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Posted 2/6/2013 8:06 PM (GMT 0)
hey. it has been 6 month that my mom died and i cant get over it. and although i know many people i am not really the kind of person that talks about themselves and i cant concentrate and i really need to because i have my exams coming up.i have taken depression tests and they all come positive but i dont know wat im supposed to do. i would love to know how i can help myself.

Hey, I gave your thread a title, you will get more responses that way...  Hugs...

Post Edited By Moderator (getting by) : 2/6/2013 2:23:43 PM (GMT-7)

Posted 2/6/2013 9:29 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Lauel101,

Welcome to the forum. I think that the best thing you could do for yourself is talk to your doctor. Let them know that you think you are depressed. See if they will help you to get counseling. Or talk to a counselor at school. The reason you should see your doctor is to make sure it isn't anything else. That way you know what you are dealing with. But any counselor could help you too. Get your priorities in the right order and know that you are traveling the proper route. I think you are.

Grief counseling would help you dealing with losing your mom. And please accept my condolences sweetie, that is hard. You could still be grieving. There is no right or wrong in the way that you grieve, there are no rules for how long it should take or how you act. Grief is hard.

So I would talk to somebody. Get the ball rolling and soon you will be feeling better. Take care, keep posting, and know that we all care about you.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 2/7/2013 12:25 AM (GMT 0)
Lauel101, getting by gave you some great advice.

I do not know what it's like to lose my mother but I can imagine that it is very traumatic. This is an emotion, a feeling that you should probably confront. Although losing her is one of the worst things that could happen in ones life, being depressed forever won't help you and I'm sure that she wouldn't want to see her daughter that way.

Take some time to grieve. Not only do your emotions need to grieve but your body does too. But with grieving, eventually comes acceptance. Accepting that you won't be depressed forever, that even though this pain hurts, and this is one of those pains that will always hurt in a way, you can learn to accept that it's there and live with it.

All of this takes time. Don't expect to feel better tomorrow. Let yourself feel the things that you feel. If your body tells you it wants to cry, let yourself cry. I hope this helps you some.

Is it possible to explain to your teacher that family loss has prevented you from studying for finals and get a possible extension?

- Rainy/DD
Posted 2/7/2013 4:27 AM (GMT 0)
getting by... thank you. in the country i am, we dont have school counsels and i dont wanna trouble my family . they've already been through a lot. my younger sister is only 8 years old and i constantly worry about her and well... i partially blame myself. maybe if i was more caring about my mom, this wouldnt have happened. she had a stroke. maybe it was the stress or her high blood pressure that happend during my birth.
danger dash- i wish i could get an extension. but sadly ,it doesnt work that way. thx, anyways. the quote really helped.
Posted 2/7/2013 11:58 AM (GMT 0)
You can't blame yourself for your mom having a stroke at your birth. My mother tried to blame me for things that happened when she was pregnant or when I was born, but it is nobodies fault. So don't blame yourself.

You need to talk to somebody about grief. It is really important that you understand that process. There are many stages to grief, you could find out what stage you are in.

We have many excuses for not doing things. There is so much we can do for our mental health. If you cant' find anybody to talk to, get a book on the subject and read it. There is so much you can do for yourself.

Hugs, Karen
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