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Posted 8/23/2011 9:01 PM (GMT 0)
I tried to write out my whole story, but accidentally lost it, so it's nutshell time.

In the last 5 years:

failed marriage, failed business, rheumatoid arthritis, fibromyalgia, applying for disability from post office(waiting on that), filed for bankruptcy(waiting on that), house not selling, car not selling, broke, kitten has feline leukemia, need shots in my knees so I can continue to walk, but the copay is over $500

So much in my life is on hold, and I haven't made a good decision in years! I really don't know how much more I can take!
Posted 8/23/2011 9:18 PM (GMT 0)
Hi rp5780,

It sounds like you have a whole lot on your plate. But in time, you will realize that you have learned something from all of this and it will be in the past. I had everything fall a part on me about ten years ago when I got fibromyalgia myself. Every possible thing that could, went wrong. But I still wouldn't change it. I learned a lot. I experienced good things through bad things. And I just look at it as a learning experience. It wasn't easy. I lost almost everything. I was in huge debt. My health was scaring me because I didn't know what was going on at the time. It took a long time to get a diagnosis. It was this invisable monster after me. Once I got a diagnosis, I, of course got depressed because I was grieving everything that I lost and that I couldn't do anymore. It happened like over night and my whole world came crashing down. So I know how it feels. It seems impossible to keep up with daily life.

It is a shame the way the economy is right now. Houses aren't selling. People don't have money, they are all in the same predictament that you are in. I hope it gets better for you. I hope you can find your way through the depression of it. Know we all care and are thinking of you.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 8/23/2011 10:45 PM (GMT 0)
Hello, RP5780, and welcome to the Depression Forum.

For me it was always take one day at a time for as long as I needed to do so. That was the only way I could get through the loss in my life.
We've probably all had our share, and interestingly enough, it does get better with time--which is the great healer. It will be different, but still good.

When you are able to accomplish one task you set for yourself in one day, please try to feel successful with that. It will turn into many successes as time goes by.

Take care of your health first, then look for the light at the end of the tunnel. You get closer with each endeavor accomplished.

Please continue to post as you would like to.

One of our members often says "with healing compassion", and I think that's called for here.

Sincerely,

It's Genetic
Posted 8/24/2011 6:02 AM (GMT 0)
it is.

with healing compassion, jamie

hang in there, we care.
Posted 8/24/2011 6:22 AM (GMT 0)
Hello rp,

As you have noticed you will get a lot of support from these forums and people that will actually listen. These forums have helped me tremendously and will continue to use it and show others the support they need also.
I had actually originated from the rheumatoid arthritis forums, however I spend all my time here in depression just trying to show my support and what ever insight I have to offer.

I have also been going through financial problems, not being able to find work, however I have to say not as bad as you have it right now so I do sympathize.
Please keep posting and feel that your wanted here and what ever support and advice you need is only at your finger tips.

Kind Regards,

Crackles23
Posted 8/24/2011 1:41 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you for the replies. I'm trying very hard to be positive, but I'm still constantly on the verge of tears and I never cry! This thing with the kitten having leukemia just seems to be the last straw. She's not sick, and the vet said kittens often test false positive, but with my immune lowering drugs I really shouldn't have her. None of the shelters in the area can take her right now, and I just can't have her put down when she's not sick. I don't know why this is the thing that's the last straw, but there it is. One more thing I tried to do that goes to crap? I worry about trying to find her a home on craigslist, because I've heard horror stories about people getting them and feeding them to pet snakes. I can't keep her, though. Circles, I keep going around in circles. I just really need one thing to go for me, so much is on hold right now.

Again, thanks for the replies, it does help to remember that other people are going through their own problems and understand how I feel.
Posted 8/24/2011 3:19 PM (GMT 0)
 

      I just wanted to pop in and give a comment or two. wink

         First I'm impressed with the compassion here on this forum. Many of the life challanges thrown at us can be very overwhelming to say the least. I have found that no matter what type of medical condition we may suffer in our lives, it can affect our mental state greatly....this is also holds true with all of the life challanges thrown at us as well.

  rp5780!...Welcome to this forum!, ....and I must say that you have found a great support group! I encourage you to stay engaged with the members here, to help you through this tough time in your life.

      I have not been a moderator long, and spend most of my time over in the Chronic Pain forum, but I have gotten to know Karen, and I'm a telling you that she is a very compassionate person, and I have found her a delight to visit with.

      As I visit this forum from time to time, it is obvious that this is a wonderful forum, and the members are truly here to support if and when they can. Sadly many of us are in need when we find this place, and it amazes me to find support from members... such as this, while dealing with their own issues.

     So!...my hats off to all of you here! Great job to those of you supporting, and to Karen who gives great leadership and offers a direction of hope to those who are suffering.

       Thanks for your time, and I hope to keep visiting this forum from time to time.

        Have a great day... and rest of the week for that matter, and keep marching toward livable solutions!

    I will leave you all with a little saying that is one of my favorites..." Obstacles beging to appear... only when you take your eye off the goal"

 

      Thanks!

  SE wink

 

Posted 8/24/2011 5:46 PM (GMT 0)
rp5780,

The vet did say that kittens sometimes show a false positive. Maybe that is what is going on in your case. Do you have to get rid of the kitten? Maybe she doesn't have it afterall... Just a thought.

I am sorry for all that you are going through. Try to take your life one day at a time. Stick with us and we will try to help you through.

Keep on keeping on. We are here for you.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 8/24/2011 7:42 PM (GMT 0)
SE

Thank you for your thoughtful and kind words. It really means a lot.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 8/24/2011 8:10 PM (GMT 0)
Is there any such thing as an immune booster shot? It seems to me
I read something about that somewhere one time. I'd ask my doctor
before I let the kitten get into the wrong hands. Maybe your physician could give you ideas about how to bolster your immune system during
the days ahead. With all the stress, you might enjoy one to keep you
free from viruses.  Even Vitamin C is an immune booster, I think.

I.G.
Posted 8/26/2011 1:16 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks again, all.

As far as the kitten, I really do need to find a home for her...I just can't afford it. My other cat is also having none of this nonsense, she really likes being an only child. Spoiled girl, though she'll probably get used to the kitten eventually, it's added stress trying to keep them separate. There's also the health concern. I.G., I don't think I should get an immune booster, though I will ask my doc. Others with autoimmune diseases may even be able to answer that one. I'm on immune lowering drugs for a reason, so should I really try to boost my immune system?

I just can't believe the bankruptcy and disability decisions are taking so long! My disability lawyer said decisions are usually made in 6-8 months, it's now been 10. Probably because of all the cuts the post office has made. The bankruptcy was filed in February, I know people that had their hearings within 2 months of filing. I know it's not true, but it sometimes makes me feel like the world is conspiring against me. If I could hear something about just one of them, maybe this huge knot in my stomach would get a little better. I'm trying to just be thankful that this all hasn't put me in a permanent flare.

Thank you for listening
Posted 8/26/2011 1:35 AM (GMT 0)
No, Rp5780, I should think the last thing you'd want to do would be to
have an immune system booster if you are on an immune system drug to lower your immunity. Whew! What a schedule you have, dear lady.

Take very careful care of yourself.

Good wishes,

It's Genetic
Posted 8/26/2011 1:36 AM (GMT 0)
I know it is easier said than done, but try not to let this stress you out. Relax, meditate. Do whatever you can to keep your stress levels down. Come here and write about things helps. So keep posting. Stress causes a lot of health problems. So relax as much as you can.

I didn't know about the other cat. Yea he is probably saying "no way, not happening". lol...

Take care,

Keep it peaceful.

Hugs, Karen
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