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Posted 3/4/2005 6:15 AM (GMT 0)
I  have asked myself this question over and over. What is real honest to God depression?I've felt depressed so long, I can't remember a time when I was not depressed.

 

My signs of depression are:

Having no self-esteem, feeling like a failure as a daughter, wife, mother and grandmother. As for my sisters, well they're on they're own. I feel in my 54 years of existence, I haven't accomplished a ting other birth 2 daughters and subsequently have 5 grandchildren. I can't keep my husband happy, I am disabled to a degree, I have so many skelitons in the closet that they could play the National Anthem on each others bones.

 

Does all this make me depressed? I guess so. I am down all day, I feel useless, I feel unloved because family don't recognize me because they are hypocrites. They profess to be Christians but they gossip about everyone, dismiss me without a thought and I did nothing to them. They act superior than me. My "get up and go got up and went" and sometimes I don't feel like getting out of bed but I push myself. OK, team...help me understand

 

Hugs

H2LF  

Posted 3/5/2005 4:48 PM (GMT 0)
well Having2LeftFeet, since your over 50, are you taking any hormone therappy? most middle age women when their period stops have some sort of deppresion its normal.

other than that, how can you call yourself a failure if you have brought 2 daughters up? there is a saying in Islam "Heaven is upon the feet of mothers" which means mothers are the first to go to heaven. that explains that hardships that women go through to have children, raise them and teach them are big responsibilaties and definantly very long and tiersome process. if the only good thing you have done is raise 2 fine daughters who have family of their own that's a good thing! so don't put yourself down look back at those years and remember how you fed them and watch them grow up, thats a Big responsibility!
Posted 3/7/2005 3:04 AM (GMT 0)
Having2, Well, I can see one positive thing about you from just one post!You have a sense of humor...I chuckled at your skeletons comment.And let's be honest, here, any of us over 40, has got some rattlin' goin' on!haha...(we live and learn don't we??)As far as the hubby, and family and all these distractions don't give them the power to decide who YOU are.I agree with Akram...raising kids IS a phenomenal responsiblity!Got 2 of my own...oldest is bipolar, youngest is dealing with a dad that may be bipolar, and worries that it will be his fate, too!I'm divorced, but STILL having to keep'the ex civil, happy...'???Is this possible??haha)So I say in your 50's is time to stop making everyone else happy. I'm in my mid 40's with my changing chemistry, it's time for me at least somewhat.THAT thought alone is enough to start lifting that depression fog, eh?And yes, some sort of hormone therapy might be in order...best of luck, keep us posted
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