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Posted 4/8/2014 8:38 PM (GMT 0)
Hey Everybody,

I had a great day though I am tired... I got my hair permed and did some grocery shopping, I know it doesn't sound like a lot but it took three hours to do my hair. But I made it!!!

I hope all of you are having a great day today!!! Keep posting everybody!!!

Hugs, Karen... smilewinkgrin
Posted 4/8/2014 10:14 PM (GMT 0)
AWESOME!
Posted 4/8/2014 10:16 PM (GMT 0)
Swam today. Check.

Got some work done. Check.

Helped kids. Check.

Made dinner. Check.

Curled up on the couch. Ouch.

The positives outweigh the negatives! Score one for me.
Posted 4/8/2014 10:24 PM (GMT 0)
Yay!!! You did good!!!
Posted 4/8/2014 11:26 PM (GMT 0)
Hi All-

AV-don't listen to anyone but your pain! You are an adult- you will take it when you need it! Are you feeling any better?

Karen- you sexy thing!! How does your hair look? Do you like it?

Myself- I haven't read your post yet. Going after this. Just sending you love and hugs!

JB- thinking about you!! Any better?

I discovered on my way home, I realized that around people, I fake happiness very well. No one at work even thinks I'm in a slump. Driving home today I was just purely exhausted. I'm physically tired but I'm also emotionally tired from faking it. I don't feel good, I don't feel well, the stupid smile on my face is just fake. It's tiring to fake it all the time.

My back is absolutely killing me these last two days. Muscle relaxers doc gave me aren't touching a thing!! All I want to do is curl up in bed. But, who would go grocery shopping? Who would come home, bring them in, and then put them up? Then, who would cook the food and clean up after it? Well ME is the answer to all those questions. My physical pain is completely affecting my emotional pain. I just want to give up. I don't even have the physical strength to pull myself thru this.

I have had some small victories- I put gas in my car yesterday and I didn't worry about the money- I knew I had it. When I was married, I had to find spare change to put a gallon of gas in my car until I got paid. Sunday, I was able to give my daughter significant amount of money to go toward her prom dress. I'm not rich by any means- but I have a few bucks left in my bank acct prior to each pay period. When I was married, I was always negative in my acct.

I think part of my depression is also the fact that as I recognize the small victories, I realize what a freaking idiot I was my entire marriage. It didn't have to be that way- but he didn't contribute. He just used me financially, emotionally, spiritually, physically...nothing. So I'm beating myself up because hey, who would do it but ME! Lol

Gotta go cook the dinner I bought with the food I brought home and put up! And, I get to do the dishes too! Yay!! Lol!

My love to all- sorry it was so long!
Posted 4/9/2014 1:57 AM (GMT 0)
Karen and JMP, it sounds like you both had a very successful day. Karen, I am jealous! My hair will never hold a curl. I've always liked the look of curly hair.

Michele, have you thought going to an arts and crafts class? Maybe take classes that interest you. You could look into doing some volunteer work, too. For me, I always feel better if I feel like I am accomplishing something. You are such a sweet, kind hearted person. It may be time to see the dr again, too.

The pain isn't as bad as it was yesterday but it still hurts quite a bit. My arm is swollen and red.I had a reaction to my pain pills (they made my vision very blurry, I couldn't read without holding something almost flush with my nose. My dr called in a different one for me. I have never taken more than I should. I am pretty careful about that. My aunt told me to ignore her, too. Its just annoying. I am the only one to check on her and I talk to her at least 3 times a week.

I decided to show a picture of my elbow. I still can't get the hotlink to work, so I will link to the album and ou'll have to copy the address I put up and [aste in your address bar.

http://s71.photobucket.com/user/ascrape83/media/IMG_09941_zpseab12be9.jpg.html?sort=3&o=0
Posted 4/9/2014 2:27 AM (GMT 0)
I don't know where to start. Bad bad bad... Bad day, bad week, bad month. But no apparent reason. I'm 50, I've dealt with depression for years and years. I take my meds (for the most part) most people who know me would never guess I suffer from depression. Even I usually dont think so. I am a happy person. BUT when I get depressed I feel like a different person I can't even remember being happy. I stop talking to people at work, I cry all day. I can't stand it. ***. I feel like I either want to rip my face off or just go to sleep.... That's my day.
Posted 4/9/2014 2:31 AM (GMT 0)
I have to wear the sling until I see him again in a few weeks, He will decide then if it needs more time. The stitches will come out then. He said it could take from 3 weeks to a month and a half. It ended up being a bit more complicated, which is why the incision is so big. He had move the nerve over and down a bit.

