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Posted 12/23/2012 7:01 AM (GMT 0)
That is the only thought I seem to have, that I am so tired. All I want to do is sleep, read or listen to music that I can wallow in. I saw my doctor the other day and am back on antidepressants. I suppose it is good that I am getting help, and I know I need to be patient, that they will take time to help. I just feel so alone, which usually isn't a problem as I am a loner by nature, however at this point I would like to have someone say "I know, I feel the same." I guess that is why I am on this site, to find others like me.

Thank you to all who read this.
Posted 12/23/2012 9:11 AM (GMT 0)
As you clearly know being alone and being lonely are 2 different things.

To a point I do understand how you are feeling. I too am something of a loner. I used to drive trucks for a living and most of the time I enjoyed to peace and solitude of being alone on the road. There were other times though that I did get to feeling lonely and in need of a little human companionship. When those times hit when it was time to stop and eat I would sit at the counter instead of alone at a table. Sometimes I would strike up a conversation with someone else at that counter and other times I would just listen to conversations going on. Regardless just being around other people helped relieve the loneliness I was feeling.

After a few years of driving I also got a dog I took on the road with me and that also helped with those lonely times but at times the only thing that really helped was to be around other people.
Posted 12/23/2012 12:40 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Nameless1

I too know how you are feeling although I am not a loner, but times I am really lonely although I have a wonderful husband who is my absolute rock. I get caught up in my depression and I feel at times like nobody cares, wants to help me or understands, so "Yes, I know I feel the same way".

I too am on anti-depressants and yes they help, some days better than others. I am glad that you have seen your doctor and are receiving treatment for your depression, and yes they can take a little while to kick in. Have you also thought about seeking some counselling? It can also help you understand your feelings and see them from a different angle.

I am sure there are many people on this site besides me who at times feel like you do now, so take some comfort in the thought that you have found a great site and we are all in similar circumstances.

I wish you well.

Harrington 49

Posted 12/23/2012 1:44 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Nameless1,

Welcome to the forum. You will definately find people here who are like yourself.

Hello Jim and Harrington, glad to see both of you posting. It has been awhile...

These guys gave you some good advice. Give the antidepressants time to work, look for some counseling in the meantime. Keep posting here. You will soon find out you aren't alone in this. The holidays seem to make depression worse. Just try to go with the flow and enjoy...

Hugs, Karen
Posted 12/23/2012 1:50 PM (GMT 0)
Dear nameless,

As you can see you are not alone. Welcome to Healing Well. the first thing I would like to say is that you are NOT nameless, you are someone, and are important.

Staying with the doc and communicating on how the medications are working will be an important step.

looking for a support group is a good step, I just joined one myself and we focus on the positives in life. It is called "new beginnings". there is also the National Depression and Bipolar Support network I think they are organized by States.

There are also resources at the top of the Depression forum for you access. Review them at your convenience.

Stay strong,
Trina
Posted 12/23/2012 5:23 PM (GMT 0)
One other thing to look at is it could be the antidepressant making you so sleepy so maybe a medication change would be something to consider, there are many medications out there that can be of help and sometimes it takes a few tries to get that one right medicine but it can be done, many many well wishes to you and also if you have not yet considered counseling maybe try that, a good counselor can be worth it, this is also a good place to come and vent anytime you need to do so, please feel free to vent, we can try to offer up support. Many well wishes to you and hope your doing better today, sometimes we just take things one day at a time...
Posted 12/23/2012 6:03 PM (GMT 0)
Some of the leading causes of being constantly tired are: poor diet, dehyrdration, prescription drugs, caffeine, alcohol, stress, lack of essential vitamins and minerals especiallly the B vitamins and magnesium.

If you can afford to see a Nutritionist do so. If not, do your own research on the Internet. Along with taking medication, a proper diet and essential vitamins and minerals are very important. Also, divide your weight in half and that's how many ounces of water you should drink each day. Exercise also helps like walking.

In summary, a healthy diet, essential vitamins and minerals, drinking enough water plus exercise will increase your energy level. 

