Forgotten and left behind.

I've had depression for a while. I have been doing ok until the last few weeks. I spend a lot of time alone due to health issues and having only one car. My husband has been working lots of overtime and he needs our car, of course.
My grandfather died in October. 2 days after my birthday. He was my person. He taught me to drive and was always was there for me even though I had a rocky time with the rest of my step dads family.
I've also noticed that my grandmother, dad and his new wife and step kids and my sister and her family are having lots of family gatherings without me. I don't get called or invited but I see the pictures on the Internet. Makes me feel like its being rubbed in my face.
My mom and I have issues, too. She's very unreliable and basically abandoned me at 16 to show back up when I was 26. She never takes any responsibility for her actions.
I guess I thought family was forever. My mom actually left me out of thanksgiving this past year. I feel hurt that I can be so easily dropped from so many lives without notice. It makes me want to withdraw even more which I know is the depression but it also feels like it may protect me from feeling so hurt.

Angelic_victory , I can assure you families are not always there for you I found that out myself they will definitely be there for you if they want something that you can be assured of .
What helped myself with my depression and being alone I took up a little project to help someone else and that's what I did I have knitted over 600 little beanies and now over seventy little baby jackets along with booties for the poor people in Cambodia there is a family here in Australia who donate half of their earnings from their garden shop to these people it started with seven families who use to live on a rubbish dump they made ten cents a day scrounging in the rubbish just to buy food .
These people have built homes for them and were teaching them how to grow their own food so they could become self sufficient .
The mothers asked if we could help keep their babies warm as the nights were so cold . There is a few other people who do the knitting also and the day I received a picture of these little babies and children wearing the same little caps we had knitted it helped me so much .
Maybe there is something like that where you live that you can spend some time on. I know I will not rely on my family for anything because I know they only contact me if they want some thing my sister didn't ring me for seven months after she stayed one night at our home next thing I hear she wants me to help her .
I do hope you can find something to help you .
Snowflake
Jane

I decided to try and get some kind of admission of wrongdoing from my mother. I feel like if she just acknowledged that she hurt me, even if accidentally, that I could put it behind me. I know a lot of this is because my grandparents instilled a strong sense of family in me and its hard to accept the state of things.
She is now ignoring me. Which I did expect. She can't ever accept any responsibility. It's affected me all my life and now is the time to finally write her off. It's a sad moment but I'm sure the future where I don't have to protect my kids from their grandmother will be worth it.