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Posted 8/30/2014 4:11 PM (GMT 0)
My best friend just moved yesterday, after 6 months of prepping for it. & I have to admit something ugly...

I'm annoyed that she is in such great spirits with her move. Everything is "perfect." Now, she just moved yesterday but she's overly happy.. And I'm not. And that makes me angry, annoyed & confused. Would I want her miserable, no way! But I'm being selfish and want her to shed a tear. She didn't even cry when we hugged goodbye or when she walked outta her house for the last time

I'm also aware she's in "ground zero" & has her "emotional safety goggles" on as a means of emotional protection. She even said so herself "I can't cry. I have my shield up." She's been SO strong through this whole process and me a mess and I'm envious of her strength.

But now I'm questioning if I'm borderline personality disorder bc I'm feeling this way. Neurotic I know.... Jeez

Jus venting. I'm honestly not a jerk! smilewinkgrin
Posted 8/30/2014 4:36 PM (GMT 0)
I think it is normal for you to be sad over this. I don't think you have any borderline personality disorder. And I think she really did put up a shield. She probably cried all the way to her destination. I am sure she is saddened by leaving you.

Can you two Skype? I think that would be awesome for you to do. Know that no matter how far away she is, you will always be good friends. Even if you don't see each other much. A friendship is a bond, that you will most likely carry for the rest of your life...

Hang in there Lisa... Things do get easier with time...

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 8/30/2014 11:55 PM (GMT 0)
Just because she moved does not mean your friendship will end our become less strong.

You just wont see each other as often.

Hope you feel better soon.

Peace and strength
Trina
Posted 9/1/2014 4:27 AM (GMT 0)
Dear Lisa--

It's completely understandable why you'd feel the way you do. She's the one moving to a new place, possibly exciting to her, new job prospect?, lots of "new"...so it makes sense that she'd be the happier of the two of you. BUT, as Karen said, I bet she shed her share of tears after leaving.

Keep in mind that she'll be pretty busy unpacking, etc. for a bit--so you might want to make the first phone call!

Now is a good time to busy yourself with some winter cleaning (?) or going through those files or starting a collage--maybe as a Christmas gift for your friend!

Take care--
Jan
Posted 9/3/2014 7:51 AM (GMT 0)
healing thoughts i send. i was dx with severe borderline personality disorder many moons ago.
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