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Posted 12/26/2012 11:21 PM (GMT 0)
My whole family came over for xmas, and as usual i feel like an outsider. I dont mean to but i get kinda sad during holidays, when everyone else is happy. I feel like i make them uncomfortable because no one talks to me unless they have too. Im not sure how I feel, im glad there okay, i dont hate them. I just dont wanna feel like this anymore, its frustrating.
Posted 12/26/2012 11:52 PM (GMT 0)
Have you thought about talking to a counselor? Is it just during the holidays? Maybe others feel the same, but are putting that aside during the holidays. Often we do the best we can to not let on how we really feel. Talk to somebody, it always helps.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 12/27/2012 3:16 AM (GMT 0)
It could be SAD (seasonal affective disorder). That's basically depression-like symptoms in the winter time. It would be worth researching.

Regardless, the treatment is the same. Counseling is a great option.
Posted 12/27/2012 3:53 AM (GMT 0)
I'm like that when I have to visit my hometown,so for me its not just durning the holidays when this happens and you have to make goals that, one you can get through this, second your a worthy person and third this will not last and that you have a good life outside of your family, one with good friends and caring people. Always remember your a good and worthy person, then look into counseling so that next year you can deal with your family better.
Hope this helps and keep us posted as we do care, many well wishes.
Posted 12/28/2012 1:11 PM (GMT 0)
yur not alone dear, i am the same i feel oddd out in some of my family and sometimes just odd out in the world lol

but over xmas i cried yet a week before i was so excited. i ruin the time for myself i couldnt be human and get excited to open presents i was like a zombie. (bare in mind ive come off cipralex 2 months ago so its a rollercoster at the moment!)
I think we put pressure on ourselves to be happy and perfect at these time when really it is a stressfull time going to se all the family worrying how you behave pretending to be happy 24 7 for them.

I argued with my mum xmas day and it ruined it and stil today im on a downer and considering meds again.

I think you need to talk to someone outside like a counceller or healer spiritual therapist or hypnosis, give it a try and take your time you dont have to feel better asap, its in your own time!

xxxx
Posted 12/28/2012 2:54 PM (GMT 0)
You are not alone. I feel sad too. Not like and outsider but very sad. One of the hardest things is trying not to let everyone else know you are sad. Talking to someone does help.

Hope you are feeling better.
Posted 12/28/2012 3:24 PM (GMT 0)
Hyacinth mae,

One thing I have learned over the past 2 years is that I have boundries that I can set myself and actually try to keep!

Write a list of who did what that started to make you feel uncomfortable. Who took over the kitchen, who took over the drinks, who took over the table? See?

Then in your mind , what could you have done different to avoid feeling left out, run over, ignored. Find the "boundry" points and start setting some with your family members. Next Christmas will be different.

This is not easy, I admit it is hard. Change and growth always is. Small steps, it does not have to be done over night. I took me a year to stop my brother from manipulating me. However I did it.

You can do this, start with the list, see what power points you can come up with.

Stay strong.
Peace
Trina
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