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Posted 4/15/2011 11:20 PM (GMT 0)

Okay, so hi im 13 yrs old. And i just thought i needed others input on how im treated and if this is okay. I cry almost every night to sleep, because my mom is constantly SEARCHING for reasons to scream at me. Like last night she screamed at me about a spot on the kitchen counter , my new sweater not being rolled up when i did the dishes , my bed not being made. Okay thats typical misbehaviors by teens i understand that but the way she yells at me she curses and all. And whenever ii get a beating, its not a regular one she hits me and punches me. Once she hit me and made my ear and tounge bleed. This all started once her and my dad seperated and she started dating someone new and its a GIRL.

Its bascially like she's changing her. And also, my dad puts money in the bank for me every Thursday, but everytime we go to the mall i probably get like one item, and she gets racks of stuff. I just need advice. Although, i already know what i want to do which is to live with my dad =(((

Posted 4/15/2011 11:39 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Marie,
This is the first post towards someone else that I ever did, so I don't know if I am of any adequate help or not. I hate watching the number of people who read the post go up with the replies remaining 0. Here I go...

My relationship with my mom is a bit similar to yours. My mom criticized me for everything through out my adolescent. She eventually became nicer and held her tongue to her cruel remarks. This also has to do with the fact that now I am away for college and she feels compelled to be kinder.

I am not trying to suggest you become self destructive as well, but you should get out of the environment you are in ASAP. Talk to your dad about it, does he know what is happening to you? If he does and does nothing about it, talk to your teachers or someone else that can remove you from that abusive situation. Trust me, it may seem like you are betraying your mom but what is more important your happiness or hers?

Please read forum rules, no discussion of self harm.  Thanks for understanding...

Post Edited By Moderator (getting by) : 4/15/2011 6:31:07 PM (GMT-6)

Posted 4/16/2011 12:07 AM (GMT 0)
I think that you need to tell somebody about the way your mother acts towards you, physically. Whatever else there is going on, that has to completely stop right away. You can talk about everything later - your feelings/relationship/her girlfriend etc.

My parents broke up too, and my mom also acted like that when I was a teenager. I remember taking a whole afternoon trying to figure out how to fold a fitted bedsheet and crying because I was so scared she'd come back and it wouldn't be done properly and she'd go mental.

Please tell a teacher or your dad what is happening as soon as you can, OK? You might be worried about what will happen, what your mother's reaction might be - but you need to think of your entire life, here, and put a stop to this now.
Posted 4/16/2011 12:32 AM (GMT 0)
I would talk to your father about what is going on. Not only the hitting but what she is doing with the money that he is providing for your care.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 4/24/2011 2:40 AM (GMT 0)
I went through the exact same thing. Every little thing i did my mum would pick on me for it. If it wasnt up to her standards she would punch me in the face, slap me etc. You really need to get out of there asap. Trust me i moved in with my dad and have nothing to do with my mum, and things are alot better. He actually cares about me and doesnt hurt me.
Your mum is obviously taking her problems out on you, and sounds like some space would make things better.
Good luck :)
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