The surgeon has called a couple times to check in with me. He wants me to ice it, but I can't ice it long before it starts hurting worse. The incision scared me at first. Its certainly what I had expected. I spoke to his nurse today about the pain medication situation. She said that its ridiculous to expect someone who had surgery less than a week ago to not need anything for pain. She also said that letting myself suffer can slow down my recovery process.

Sorry you looked at my Frankenstein arm. Its very ugly.. I think even Frankenstein wouldn't take it LOL
Posted 4/9/2014 3:23 AM (GMT 0)
HI Izzy, Welcome to the forum. We are happy that you joined us, sorry for the reason though. I hope that you feel better soon...

AV that is a nasty incision. I hope that it heals well soon.

JB I am sorry your mom keeps hounding you about marriage. Stay independent as long as you can. Marry when you are ready. No sooner...

Michele, I love my hair. It takes awhile for me to get use to a change, and they layered it and cut it a little. But it is curlier this way and fluffier. I need color though, I am grey...

I hope you all have a good night. When Jamie posts, I hope he says he got some sleep...

Hi Jamie!!!

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 4/9/2014 5:42 AM (GMT 0)
Hi everyone

Sorry I have been MIA again. So tired and with school starting 5/5/14 I am working on labs! Yikes english is kicking my booty but the math seems to be easier going for me which is strange because I actually failed basic math in high school!!!! LOL

I am glad to see that some of you all are having busy and productive days. For all that do not feel well, I am very sorry and I am with you in spirit so please embrace the troubles and release them.

I will try to be on more, but I can not make any promises, lol

I did get my replacement phone today and I feel like a kid again. LOL I am so silly. I hope to be on here tomorrow but I have so many labs and I have to go shopping for food, boooo!!!!!!!

Well more tomorrow stay well and I have your backs everyone. More soon. Hugs and loves
Posted 4/9/2014 7:54 AM (GMT 0)
thanks for the shout out karen!!!!! i am all good. tired but good. i did cardiac physio today, i stayed on the bike. on the exercise bike i was doing 2 minutes, rest two minutes resume, then i upped the ante and took it to three. all up i did 3.2 kilometers, i was real pleased with my progress. it has been another wet day, and will be for awhile-so it is written. i have my mate in the morning, my gp, john. this will surely be inteesting. ultra-sound results. as per usual, i can't bloody win my eighbur comes over for a loan. it is all god, i get it back tomorrow i just feel that sometimes i am everyones poetable cash machine. i got her a thank you card and a gift, a lovely book mark. i put it in a envelope, i had some plates and bowles to return, so she opened it and was quite surprised. i said thanks about her contacting my partner each day i was in hospital, for looking after buttons and then me for a week.

i guess i am slowly getting there. there are people in the group far more advanced than me, some way behind. expletive it is not a race!!! i just want to be doing as much as possible. at the moment this is it. i will do more when i can. like i said the other day, you can't flog a dead horse. the song horse with no name, sung by america. i've been through the desert with a horse with no name, it felt good to be out of the rain but in the desert no one can remember your name. ummmmmmm, lol. who are you? where am i? what, on-line?? what line. ha ha!!!

sorry stupid tired talk, you get that.
kind regards, me & the fur-ball.
Posted 4/9/2014 11:57 AM (GMT 0)
Hey Jamie, Happy for you...

Have a good sleep...

MissJD, you post when you are able... No worries...

Have a good day...

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 4/9/2014 12:56 PM (GMT 0)
Jamie, that was very kind of you to do something nice for your neighbor. Your gym schedule sounds good. Just don't push yourself too hard. Life is definitely not a race. I really hope you get some sleep.

MissJD, new phones can be fun to figure out. It really sounds like you are busy. Without being in school recently, it may be beneficial to look into new studying habits. It can help.

Izzy, try taking a walk or see a movie or read a favorite book. Do any activity that you really enjoy. That can help clear your mind. It wouldn't hurt to see your dr and see if there is an antidepressant that may work better for you.

JB, I have been icing it as much as I can stand. The ice hurts me, too. I am keeping it elevated, though.

