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hi tynk,

many of us have family members who do not understand depression and want us to "just snap out of it" or "just be happy". most times that is because they don't understand that depression has some physical causes. some of the brain does not function right in depression. i am not stating this very well. my point is that depression does have physical causes.

i'm glad to hear you are seeing a therapist. that will help a lot. be as honest with him/her as you can. that will go a long way towards the therapy being useful.

i don't know what to tell you about your bf. perhaps encourage him to read up on the physical aspects of depression. sometimes though you just have to accept you aren't going to get support from certain people. i have a good friend who basically doesn't want to hear about it when i am having a hard time.

you say that your mom is addicted to xanax and valium. is she taking them under doctor's orders? some people (like me) need meds to successfully beat depression. it is one of the hard things to accept.

i wish you well.

Display, that was a great post hon... I was really happy to read it.

Display is right, your mother is probably taking these medications because she has anxiety or depression. They can be addicting, but many people need them all of their lives. So try not to be afraid of medications. If our brain chemistry is messed up, we need them to balance things out...

I want to touch a little on the jealousy. The green eyed monster as they call it. I went through being jealous when I was young. It made me feel miserable. It was ugly. I finally decided that if my boyfriend (at that time) and myself were meant to be together we would be. If he was mine, he was mine and if not, well, I just had to accept that and move on. Finally the jealousy went away. It is a terrible feeling to be insecure and jealous. I really want to suggest you think about counseling if you aren't already in it. You can learn ways to boost your self esteem so that you don't feel jealous anymore. It really makes a person ugly. I highly suggest you work on the issue. If you don't want to see a counselor, get a book on it. You can learn ways to feel better about yourself that way.

I notice that your post got edited. I have to let you know that in the rules we aren't allowed to discuss self harm or suicide, so I wont be touching on those issues. I must say it is really sad.

I hope that you feel better soon. Welcome to the forum... I am glad that you found us. Keep hanging in there, do nice things for yourself to make yourself feel good. IT always helps.

Hugs, Karen...

Tynk, it's good that you're considering all aspects of your situation - family history, current living situation, etc. It's certainly frustrating when those closest to us don't quite "get" what we're going through, or minimize the struggle. You want to be able to share your feelings openly, even if it's just to be heard. No one has to try "fix" the problem or completely understand. Maybe your therapist can help you find a way to explain to your boyfriend how this impacts you and how he can best support you.

Your situation is unique, so try not to compare yourself to others. I pray both you and your daughter get the help you need soon. Hugs to you!

Hi Tynk,

Thanks for posting... The Xanax doesn't make you really feel anything other than less anxious. Do you notice anything like that? It will make you sleepy at high doses though. Give the Vistaril some time for the sleepiness to go away. Do you take it in morning or evening? You may want to talk to your doctor about taking it at night if you aren't already. The Lexapro can take six to eight weeks before you notice it. Or I should say until it reaches it's full potential. So be patient...

I am glad that your daughter is doing well and that your therapy (visit,also) went well. And I am most happy to read that you are feeling hopeful. Keep up the fantastic work!

I hope you have a good evening...

Hugs, Karen...