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Posted 6/13/2011 2:38 PM (GMT 0)
hi, well im a boy and im gay and something really horrible happened to me because i couldnt help myself.

well id been talking to this boy on the internet for a few weeks and he seemed really lovely, hed say the nicest things to me and make me feel really  special, i grew to really like him and i loved talking to him every night. after the first few days he said to me if you pay me 100 pounds ill have sex with you,and me being stupid as i am got over excited and said i would. i just didnt think i know i should have been more sensible but i thought he was gorgeous and all sense just left my head because i got too happy about having sex with him. he gave me a couple of weeks to get the money, he kept talking to me in the meantime being really lovely telling me he was gay aswell and that he loved me. i beleived him and i trusted every word he said completely, i never doubted the situation for a second. he is the same age as me (16) and i know he knew a lot of people from my school so i knew he was who he said he was so i just didnt worry about it at all. then one day i told him i had the money and i was ready so he told me to meet him the next day with the money at 11.15, so i waited for him...and he came.i saw him and we recognized eachother so he signalled me to follow him and i did, he told me wee were going to his house, what i did notice was that he wasent being as sweet and lovely as he had been, he was being very quiet and acting awkward. i followed him and i found he was taking me to a park but he just said it was the way to his house and i believed him. then he asked if i had the money and i gave it to him, he said nothing. i noticed after a while there was a boy who had been behind us the whole time but i never paid any attention to him, i just thought he was someone else walking behind us. he had his hood up and was looking down. then the boy i was with stopped walking and before i could even say anything or turn around, i felt multiple punches to my head, then i fell down, and i saw the boy who was walking behind us standing over me and he spat on me and the boy i was with was laughing at me calling me '******' and '****' and that i was stupid and ''did i honestly think he was going to have sex with me ?'' i begged them both not to hit me anymore, then with my money they ran off together, leaving me on the floor beaten up. i was devastated i got so excited thinking he loved me and we were going to have fun, and i realised he must have been planning this the whole time! my heart sank, i cried all the way home and i felt so humiliated and upset, and i was in pain. i really loved him and i trusted him!!! and i was so hurt that he did this to me. i just had to let this out somwehre, thankyou for reeading :)

Posted 6/13/2011 4:16 PM (GMT 0)
Daniel,

I am so sorry that this happened to you. You can't jump into a relationship like this. Especially over the internet. And he asked for money. That should have tipped you off right there. You were paying for a prostitute. And all he did was beat you up. I hope that you learned something from this. Don't appear so desperate. Don't be so desperate. I think you should go to counseling and get your self esteem built back up. Don't trust people on the internet, you can trust us. We are all good people. But only have relationships gradually and with people that you get to know in real life. Make friends for now. Worry about relationships later. The right ones will happen for you.

Do see a counselor. This has been a traumatic event for you and you need some guidance so that you will feel better. But let this be a lesson. Don't ever do this again. For your own safety...

Take care,

Hugs, Karen
Posted 6/14/2011 1:46 AM (GMT 0)
oh daniel, sorry mate. agree with karens advice. keep strong. there are good people out there. sending healing compassion your way. jamie
Posted 6/14/2011 3:12 AM (GMT 0)
Oh, Daniel sweetie, that's terrible. Listen, I'm a bisexual female, and people used to throw stuff at my ex-girlfriend and I in the hallways of our old high school when we would hold hands. She broke up with me because of it, school was the only place we saw each other since neither of us wanted to tell our parents. I realize it's a lot harder for a male to be gay and accepted than it is for women, but you can't get down on yourself. You're only sixteen, you have your whole life to find love in this twisted world we live in. There is a guy out there for you, he's waiting for you, maybe he's having as hard of a time as you are. But you will find each other eventually, I promise. Right now is not the time to be so obsessed with finding love, or even acceptance for that matter. You're in high school, trying to find those things is going to be almost impossible. The first thing you need to do is love yourself and ONLY yourself. You are the most important person in your world, and your world is the only place you need to be right now.

I'm on this website, too, so maybe I'm not the best person to give advice, but then again, maybe I am. Remember that guy that I told you was out there? Dont rush to find him, or else you wont be ready for him. He wants you to love yourself, he wants you to be happy. And let me tell you, you won't find happiness in popularity or material goods or even silly little crushes and love. Don't let some guy be what makes you happy, because people come and people go. You can't rely on others to make you feel good, you need to do that for yourself. Because if they leave, well, you still have you, and like I said, you are the most important person in your world.

I hope everything works out for you, you sound like a very sweet guy, maybe a little lost, but sweet nonetheless.

Best of luck and tons of love,
AzyMae
Posted 6/14/2011 5:32 AM (GMT 0)
beautiful post azymae. jamie. thx. :-)
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