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Posted 5/28/2013 9:26 PM (GMT 0)
Well after having two good days after meds were changed, my husband finds out he didn't get the job that he "was sure" he was going to get for two months. He`s been out of work for 4 years! My depression was manageable before that, I was outgoing and had friends. The last 4 years the stress has worn me down and it never gets better. It's never going to end and I can't take it anymore and I hate what it's done to me. I woke up in a good mood, even did some gardening, now I'm back in my bedroom. I see no way out, all my friends have deserted me and I'm struggling to keep a relationship with my husband. I know life isn't fair, but 4 years with no income and my depression is getting to be too much to handle. cry
Posted 5/28/2013 11:17 PM (GMT 0)
Hello CAF,

I can relate to you on this, I haven't worked in four years and my husband is disabled also but still works , he just never seems to get enough hours to survive these days It is so hard, but I would go without everything just to be sure he has his meds and that he eats But I do know how hard it is to not have any real income and to worry about everything that comes with that. I do hope things get better for you soon. And it helps to come here and have others who can relate and talk to you about what you are feeling. These people are wonderful . Hope to see you around the board.
Posted 5/28/2013 11:52 PM (GMT 0)
Hi CAF,

Things do work out. I went through this in my 20's when I was the sole bread winner. But things did get better and I was able to stop working so much. It is hard with all the worries though. I think if you could get your mind off of it, you will feel better though. As Carl pointed out, you are still the same person you were before the news. Nothing has changed. I promise you though, things are going to turn around. Your husband will find a job. You are a strong person and a good person. If things get to be too much, think about counseling. It really does help. It is nice to be able to bounce things off of an impartial person and get good feedback.

Keep trying, know we are all here for you. I am sure you will read many posts of situations similar to yours. Things are tough out there. Work is sparse. But it is there...

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 5/29/2013 11:06 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you everyone and thank you for the laugh Carl, I really needed that this morning! I think one of my biggest problems is even I don't like me! But I know there are no co-host in life and I'm just going to try that much harder th o change. You're absolutely right Carl about being the same person I was in the morning. I'm not naive though, even if my husband were to get a job today, I will still be the same screwed up person that needs to be fixed. I did call a counseling center yesterday and was put on their call list for when there's an opening, will try more today. I think my motto for today is "you can run but you can't hide from yourself" and I need to fix myself to get out of this depression. I'm going to work really hard and this board is going to be an integral part of that, I just hope you all don't get sick of hearing from me too.
Posted 5/29/2013 11:21 AM (GMT 0)
We will never get sick of you CAF!!!

Keep posting sweetie...

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 5/29/2013 12:15 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks Karen..:)
Posted 5/29/2013 12:34 PM (GMT 0)
You are welcome. Hang in there, things are going to get better...

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 6/1/2013 1:28 AM (GMT 0)

Keep Moving Forward said...
Well CAF, that sucks out loud.

I think it's important to remember that you are the same person who woke up in a good mood this morning. Nothing about you has changed, you're still the strong, happy woman you were 8 hours ago, you just had your hopes squashed.

Here's the problem with friends and acquaintances: most of 'em haven't got a clue what to do when the poop hits the fan. There's a litany of empty platitudes, like "Oh you poor dear, everything will be fine", and my personal favorite "I'm sure this will fix itself". Then your friends get freaked out and scared when they realize you have REAL ISSUES. And they hide. You didn't drive them away, they just couldn't handle how real things were getting. In other words, don't blame yourself for their deficiencies.

You do have a way out, it's just gonna take a bit longer than you thought. Your job is to keep treading water until the lifeboat shows up. I can't tell you when that's gonna be, but at some point hubby will get a job, the kids will move out, you'll win the lottery, or you'll find a lamp with a genie in it. So cry, punch pillows, luxuriate in the bath, write in your diary; do what ever you need to do to get back on your feet so you can start treading water again tomorrow.

And tell your husband to get a paper route and take you out with the proceeds.

I'm sorry about your bad news CAF. I guess you gotta be tough for a while longer.

C


Totally relate to what you said to CAF. Especially about friends. They just don't get it. Your post helped me a lot too! Thanks.

Jeff
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