Post Edited (Michael In NY) : 12/23/2012 12:46:37 PM (GMT-7)

Posted 12/23/2012 8:44 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you all for your suggestions. It is nice to know that there are others out there like me. I think I just need to give this time. This is not the first time I have had a major depression. The last time was 2 years ago. If I got through it then I can get through it now. I just need to keep in mind that I cannot expect too much from myself. I need to be patient and just do what I can, the rest of my ambitions can wait.
Posted 12/23/2012 10:29 PM (GMT 0)
I am glad that you can see that Nameless1. Give yourself a pat on the back, take life one day at a time and keep your mind in the now. You will get there. We are all right behind you.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 12/25/2012 6:05 AM (GMT 0)
Today was actually OK. Got off my ass and did laundry, cleaned out the fridge and took out the trash. I also went for a walk on the beach. I went to Long Sands in York, Maine. It was cold, but nice. There were dogs running and playing on the beach. I love watching them. They really know how to live. They don't worry about getting wet, or dirty, or looking stupid. They just bark and run and chase the seagulls. I spent the day alone, but it was OK too. It is hard being a loner and knowing when I am alone because I like to be, or because I am hiding. Today I did not feel like I was hiding. I enjoyed my own company. I still wish I had a special someone to share my day with. I suppose until I find that person I will share my day with you people.

I have to go to my parents house for Xmas tomorrow. I suppose I am lucky to have parents who love me, but it still makes me feel anxious. I love them, but they drive me nuts. I feel like I have to be on stage the whole time. I cannot let them know that anything is wrong. I will claim a headache or something if they notice, which is not entirely lying as I have a headache every day.

Does depression cause chronic pain, or the other way around? If I only knew perhaps I might get better. Oh well do not want to put a damper on what was a pretty good day. Thanks all for reading this and happy (whatever holiday you celebrate)!
Posted 12/25/2012 11:56 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Nameless1,

I think it can go both ways with depression and pain. I have fibromyalgia, and the pain increases my depression and visa versa. So it can go both ways.

I hope that you have a wonderful Christmas...

Hugs, Karen
Posted 12/25/2012 12:53 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Nameless,

Karen is right, it is kinda as the Chicken and the Egg thing. Which came first.

When your pain in increases try mindful breathing. Slow breath in through your nose and slow out through slightly opened lips.

Do at least 3 times, keep doing it until your anxiety comes down.

It is also called smelling the roses.

Have a wonderful Merry Christmas today!

Peace
Trina
Posted 12/26/2012 4:02 AM (GMT 0)
I wish I knew what was wrong with me. The doctors have never been able to find a definitive answer on that. They diagnosed it as Chronic Muscle Fascia Pain, and Chronic Head Aches. I used to have migraines, but than goodness I rarely have those anymore. The pain is not debilitating luckily, just drags me down. Sometimes I can't sleep well because I hurt. So far massage therapy seems to be the only thing that works. Too bad my health insurance won't pay for it.

Thank you Trina and Karen for your words of support. I hope you had a good holiday.

Jennifer
Posted 12/26/2012 2:03 PM (GMT 0)
Mine doesn't either Jennifer. Pay for the massage therapy that is, but my therapist does massage therapy as part of her treatment, so I can get one that way, on my shoulders. I have what is called a bed buddy. It is a fabric tube filled with grain. You heat it up in the microwave and then wrap a towel around it and put it around your neck. It really helps with pain. Warm moist heat. I hope that this helps some. I got mine at Walmart in the pharmacy. Give it a try.

I hope that you feel better soon.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 12/26/2012 3:41 PM (GMT 0)
Jennifer,

I hope you enjoyed Christmas.

It has been proven in the past couple years that actual pain is produced by Depression.

I have a lot of head pain some explained, some not, I have been put on 60mg then 120mg of cymbalta and I do agree that the reduction in pain makes a difference in the depression.

That is not my only medication, and I still have paid from other ailiments, but my point is Depression can cause mystery pain no doctor can pin point.

I hope this gives you a starting point. Treat the depression best you can with alternatives that help you, meditation, mindfulness, exercise, art therapy, journaling etc.,... see where the pain goes.

Stay strong
Peace
Trina
Posted 12/28/2012 1:39 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks for the information. I will give it a try.
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