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Posted 7/3/2011 10:56 PM (GMT 0)
I never had a problem with depression. When I was younger, people used to ask me why I was always happy. Now I am almost 59, I have fibromyalgia and I have been on tramadol, 50 mgs. 2 pills three times a day, and lyric twice a day. I have been leathally depressed for almost a year, fighting it with all my being. My problem is finding an anti-depressant that does not interact with tramadol. I have been on wellbrutrin XL 150 mgs. For 5 days now. I had my local pharmacist check, and this was the only anti-depressant that did not interact. I had tried taking this once before and it gave me the jitters, and I had problems sleeping. I was so desperate, I decided to try it again.

I am terrified that the law office I have worked at for 15 years, is going to downsize and I will lose my job and benefits, AND my medical insurance. I am the receptionist there, and I am worried they are going to go to an automated answering machine as I have noticed that my boss has an appointment with a sales person with the phone company we use. The office has lost a lot of business and the phone hardly rings. I used to be the assistant to the office manager, but she has hired her teen aged niece to fill that position. It is a small office, and there was a time when they would bring work up to me to do. I was an administrative assistant before I had this job, but when we got custody of my husbands three children, I took this job. These children are now grown and gone

My husband is not the man I thought I married, he can be very verbally abusive. I don't know what has happened to the ME I used to be 20 years ago, when was so popular and pretty, I have grown old and gained weight. Which my husband points out during arguments. I have no savings, and no retirement. Is there any hope for me?

If I were the woman I was 20 years ago, he would have been out the door, but now I am financially dependent on him. I was doing volunteer crisis line counseling when I met him and I cannot believe the weak woman I have become. We even went to our Pastor at church, and hubby lied and screamed while I cried. But now, it's the honeymoon period, and he is being nice after a huge blow up yesterday. That can change any moment.

Please excuse the typos, I am writing on an I Pad.


Is there anyone here on tramadol and an anti-depressant? I don't know what to do.
Posted 7/4/2011 1:10 AM (GMT 0)
I took tramadol and effexor together and had no problem. Are you sure that wellbutrin is the only one that you can take with it. It does help with weight loss though. I can't take high doses of it as it does the same to me. Maybe this time around will be different. I hope so.

I am sorry about your problems with your husband. It shouldn't be that way. And you shouldn't feel trapped. Have you thought about looking for a different job? Have you talked to your employer about your fears of losing your job? I would try to get some facts from him and then ask for time to find another job. Is there anyway that you could continue to buy your insurance? I truly hope everything works out for you. I have fibromyalgia too so I know how you feel for the most part. But I would seriously talk with your imployer to see if you are worrying needlessly.

Best wishes to you. Thanks for posting.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 7/4/2011 2:49 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Miss Magnolia and welcome to Healing Well. Just from reading your post a few times I can almost feel how overwhelmed you are right now. In addition to not feeling well (which is always so stressful on its own) you have some major stressors between your husband and your job.

One of the things I am wondering, if your worst fear comes true and you were to lose your job, would you be able to get insurance coverage through your husband? I'm not sure if he is retired or still working, but I thought I'd just toss it out there.

I know with you not feeling well that this would be quite hard, but could you start looking for openings in other law firms? Start getting some resumes out now? I have unfortunately learned the hard way that it is harder to get a job when you do not have one.

I am so sorry that your husband lied to your Pastor at church. Before my husband and I got divorced 7 years ago, he used to act like he could do no wrong in front of our marriage counselor; and would pass off all the problems as my fault. So I understand a little on how frustrated you must be.

Last, it's easy to intimidate others when they are feeling down. You may not have your own savings but it sounds like you have many years invested in your marriage. Whether or not your husband acknowledges this to you or anyone else, you also have a legal right to your home, his savings, benefits, etc. So if he tries to claim otherwise, know he is wrong. I had a 14 year marriage and my lawyer showed me I was entitled to much more than I had ever imagined. ....I know you're not going there right now, but I just don't want you to be unnecessarily scared or bullied anymore.

I hope you can work things out with your medicine and start feeling better. It will be much easier to attack all these issues when you feel stronger.

My thoughts and prayers will be with you.

Cass
Posted 7/4/2011 4:16 PM (GMT 0)
The house is mine, I have lived here since my first husband and I bought it when I was 19 years old.

The company my husband works for does not provide insurance, and he has type II diabetes and has a little policy for catastrophic illnesses such as cancer, heart attack and such. He only pays $300.00 a month for it and allows 5 visits per years. But if I don't have a job, it will be very hard for me to pay for even that. I a little less than 2 years left to pay on my house, and a little less than years on my car note which is $465.00 a month, so I am praying that the good Lord will help me till then.

I was always a go getter. When hubby #1 ran off, I worked two jobs for 8 years. Now, I don't know how at my age and health I could find a job. If you wonder why we don't have savings, it's because we fought for custody for hubbrs 3 children, who were living with their mother in squalar. We had to also add a bedroom on to the house to accommodate these children as my house is small and I only had two bedrooms.

So much for the soap opera, I never thought my life would be this way. I remember taking phone calls from women who had been batters and had nothing, but most were young enough to recoup, at least I pray that they did.

I don't know if I should post here, or in the fibro forum, as I know depression and fibromyalgia go hand in hand.

I know nothing about pain medication, except I take the tramadol and the last few days, I am taking only 1, three times a day, preparing to possibly switch over to Prozac, as this wellbutrin, is kicking my fanny, keeping me up at night and causing me more aggitation. I am also thinking of getting off the Lyrica as I need to think generic, and inexpensive.

Any suggestions for pain meds for me to take occasionally, only when I am really hurting, that will allow me to function working an 8 hour a day job, and is generic. I also found on thus site drugs.com, and it's quite helpful with drug interactions.

Thanks to all of you for your replies.

Deb
Posted 7/4/2011 4:18 PM (GMT 0)
Sorry for the typos, my IPad tends to change words on it's own.
Posted 7/4/2011 4:53 PM (GMT 0)
I've never heard of Tramadol as an anti-depressant...I thought it was more for pain, but I could be totally mistaken. I do understand how you feel....for a woman....I feel it is depresing to feel that you are getting older. I am 33, and when I was 22-29....everyone always said how "attractive" I was....and I felt it! I always worried about the "outside" appearance....body, hair, clothes, tanning....now at 33, I feel like out of shape...tired, worn out....look like crap. Its depressing. I used to love going out w my husband....now when I walk into a "bar-like" setting....it makes me MORE depressed! I see all the tiny lttle 22 and 25 year olds, and now "I'm" the old digusting out of shape one...I feel I'm no longer one of the attractive girls in the place. I know this all sounds so stupid....but to a woman, (to me)....that means everything. I need to get into the gym, start going tanning, get my nails done....do the things that make me feel like I used to. One problem....my depression doesn't give me the energy to move my butt to do anything, rather than sit on the couch, or be in my pajamas. I started Cymbalta (today as a matter of fact), and honestly...I'm praying for a miracle!!!

Good luck to you hun, I hope u feel better. I hope whatever combo your doctor gave you will work....and you'll feel better again. tongue

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