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Posted 1/23/2011 2:16 AM (GMT 0)
My youngest son died last year and I was coping, I got through Thanksgiving, his Birthday, Christmas and now I feel as though I can't cope. My doctor wants me to take Lexapro. He thinks I have post traumatic stress disorder. I go for therapy but I feel so very sad now. I would welcome help, please.
Posted 1/23/2011 3:12 AM (GMT 0)
Chloe,
First off, I am so sorry about your loss. It sounds like your son was very close to you & it is perfectly normal to miss him very deeply.
The Lexapro sounds like a good first step. It is a mild anti-depressant and can also be helpful with anxiety. It does take several weeks to reach it's maximum benefit but it's usually worth the wait.
Therapy is another good choice. Holidays always seem to be so hard when we are grieving loved ones. Extra counseling sessions during those times can be very helpful. You also might ask your therapist about a grief support group in your area. Many times religious organizations, hospitals & funeral homes offer such groups free of charge, or for a small donation. They are not just for people who have lost a loved one recently, but for anyone who is still grieving their loss. I think it might be worth trying to go to one session and see what you think. The members tend to be very kind and supportive. They will let you cry when you need to cry and still want to spend time with you. Which brings me to my final point: spend time with others. Maybe it's too soon to have outright celebrations, but a quiet cup of tea with a dear friend can go a long way towards healing the soul. Try to set up at least one time every week when you can sit down in front of a friend (or someone from the support group) and spend time together. You don't need to talk. You don't need to pretend everything is okay. You just need the company. It helps.

And know that we always welcome your posts here. There are many wonderful, caring people here on HW and they will go out of their way to share whatever peace, kind words or encouragement they have to offer. We have a few members who have also lost children & they may be along, in time, to offer their own wisdom. I hope you find here renewed faith and peace and I wish you blessings on your healing journey.

peace & prayers,
frances
Posted 1/23/2011 3:29 AM (GMT 0)
Thankyou Frances. This was my baby . he was 22 years old and died by suicide. It leaves such a terrible path behind it. I have wonderful family and great friends but have never felt this low in my life before. I feel as though maybe the Lexapro might help me but then I read negative stuff on the internet about it and don't know what to do. He died 7 months ago and I hurt so very much now. I was numb, in shock, for a long time, I thought I was so strong but I am breaking apart now.
I need your prayers.
Posted 1/23/2011 3:51 AM (GMT 0)

chloe. my deepest of condolences to you over your recent loss. know that we are here for you.

with healing and compassionate prayers, jamie.

Posted 1/23/2011 1:56 PM (GMT 0)
Choe,

I too am sorry for your loss. This is a huge thing to get over. So be patient with yourself. Love yourself and remember the fond memories that you have of your son. There is no rules on grieving and you should embrace it. These are very real feelings and shouldn't be disregarded. Talk to somebody like a counselor. Give your meds a chance to work. Try not to read the negative things about lexapro. Just see what it does for you. It may work well. And it does take six to eight weeks to reach it's full potential, but you could start feeling better in the meantime.

Know that we all care about you here. Keep posting. We are here to support you.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 1/23/2011 3:44 PM (GMT 0)
Thankyou, your words help. I am trying to live in a place of thankfulness, sometimes it's so hard.
Posted 1/23/2011 4:12 PM (GMT 0)
Chloe so sorry to hear about your loss... I usually post over on the Hepatitis forum... my partner passed away Aprill 22nd... he had end stage liver disease and liver cancer... it's just plain a tough walk right now... and no one can really know unless they've had that kind of loss... there are no words to describe the emptiness... lonliness... and the shock to a person...and to lose your son... and in such a way.. I feel for you...I just go day to day... and focus on work... the best I can do... my thoughts are with you... today... and tomorrow too... Sandi
Posted 1/23/2011 4:43 PM (GMT 0)
 

Post Edited (awty) : 1/23/2011 1:44:39 PM (GMT-7)

Posted 1/28/2011 5:07 AM (GMT 0)
Oh I'm really sorry about this,I mean It's a real tragedy,I just felt that all my problems are really nothing compared to yours
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