Depressed about friend in hospital

Now, From what he has told me today, she might have one of the conditions I have.

She might have Hydrocephalus. I pray she doesn't. But if she does, I think her fiance might be upset. He doesn't exactly like the emotional connection that my friend n' I have had for ten years. Because, If she does have Hydrocephalus, then she n' I will have an indirect physical connection.

In a way he doesn't have to worry. At the beginning of the week, my friend n' I were talking about our respective health problems and using them as a crutch. She was diagnosed with Leukemia years ago for which she goes to be re-checked every 6-8mos.. The problem with her eyes was taken care of, a long time ago.

With my health problems, they are a daily reminder of what could happen to me. While Leukemia is serious, because of my Hydrocephalus, I can only 'live in the moment'. My shunt could fail at any time. But does that keep me from doing things, it keeps me from working. Not technically, but emotionally. I know that is a hurdle I have to get over. But my first professional job back in 1989, I was fired from, for being too slow. When I worked for the U.S. Gov't(1991-1995), I had to quit from the stress.

I hope she recovers. But the remark about using my disabilities as a crutch, really hurt.

Despite my disabilities, I ride a road racing bike, in traffic and 'taking the lane'. There are a lot of people who don't ride a bike, and wouldn't take the risks I take. Then there are those who are not disabled and ride a bike, that would not take the risks I do. That certainly is not using my disabilities as a crutch!!!

Post Edited (Chris516) : 7/10/2012 4:16:34 PM (GMT-6)

Faith213 said...
Everything you've been going through just sounds so stressful and a strain on both you and her. I'm so sorry you've been going through so much and your friend. I hope she has a speedy recovery. Having a major migraine before having an issue can be a number of things. One of the first things doctors around here do is check for meningitis through a spinal tap if you come in with a migraine. I hope it turns out to be something that's not that serious. Keep us posted on her whenever you get any information. I hope someone lets you know more about what's going on soon!

I am waiting to here from her fiance. He is supposed to be told the results of the MRI, EEG, etc.; today. Because, He wasn't told last night.

I heard from my friend's fiance late last night. She did not go into surgery like I thought. But she is still in a coma. Both her fiance n' I want her to wake up, desparately.

I am trying. I feel like I am on the precipice of another emotional breakdown.

This time specifically and only to do with her. While I want her to come out of the coma, she said one of the most hurtful things to me, several days before she collapsed at work.

She accused me of using my health as a crutch.

One thing she said to me several months ago, is that she feels I know her better, than she knows me. Apparently, With that brutal statement, it is really true.

She accused me of being depressed all the time. Well if she knew what I have had to put up with not only medically, but also emotionally n' psychologically, maybe she wouldn't be so quick to make an irresponsible statement like that.

I agree with her, about putting things in the past. But my health problems are major. Not something that two aspirin can cure and I will have them my WHOLE LIFE.

I am emotionally setting aside, what she said, in order to focus on her recovery.

Now, Since she is in a coma, I am not dwelling on what she said. But just praying that she comes out of the coma.

I am sorry for that, it sounds like he is really jealous. She will get ahold of you if she pulls through this. It may be awhile though. I am sorry it come to this. Now you will have to work on getting on with the rest of your life. I know it sucks, but what can you do. You can't help someone else's insecurities.

Take care,

I am really sorry that this happened.  Try to save the fond memories you had with emailing this person.  Nobody can take that away from you.

Hugs, Karen

I see,

Still saying prayers for your friend...

The first hospital, is some dumb local(to her home) hospital that isn't very good at medicine.

I am waiting for another update tonight. I am presuming my friend's fiance is swamped with calls from my friend's family. I just hope that is the only reason I haven't heard from my friend's fiance, on my friend's health.

Post Edited (Chris516) : 7/13/2012 10:25:36 PM (GMT-6)

Karen, I hope you are right. I have not heard from him in over 24hrs..

Yay!!! I am happy for you too.

Hugs, Karen

Wow, I hope that gets better soon.

Hugs, Karen