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Posted 4/23/2011 3:53 AM (GMT 0)

For the majority of my life I have suffered from depression, but over the past 3 years I have finally overcome it.  This is mostly because of my boyfriend, who is absolutely amazing.  He is always there for me and makes me happier than I have ever been.  My family, on the otherhand, is the complete opposite.  There is constantly family drama and I learned that was bringing me down so much.  I decided to separate myself from them as much as possible, and the depression finally lifted and I have been able to fully live my life.  My family can't see how much of a burden they are, though.  They say I have changed and pushed them away, but they don't realize why I pushed them away.  Tonight a lot of things came out and, once again, my family has brought me down.  I joined this forum because I needed to vent.  My boyfriend hears enough of this, I really don't want to bring our relationship down because of my dysfunctional family.  I guess all I really needed was to get this off my chest.  My family may not understand it, but I need to do what is best for me.  I deserve to be happy  and have a good life.

Posted 4/24/2011 9:58 PM (GMT 0)
When I read this, It reminded me of the way i feel a lot. You do deserve to be happy and you need to do what is best for you. you should be very proud that you stood up and took the steps to make yourself happier. as for your family, maybe with time they might finally realise that they are a burden on you and you shouldn't have to always be down becasue of them because that isnt fair. i'm sure you love your family and your family loves you, but that doesnt mean they are not a burden. be proud of youself :)
Posted 4/25/2011 3:43 AM (GMT 0)
thank you, that means a lot! i know that i am doing the right thing for me but its still hard at times. i think that when i can finally afford to move out, things will get much better!
Posted 4/25/2011 4:09 AM (GMT 0)
I grew up in a toxic family but always felt like I was the "crazy" one. I have a long, somewhat dramatic story to which many folks could relate. I'm not trying to sway you, but I will share with you that when I decided to liberate myself from my family, life truly began for me. It was so hard, and I do miss them. Sadly, I had to cut them off completely, because they could not resist dragging me into their drama. They also spent a lot of energy trying to guilt me into thinking and feeling that I was responsible for hurting them. It was truly tough to cut the cord, but it was self-preservation. I had certain reasons for needing to escape from my family, but you don't need reasons. If anybody is harming your soul and/or spirit, whether they are family or not, you deserve to walk away. I know it's not that simple, but so many people seem to think that self-sacrifice is a must when it comes to "family."

Best of luck to you and please take care of yourself. Follow your heart and gut! Blessings :)
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