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Posted 8/21/2011 11:19 PM (GMT 0)
I'm a girl. I am 13 years old and I feel so depressed. I know, I'm only 13. You probably think I have no idea what depression is like. I do. I just want someone to help me? This is going to sound like a pretty stupid reason to be depressed but, I'm sick of everyhting. Everyday I wake up and force myself to look in the mirror. I can't bare my refelction. I don't have loads of friends but the ones I do have, tell me I'm pretty and stuff but I don't feel it at all. Every night I go to bed and cry. I cry about how I hate myself. I have so many emotions is me right now. Its hard to define each of them. I feel so isolated and alone from the rest of the world. I look around each day and see beautiful people that are bright and look so happy and I can't help feel that I was singled out from the world. It gets me down so much. A few months ago, I started . I can't stop anymore. Only two of my friends know and they're my only two best friends that I have. They've had to talk me out of  several times and I just feel so sorry for them. Every time I feel like, they're the ones who have to teach me out of it and I don't want do it anymore. I don't want them to feel the pressure of having to teach me otherwise. I don't want to feel like this anymore. I'm sick of feeling so imperfect all of the time. I just don't know what to do. I shouln't feel like this at 13. I've not even ventured into adulthood and I already feel this way.

I am sorry but I had to edit your post as we aren't allowed to discuss suicide or self harm on this forum.  Please do read the forum rules.  Thanks for understanding.  Hugs, Karen

Post Edited By Moderator (getting by) : 8/21/2011 6:03:30 PM (GMT-6)

Posted 8/22/2011 12:02 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Sophiieee,

Often times we don't like what we see in the mirror.  But that doesn't mean that people don't like what they see when they see us.  Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.  So what you may find unattractive about yourself, others may not look at the same way. 

I wish you would talk to a therapist about your thoughts and behavior.  You shouldn't be feeling so down.  And if this continues, I suggest that you call somebody such as a crisis center or 911. 

There is probably a lot more to this than you posted.  There is probably something causing you to dislike yourself.  But you sound like a nice person to me.  You are just going though a hard time.  Be proud of who you are and remember that everybody is unique in their own way.

Take care,  Keep posting.

Hugs, Karen

Posted 8/22/2011 4:03 AM (GMT 0)

Sopphieee,

I'm sorry that you are feeling so sad. Please don't do anything to hurt yourself.

I am older now, but I remember when I was 13 I cried all the time.  Sometimes it was about my looks - I was all bones and not very pretty.  Other times I just needed to cry, and I wasn't sure why.  I still don't know exactly why I was so sad.  I think part of it is that when you are 13 you aren't a little kid anymore, but you aren't old enough to make your own decisions and stuff yet.  Its hard when some girls get more mature and prettier more quickly than you.  Also, when you feel like other people are happy and you are not it can feel like there is something wrong with you. It can be hard just to try to figure out who you are because you are still changing so quickly.

I don't know what your life is like or what kinds of problems you might have, or if you are just sad.  I know you said you have some friends, so that's a good thing.  I also know that you and me are not the same person, but things did get a little better for me with time.  Please try to talk to some people who can help you.  You sound like a special kid and I am sure that many people would be able to help you in some way, and that many people would be devasted if anything happened to you.   Just try to do one day at a time and come here when you need people who care about you and can understand how awful it is to be depressed.  We care.

Post Edited (LonesomeDove) : 8/21/2011 10:34:44 PM (GMT-6)

Posted 8/22/2011 5:27 AM (GMT 0)
The teen years. You are not exactly a child anymore, but you are not and adult either. You are somewhere in the middle and at times you feel very grown up and other times you feel and act very much like a kid. You're emotions all over the place, your hormones are going crazy and at time it feels like they are taking you with them. No matter what your physical appearance is it never seems right. Most everyone around you SEEMS to be getting it together a little faster, a little easier and with better results than you are.

Does any of this sound familiar? I bet it does, and I bet it is a lot of how you feel right now.

Let you in on a little secret. Every one feels that way during that time. The ones who seem to have it all together and never look in the mirror and wish their hair was this way or that, their bodies looked more like some one else's, etc are the ones who just do a really, really good job of acting.

Let you in on another little secret...which is about guys...and I am sure that is something you think about a lot too. Guys like to look at the girls with the model type looks, but it is the girls who really are happy with themselves that attract the good ones and get to hold on to them. So don't worry so much about what you look like on the outside. Make yourself drop dead gorgeous on the inside and that beauty will shine through and it will be that essence that will make everyone do a double take.
Posted 8/22/2011 8:31 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you so much. Reading comments like these, really brighten up my day. I never really take nice comments to heart. Its always the bad ones. I guess I just bring myself down like that, but thank you guys so much!
Posted 8/23/2011 3:49 AM (GMT 0)
Sophiieee,

Its a hard time, and lots of us were depressed too when we were 13. It will get better, I promise! Just hold on and come here to talk when you need to. I know it feels like older people "don't get it", but we really do and we remember how hard it was. Listen to Jim - its nice to be beautiful on the outside but its the inside that counts. The older you get the truer that becomes. Good people will value what is inside you.

You should take the good comments to heart - those are the ones from people who are good and beautiful on the inside - the ones who care about other people. Hang in there!
Posted 8/23/2011 4:05 AM (GMT 0)
Well put Jim. Sophiieee, he is exactly right. Keep hanging in there. I agree with Jim and LonesomeDove, A beautiful inside makes a person special. The good comments that you have received are genuine and true you can feel free to take them to heart. Take care and keep sharing.
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