Isolation

I've got major depression.  And, I guess I've had it for most of my life.

I'm at a point now, where 99% of my interaction with others is through electronic means.  I work from home, and don't go out, except for a trip to the 7/11 to buy cigarettes once a week.  Usually early in the morning so I don't run into many people.

I'm at the tail end of an episode, where I've felt particularily bad.  And, I want to feel better.

So, the question is this...   I've read a lot where it's stressed not to isolate yourself.  That you should go out, and interact.  Why?   Is this really going to be necessary for my treatment?

I don't dislike people, but I feel much more comfortable without them, by myself. 

 

If you are comfortable alone that is fine. But it is healthy to interact on occasion. What I mean is if you are agoraphobic (can't leave your home) that can be a real problem. But if you just choose to be alone, that is different. I spend a lot of time with myself and I enjoy it. Where others need people and interactions, but are too sick mentally to be around other people. That is when it is time to see a therapist and get help. But if you are happy alone, there is nothing wrong with that. It just means you like yourself and that is good.

Take care, and keep posting.

Hugs, Karen

Hi,

Do you have social anxiety? I had major depression (started 10 years ago) where I was not able to be around a lot of people. I felt like everyone was watching me and talking about me. Usually they "were" (in my head) discussing my clothes, what I looked like etc.... anyway it got out of control and at one point I could not go to the mall or gas station even.

I went on medication and made myself get out there. Eventually those feelings stopped, and I haven't had an issue with them for 4 years.

Please consider speaking to someone about this, you are worth it!

I am glad that you are trying to get help. It sounds like you have come a long way in your thingking. I am happy for you. I know that avoiding people makes it easier to not get hurt. But these painful situations are learning experiences for us. It is healthy to go through it and you may many times before you settle down with somebody in the future.

They say it isn't the problem, but how we cope with it. So do try to do some interacting with others after you get yourself stronger with a therapist. Keep trying and thinking good thoughts.

Hugs, Karen