My throat has started swelling shut again. It happens every year so it's not a huge surprise. I have to stay on a liquid diet until the 28th
Then I'll get the dilation done. These side effects stink! My vision is very blurry and am itchy all over. Hopefully, the new medicine he called in won't be so bad. The surgeon called to check on me and I asked him if he thought the pain I'm in is bad enough for pain medication. He said that of he didn't think so he wouldn't have called in to prescribe this new medication. That made me feel better.
Posted 4/9/2014 2:03 PM (GMT 0)
Good morning .....

   It's a chilly morning - for April - at 37-degrees at 7:30am - but the sun is out. Gizmo is starting to act indifferent now to going for a ride. Do dogs get bored???

   Yesterday afternoon was really nicer than expected ... only about 60-degrees but with no wind above 5mph (strange in these parts) and with a warm sun out! Guess who Gizzy saw .... silly question!!! His GF came over while we were sitting outside - and now I know her name .... Jenna!!!! I guess that sounds right for a Yellow Lab!

   AV ..... glad to hear that your doctor seems very attentive - that's always a feeling of comfort. Maybe your grandma should call your doctor (just kiddin)!!!! I can't seem to find that old book "Copy and Paste for Dummies" ... still!!!

   Karen ..... why is it that we're never quite happy with our hair? As a kid, I had curly hair, and all I wanted was straight hair! Then I got a crew-cut. It was then straight, but I couldn't stand that! Glad you're happy with yours though!

   Happy Turtle ...... that's it exactly - don't push the excercises!!! My class is for both Pulmonary and Cardiac - so we probably have similar goals and class procedures - as you say - slow and steady!!!

   MissJD ...... your new home (and future goals) seems to agree with you. Keep it going!

   JB1 ....... My youngest daughter may never get married (although i would like to have her BF as a son-in-law) ... and my oldest daughter may have gotten married too early. She wanted out of the house so bad, she stopped after an Associates Degree and was engaged at 20 and married at 21 + first child at 22!!! Now, at 37 (38 in a couple of weeks) and with two kids (teen or near teen-agers), she is having a hard time finding a good job when her oldest will be going to college in two years - and other things are rocky now!

   Obviously, we all have to make our own decisions .... and i think you're right on with the attitude of "not getting married just to get married)!  

   Izzies Mom ..... welcome ..... vent ..... and you're not the oldest one here! Note - please bring your "sense-of-humor" when you visit here. You may not need it - but ..............!!!!!

   Michele ...... try not to go backwards for two years too often! I know - easy to say! But, some day, you'll find value in those two years - if you haven't already! Ever try an "icey hot patch" on your back? I have had a bad shoulder - and i will be on my 4th day of using that type of patch today. It has helped to relieve pain and allowed me to use some excercise equipment with little pain.

   jmp1969 ..... more positives than negatives is always good. But .... just recognizing positives is even better ... on some really bad days!

Notes: besides continuing on my tax back-up research and organizing, it's gonna be a pretty good day here. I have Pulmonary excercise at just past noon - but today before that, a speaker is supposed to be coming in at the Wellness Center for a short pep talk - then cake/coffee (before excercising-?).

   Then tonight, I'm going to aplace I used to go to monthly - but stopped 1-1/2-years ago. I'm meeting a few people for the "burger night" they have there. Huge ground sirloin burgers grilled/smoked on a hickory burning grill and they add a great mild pepper-jack cheese from Wisconsin to it. Ouuuu - yum!!!!

   Enjoy "hump day'!!!!

Rob & Gizmo

  

  

     

Posted 4/9/2014 2:23 PM (GMT 0)
AV Does your throat swell up due to allergans? I know you have an esaughagus problem. I hope that you can handle the liquid diet for now.

Hey Rob, sounds like Gizmo had a good morning seeing his girlfriend... That is awesome...

I hope everybody has a good day today...

Peace out!!!

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 4/9/2014 2:50 PM (GMT 0)
It's a disorder that causes my white blood cells attack my esophagus. So far, no one has found it to be related any allergy. It usually happens once a year. I'm seeing a different GI dr about it. My old one was extremely rude.

At first it feels like acid reflux, then moves to a sore throat, and then good starts getting stuck. I have to flush it down with water. Sometimes I throw up because food was stuck. It's a weird throw up. It's foamy and very pale.

Rob, it's kind of funny because this past weekend she asked if she could have one of pain pills. She fell and hurt her knee. I thought that was a bit hypocritical. I'm very jealous that you get to eat all that good food while I'm living off soup and jello. Eat some for me!
Posted 4/9/2014 3:41 PM (GMT 0)
I'm feeling okay I think.

