Where can I find the forum for depression in older women

Hey Jazzy

I can only speak for myself but I'm definitely an older woman!! So you are in the right place, Our members are anywhere from teens to us more "mature" ladies.

is there something specific you wanted to assk or discuss? This is a great place (and a life saver for me) to find compassion, advice and a lot of humor.

So please keep posting, I think you'll like it here

Mags

Nancy,

Have you thought about volunteering some where a couple of days a week? It might give you a sense of purpose or belonging. Also the gratification of helping others helps us feel good.

If the counseling isn't helping, maybe you need to let the counselor know or see a different one.

I have fibromyalgia, and I can't do much. So I feel useless some of the time. I am making some winter scarves for the animal shelter to sell on their Christmas Walk in November. It gives me something to do with my hands, I enjoy it, and I make others happy, so that helps me feel better and useful.

It is hard to stop working when we have done it for so long. It is something I think we grieve and we have to adjust. Finding a hobby might help. Or like I mentioned before, changing your counselor. After exhausting all options with the one that you have.

I hope that you feel better soon, and I hope you stick around. We do have people of all ages. So this is a nice place to visit.

Take care and keep posting.

Hugs, Karen...

Nancy, I am also "an older woman" well, younger than you but I no longer work.

As you can see you will find plenty of support here, yes we do get lots of young people, but we have a core group of steady, stable members that are older, a lot have not replied to you, I guess because they have not been on the site.

However, I know for a fact that at least 3 more people experience what you are going through. So hang in there and give yourself some loving kindness and it will help get you up and out!

Dee: Are you have trouble with the major and minor and 7th chords also? I do ok with the simple songs, but the combinded chords are tough! I think I need to take lessons from someone! I can only learn so much from a book!

Peace all
Trina

Mornin' Jazzy

I totally relate to the "paralysis" you have when it comes to doing anything!! For months, the only thing I did was move from my bed to my desk chair 2 feet away. My hubby called it "the big move"-lol

I have suffered treatment resistant depression for 8 years and it gets worse and better, like a cycle. But this past year was the worst. My advice would be this:

Talk to a psychiatrist about your meds. If you have been on them for more than a year, they ain't working. If you get new meds, stick to them for at least 3 months...give them a chance.

If you did not click with your counselor, ask for a new one. My last one sucked (pardon my French) and I stopped going-BIG MISTAKE!

Today, set one small goal (wash dishes or take shower) you will be exhausted but you will feel better

Start a journal-good and bad. I always try to find something to feel grateful for-even if it is just having a roof over your head.

Companionship is critical-could you handle a kitten? Do you have a senior center nearby? AA neighbor?

The bottom line is you will have to reach very deep into your fractured souls and find that last ounce of strength to wash a flippin' dish..you will have to force yourself and it ain't fun or pretty...but you are a wonderful human being who deserves some happiness.

Please keep posting-I care

Love

An old woman Mags

Jazzy and other kind ladies: I just joined tonight and am 70 with same type of challenges as you. I am taking Gabapentin and worried a side effect is more depression. I also take Paxil which is not helping. I do have a new counselor and am feeling some hope. Such a struggle. My heart goes out to you all! It's my first time on any forum so I'm trying to educate myself too. I think we can all relate and hope we can all find some answers to this dreaded disorder! I know it's not Gabapentin or Paxil for me but sm deathly afraid of Gabapentin withdrawal. Can someone advise me about these meds? God bless