well. jamie
Posted 1/29/2011 11:19 AM (GMT 0)
I hope that you are feeling better.

Hugs, Karen
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