It's getting real hard

What is it that you don't like about your job? I am sorry that people walk all over you. It takes a lot of work to be a doormat. You need to learn assertiveness, as I do too. I never was good for standing up for myself. I have to learn to do that and so do you. It is more important right now that you learn that. Maybe get some booiks on it, or talk to a counselor about it. It will serve you well to learn. And the sooner the better for you. It will make your job much easier.

It takes time to make friends. You have to put yourself out there and be expecting disappointment, because it does happen. Nobody is perfect, the more you get to know a person, the more that you notice faults. And things that you don't necessarily like. But if you know that nobody is perfect and you expect flaws, you can handle it. I have a few friends. Some I dont even see often, but I know that they are there if I need them. I don't ever really ask for anything but their company though. I find out, the less that I see them, the better actually. Familiarity breeds contempt, I don't care who it is.

Learn to be assertive and stick up for yourself. The more you practice, the easier it is. If at first you don't succeed... You know what comes next.

I hope that you feel better. Try not to be angry, it is very counterproductive. Be happy...

Hugs, Karen

Just don't give up. Each time you work your shifts and then come home, it will be easier. Try not to get upset with your wife. She is probably very busy with the kids. How many do you have?

I know a few guys that fly home every five weeks. But they work hard. So I know it is hard on them. But there is no work here where we live.

I bet that if you keep trying and fighting that you will keep at it and things will get better. Just talking about it helps. Take it one day at a time, soon you will be able to go home for a little while.

Keep hanging in there.

Hugs, Karen

Thanks guys yer I have two kids under five I am miserable at work but leavening is not an option at the moment money is to good my wife is great but when I'm away I can hardly get in touch when I need to talk to someone like today I wake up ring her 5-6 time finally get in touch and she's out shopping and its to hard to talk I tried but I she was pre occupied with chiseling a dress for her freind so I did even get to talk to the kids witch is heart breaking for me they are what keeps me going so when I don't talk to them I have a crap day I'm going to keep pushing myself I can see myself breaking down before things get better but il keep trying for my kids I don't want them to no there dad failed thanks for listening guys it is helping and I'm thankful

Don't push yourself to a breakdown. It's much better to get some help first. You really have to take care of yourself first, so that you can continue to take care of your family.

Have you tried setting up a time of day that you will call to talk to your kids? Maybe if it's scheduled then your wife will know you'll call and not be too busy?

Also, have you seen a doctor about your depression? I think it would be a good idea for you to do so. Perhaps some counseling or antidepressants might help.

Keep posting, it really does help to talk things out. You are not alone!!

Maybe be keeping your eyes open for another job. But just take it one day at a time. Try not to project into the future if you can. It helps to stay in the moment. I hope that you feel better soon. Take care,
Keep posting.

Hugs, Karen

Na my partner is still at home my youngest is only 1 so she looking at going back to work soon I'm looking at going with a new company soon but I still have 7 shift before I go home I can go for a walk at work because were near a working mine site this web site is helping its letting me say what I need to say it great to have people listen :)

Yer 7 days left then 7 days off il look into medication but I don't want to use it if I can help it . Iv just trying to quiet smoking so that is playing on me aswell

Thanks guys il keep trying . It doesn't help when the drillers in a bad mood at the start of the shift it makes the shift drag on as I'm all ways on edge but I won't be with these guys much longer so il just have to push on the only break I get at work Is when I fill the water truck up witch takes about an hour to do so il use that time to de stress and look at the positives

I am glad you take time to look at the positives. A lot of us have trouble doing that, but it makes life much easier and nicer. Keep up the good work. Keep trying and keep posting.

Hugs, Karen

While you are waiting to change jobs, if the driller comes on in a bad mood, don't let it effect your mood. I know it is hard, because it does rub off on others. But if you remember that they are the sole owners of that mood, you can sometimes get by without it effecting your mood. It may take practice, but it can be done. Before you know it, you will be at your other new job.

Best wishes,

Hugs, Karen

Hey man, I'm new to this website myself. I kno exactly how it feeling but, you need to stay strong remember it not just supporting ur family but itself as well. you don't want your feeling to start coming out at people you love. If I were you I'd start looking for another job though. Since it seems to b the cause of your unhappiness.