Girlfriend suffers from depression. makes me feel uneasy.

Well.. As you can see I'm brand new here. I've been dating a girl for 9 months now. She is 15 I'm 16. She had problems with depression since middle school. I've been friends with her for almost about 3 and a half years, including the time we've been dating. She's been diagnosed with many mental disasorders such as schizophrenia and a couple of other disorders. she has dyslexia and is just riddled with problems problems. and generally she lacks self confidence because of all of these problems and disorders. The midterm finals are coming up and she really hit the gutter with the first two tests which she made around the 60's range which in those classes she wasn't even doin well to begin with. One night I was helping her study.. And we started to get off topic a bit, and she said"You know.. I could just do it right now.. I could go in my dads room and get his gun and just end it right now.. I could end it all.. No more being insecure, no more being called stood and having to stress over anything anymore. I could be with all of the people I miss. Things would be a lot better.." We started talking more about it.. See, I know she was a victim of depression before we started our relationship but the problem is now.. We justtransitioned in to the 9th grade, and she's having troubles trying to get rooted in on. I Love her to death, and some may think that this may be to young an she to even think of Love, but I'd follow this girl to the very end no master what. One thing is..

(I'm sorry if there are any mistyped words or grammar is off. I'm on my phone. I also have to part in reply due to the fact I'm on my phone.)

Any who.. One thing is about her is that she is strong, but as I said before.. Lacks confidence in anything she does. Ours also taking a toll on my emotions as well though, I don't mind at all because she has out much more worse than . She's had many, many problems to do with her family. She's poor, first off and when she was six she had a dramatic experience with her only close family member that she loved other than her mom. The dramatic episode was that her grandma does, and she was involved in her death. She gets yelled at by her dad on a daily basis. her cousin which which she was close with committed suicide last summer. her mom is sweet and nice, so is her close brother. I say close because she is sister of six children. She was the last 1 to be born. her sister is a drug addict, and your brother is a maniac that went on a killing spree long ago. Bit in and all, she still manages to keep a smile keeper humor. that's 1 of the only things I can keep a smile on my face now, the fact that after all that she can still keep happy

Still really sorry if it's hard to read. phones aren't the best to type on, and I can't go back and edit it.

Post Edited (Konner) : 12/19/2012 10:08:57 PM (GMT-7)

That doesn't really help me :\ But thanks. I might consider calling them seeing as this is a night in which I won't get much sleep.

She needs mental health help. And soon. We aren't suppose to discuss suicide or any type of self harm here so I can't say much.

Take the hotline numbers and give them to her. It could be the only help she receives. She really needs counseling and possibly medications. If you could find he a mental health facility that did couneling and med control, that would really help her. But one thing at a time. For now give her the numbers and make sure she calls them when she gets suicidal thoughts.

This relationship is going to drain you if you don't find her some help. And she is capable of seeking help on herself and needs to do so. You can't continue to rescue somebody if they arent trying to help themselves.

I wish you and her the best.

Hugs, Karen

Konner,

If she refuses the numbers or you see signs of danger. Then talk to a councelor at school. You will not be breaking confidences, you will be helping. There is a point where someone else has to reach out for the other person.

You are both so young I don't know if you can grasp this concept, I hope that you do and that you can trust someone at the school to talk to for her; if she does not seek help for herself.

If you go to the top of this forum under the thread for resources, there are other links for teenagers. I STRONGLY suggest you review them and see of any could be of help; see if you can get her to review any of them.

Stay strong and keep posting we are here for support. You are brave for reaching out and seeking help here, don't stop now, she is so lucky to have you in her life.

Trina

I'm sorry to hear what a traumatic life she has had, she is indeed strong for still keeping going.

Having had similar thoughts myself, the most important thing you can do is show her how much you care about her. Sometimes in our darkest hours, the thoughts of our loved ones and how much they care about us is enough to keep us going.