Bad thoughts doesn’t bother me anymore because I’m getting better at focusing in happy thoughts.
Bad family and bad people are far, far away from me and it feels good.
My boyfriend and dog put a smile in my face every time I look at them and sometimes I feel happy.

Had a training program for 3 days with 35 people in a hotel on a different city. I suppressed my need to be alone and on my third day I was clearly feeling anxious for some ME time but besides feeling exhausted after, I spent a fascinating time and learnt a lot.

My life remains the same but I’m turning into a different person and I’m working for a different life too. I’m starting to see the world as an opportunity and not hell.

Today is a good day tongue
Posted 4/9/2014 4:52 PM (GMT 0)
Diniki,

I am happy for you and that you are having a good day!!!

Keep up with the positives!!!

Hugs, Karen...

AV That sounds so annoying. I don't know how you cope so well with things. But I am glad that you do. How is your elbow today???
Posted 4/9/2014 5:16 PM (GMT 0)
Everyone has problems. I have had to give up some things but it just makes me more creative in accomplishing my goals. The throat thing causes a lot if aggravation. I have to tell anyone running tests that my white count is high because of my issue. Then there's the reflux. Sometimes it takes weeks or it could be the next day but then I notice that it hurts to swallow solid foods. That progresses to good getting caught. That hurts like hell. The dilation (the inflate a balloon in my esophagus to open it back up) seems to be effective.

I think I may rolled to my right side in my sleep (it's the right elbow that was operated on). It hurts more than yesterday. I'm iving and keeping it elevated. I'm also taking my pain medicine. I know how much pain I'm in so no one else's opinion is valid. My friend said that he thinks I'm trying to clone come a cyborg. Lol
Posted 4/10/2014 4:17 AM (GMT 0)
thx rob. seen the foc. all results clear, all of them. doc does not believe in any psych correlation. he explained the role of the fluid tablet and the nocturia tablet, sitting, laying down and the welling of the bladder etc. he is a smart cookie. will see him after easter. i said i am still ok for travel, june - july he said we'll see. i thought expletive!!! am still thinking it. we are going for a extra nocturia tablet at lunch and dinner, they are slow release after all. got the hosoital pharmacy tomorrow to pick up some lamictal. am buggered, going for a kip. take care my hw army.

the battle commences..............
ATTACK!!!! FIRE AT WILL!!!!!
Posted 4/10/2014 5:43 AM (GMT 0)
Hi everyone,

JMP- Good work on the positives, keep up the good work!

Mustang- Do not fake it anymore my friend. I quit making my world seem all rainbows and sunshine, that was just too much work. Express yourself and be true to you.

JB- Good for you being single is really not that bad. I love it and I choose to stay single because I have a better time not being with someone that could cause drama for me. I love my singledom. lol

A/V- Yikes I am sorry about your reaction to the pain killers. I hope that your arm feels better soon too that has been going on for a while. Stay well and do what the doc says to do.

Izzie's mom- I do the very same thing when I am depressed, when i do get that way I go for a drive or talk to a friend, just to vent it all out. We are all here for you hun, express yourself.

Karen- Hi Hun, I am so happy that you got your hair done, I need to get mine done soon. I have been so busy lately and that is the last thing on my mind at the end of the day.

Jamie- You are right, this is not a compatition, so take your time, you are doing awesome. Luv you Jamie

Rob- My youngest niece is named Jenna and she is a golden blonde!!!! LOL Thank you Rob I feel like I have been going a million miles an hr for the last 2 weeks. lol man I am tired.......

Well I am going to bed, been up since 5am Cali time and I did take my first summer swim today so I am beat. I also passed another skills test today after the 5th try!!!! so happy. Good night and be safe.
Posted 4/10/2014 6:03 AM (GMT 0)
There is no simple fix is there. Everyone has problems. Some are easily fixed and others require time.

It's comforting reading some of these posts knowing people are 'fixing' themselves.

-Jimmy
Posted 4/10/2014 6:15 AM (GMT 0)
we are all here for each other jimmy. a big welcome to you. remember my mantra on the forum and in life 'slow and steady wins the race'.

missjd, aw, love & hugs 2 u. :-)
Posted 4/10/2014 6:20 AM (GMT 0)
I just really love the way this forum is. we're all here for each other, just like a huge family.

all of us always has each other's backs here jimmy.
Posted 4/10/2014 6:41 AM (GMT 0)
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